Wait!! When we've mentioned the term "Window Shopping," it was ONLY meant as a metaphor or analogy for the idea of just peeking in on others, without any promise, just because there was something about their profile/comments/pictures that was interesting!!! PLEASE don't feel that it implies anything sexist or demeaning. That wasn't the point, at all!! We women look at you fellas, too....but not with the idea of objectifying or devaluing you as human beings. No, we just find something about you interesting and wish to investigate! Woooo... That sounds fun!! lol
I don't know about anyone else, but having someone peek in, with a generic, curious interest, most likely doesn't seem like they're being "creepy"--- especially from the consensus reached by what's been shared in this thread, it's more likely that people are merely curious and wishing to take a closer look. We're here hoping to find compatible cuddle matches... We're human. We like to look at each other!! lolol I'm glad!!
And as far as the hateful, mean-spirited, incendiary comments made toward me that WERE NOT REMOVED--while my stating my unwillingness to be verbally abused were-- got it.... I said what I said..
@Homesteader after reading the last paragraph, is there a double standard between how the site treats pros and enthusiasts ?
I saw an eye catching picture and I went to give the pro a compliment saying i adored her profile pic and their response was, “are you wanting to hire me?”
🙃
No sis, I just wanted to give you a compliment. -.-
@MajesticMango I personally think it’s weird when other pros reach out saying similar things. I mean the whole point of messaging is to book with someone, so I too get confused. It’s kind of like if men wanted to just drop by and say “lovely picture”, I wouldn’t want that either.
I am here to cuddle. But does it have to be only that? If yes then cancel the forums which will spare everyone my sleep deprived posts. 😀
I’ve also embraced the idea that there are cool people here that I enjoy interacting with, regardless of whether we ever cuddle.
I have met a few people that don’t welcome that though and I just respect their wishes.
Most of the lovely people I converse with here I will likely never meet in the real world so I embrace the connections I make with folks and if we are meant to cross paths and boop snoots then we are just two old friends meeting up to spend time together
@MajesticMango If I am moved enough by something that I see or read on a profile that I really like, then I will send a brief message--- and let the chips fall where they may.
Most people are very kind and respond with at least a "thank you."
And that makes it worth doing.
I've had several pros respond to my messages with a very curt "don't message me if you aren't going to pay me." Ugh. Thankfully some actually respond nicely and don't treat me like a bank.
@Ihavenoidea2 I'm just impressed that you are 110 years old
@Mike102 ~ I've always been an enthusiast. I can't honestly speak to a difference in treatment between us and pros on the site..
@MajesticMango ~ "...that it was in your heart to do.." You're not responsible for the response/reaction others have--- only for the heart behind what YOU chose to do. I hope that snarky response doesn't prevent you from acting on such impulses in the future!! I like giving compliments, too!
@lovingspoonfull ~ "I am here to cuddle." << Say that!!! lol No, it doesn't and WON'T be only that, thankfully! The forums are sort of like a central fire in a camp... We get to virtually "hang out" and interact when we wish to. And you'll occasionally have people with whom you don't agree, and that's fine, too. We're human, right? Thanks for respecting the wishes of those who don't welcome this sort of interaction, though. Just know that your sleep-deprived posts are a joy to some of us!! lol
@pmvines ~ "two old friends meeting up to spend time together.." Well put! I find it amazing that I feel such closeness with people whom, like you said, I will most likely never meet. I would never have believed that this was possibly, before participating here! "Boop snoots"!!! lol Fun fact: You and Littermate were instrumental in my mustering up the courage to join, so many years ago! Thank you!
@Ihavenoidea2 ~ It IS nice when the responses are pleasant and courteous. Hopefully these outweigh the others!
So many different, unique reasons, insights, ideas... This is one of the reasons this place can be so fun! lol
Hey, Folks, thanks for all the input. I was just wondering, and now I've got plenty of food for thought...
Moving on to a new thread about "Minimalism"!!! lol
@Homesteader You and @littermate are both on my list of people who I hope to snoot boop
Nope, didn’t steer me away from reaching out to other fellow pros just to drop a compliment☺️ I still do it and I’ll continue to do it.
In my eyes, their response is a reflection of them and what they bring to the community.
@MajesticMango ~ THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS. I'm GLAD that you have the autonomous sovereignty needed to refrain from allowing others' nonsense to keep you from expressing that which comes up, organically, within your own heart! Power to you for following YOUR OWN dictates!! LOVE this!! Thank you for answering--- my own heart is encouraged by your Self-Validation!!!!!!!!!
@pmvines ~ You know who you are to me. I'm genuinely glad to know that you exist!!! Your encouraging words, kindness, and humble ability to tolerate differences was, as I said, part of what made me feel safe with joining this site. I'm STILL grateful for you... I happily look forward to booping snoots with you, someday!!!