No one wants to talk?

AmberUKAmberUK
in General

Been on and off the site for a few months now. I am really struggling to find someone local (Hampshire UK) and someone who actually wants to chat before meeting up. A lot of people on here will message me with wanna cuddle and then the next message is them trying to set up a time to meet. I have tried dropping the age I am interested in, but after months its just meh.

Am I the only one wanting to chat before a cuddle? Also some people have very strange ideas of local, and I work 50 hours of nights so really that is important to me.

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  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    There was just recently a topic here about whether people want to talk to their cuddle pro before meeting. While you're not a pro, the reasoning for doing so still applies. You can certainly mandate in your profile a pre-meet Zoom call or something like that. If they're not willing to help you feel comfortable, they're not worth your time.

  • SouthrnhugsSouthrnhugs

    I'm a professional yapper so I'm always down to chat. Most people are not.

  • starrynitecudsstarrynitecuds
    edited November 2024

    Even with my very prickly profile, I still get, "Hi I wanna cuddle with you," as an opening line. It's not just you.
    I usually keep my profile on mute and reach out to those who interest me. That helps to establish the tone more, too. The nice guys here don't mind at all, but chatting with an enthusiast can still be awkward for some. From what I've been told, they are used to the money/transactional part being most of the conversation, so that may explain a bit, too.

  • lovingspoonfulllovingspoonfull

    I like to talk first. But I run into the whole spectrum, from don’t waste my time just tell me when you want to meet, to let’s talk until I get a vibe then I’ll tell you I’m ready, to let’s just chat forever because I am not sure I’m really into this.

    After all theee interactions I’ve landed on chat enough for both of us to feel like it’s a good idea, and I’m perfectly happy to chat with interesting people even if we never meet (due to geography, conflicting schedules, whatever).

  • friendlyj311friendlyj311

    I prefer to talk first. It's a must so you know if the session is going to be enjoyable for both parties involved. I'd say pass on the ones that won't and just keep searching. I know it's frustrating, but you'll find the right ones eventually. Good luck and happy cuddling. Sending virtual cuddles 🤗🫂

  • [Deleted User]galaxyyes (deleted user)
    edited November 2024

    Attracting what you want is all about intention.

    In this limited medium of words and pictures, it's helpful when a profile states your requirements and/or concerns. You can be precise or suggestive by listing expectations or sharing likes and dislikes, respectively, or something in between that suits your style.

    Also browse other profiles and note the ones you like. If you want your profile to have a similar effect, fill the gap with their vibe in your words.

    Lastly, be chatty if you want to chat. Say enough and be engaging that folks can find some viewpoint to launch from and dive into a conversation with you. It's your relationship starter, so feel free to demand a report on your favorite book before meeting if you like! 🤓

    Your profile is just a slice of yourself; if anything, the part you want to share. If you want someone to bite give them something to chew on! 🍰😋

    Best of luck to you! 🤗

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