@Williwarm hey buddy Montreal doesn’t have many professionals let alone enthusiasts. It’s just not a very big scene. I’ve met with 3 professionals on CC in Montreal but they are all now off the site. It would be great if it was a bigger, especially with the cold in MTL. But on a positive note it didn’t snow much last winter there! Bon chance!
@ZigOutside thank you for your positivism!
@NikkiFM wow, you just made my day 😂 thanks
@jimmylee yeah I feel you. As you said, live and learn. Life is all about that right?
@Ironman294 yes, you have a good overview of this area!
I'm producing a lot of heat haha then I hope I can share some soon. ^^
@WriterGF Okay, that's a valid point about a massage.
@Williwarm I would steer clear of any advice from @jimmylee unless you want to deter more women.
If someone messaged me asking for a restaurant suggestion on here - I would tell you to check out Yelp, or just block you. Just because we’re kind, and generous doesn’t mean we care to waste our time so you can test the waters to get a response to then request to cuddle. These pick up attempts don’t work, because they are so obvious and weird.
You don’t really need a woman to remind you that wherever you are in the US, a McDonald’s is close by?
@Williwarm Thanks. I appreciate it. Seriously, be yourself. From what I've been told by my cuddle buddies part and present, being genuine goes a long way. At the end of the day, you want to cuddle with someone who wants to be there with you. The real you - not some manufactured, manipulated, wordsmithed shadow of who you are.
You're a man - you're not going to get anything without paying unfortunately. It's just how things balance.
Wow! These discussions sure get interesting when you show up late to the party!
I would TOTALLY cuddle with you; you obviously have taken some of the suggestions to heart because I see nothing about massage or sex on your profile. Kudos for that.
I would much prefer that random people stopping thru town ask me for advice on a place to eat, than ask to cuddle that same day. I'll answer you, even if I'm not willing to cuddle.
Unfortunately it DOES seem like there's more female pros out there than enthusiasts, but we do exist. I think there's just a lot of women who think if they're willing to do it, why not get paid?
Neither one of those last two things pertain to your post tho. It looks good now so I'm hoping you have better luck. If not, make the trek to Wisconsin! 😊
@SquishyJackie What a sweet, thoughtful response. You give CC a great name. Happy cuddling.
@NikkiFM Don't worry, it's not my style to do this kind of thing and I want to stay true to myself. ^^ I'm just open to learning from others' experiences, and I appreciate having your opinions here, with respect.
@SquishyJackie Wow, you're so sweet! Thank you for your comment. ^^ Wisconsin is a little bit far from where I live, but we never know. :P See you around!
Two things:
1) Your face pic is in your profile is rather serious. I'd post a more welcoming smiling pic.
2) In one of your cuddle drawings, the man is resting his hand on the woman's thigh/buttocks area. In the normal world, this shouldn't be a big deal. In CuddleComfort world, where most women are highly triggered by even the vaguest hint that you might have something sexual on your mind, and every man is by default seen as extremely guilty until proven innocent, that's probably a major faux pas.
To make you feel better: I've been on this site over three years and haven't cuddled with anyone. In the good old days of Craigslist, in that same timeframe I would've met several dozens of women. But I don't do paid cuddling. :-}
@Williwarm Minus the above comment you've gotten some pretty good feedback. Good luck.
@pmvines what's wrong with @FitSmartCuddler comment?
I didn’t pay a bit of attention to that cuddle pic, all cuddling drawings look fine imo. I think the changes you’ve made to your profile look great @Williwarm
In CuddleComfort world, where most women are highly triggered by even the vaguest hint that you might have something sexual on your mind
Being dismissive of people's experiences and their desire to be safe is really not a good look.
"Being dismissive of people's experiences and their desire to be safe is really not a good look."
Did I say something that wasn't accurate??
@Williwarm your profile looks great! If you were in my area I’d definitely reach out to have a session (not paid). Just keep trying and know this can be a very supportive community once trust is built. Best of luck to you!!
@FitSmartCuddler Thanks for your advices and for your encouragement. ^^
@pmvines & @g_w_t_w I appreciate your feedbacks!
@kleen thanks a lot! Looking at all the answers I got, I'm sure that the vast majority of people are here for the good reasons, and I'd definitely agree to have a session with you too! ^^
It's the getting together and being close and vulnerable and navigating the feel goods and keeping it platonic that's difficult. So naturally there is going to be more attention paid to potential red flags and more stringent vetting to make sure the other person is on the same page and that they are safe to share space and emotional labor with.
@pmvines 👍👍👍👍
You won’t find any woman enthusiasts.
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@Midnight01 Lol! 😆 Nope, you sure won't find any Enthusiasts...Zero. Zilch. Nada! Cuddle Enthusiasts? What the heck are those? 😱
How does one even get in contact with an Enthusiast? Especially a WOMAN Enthusiast, cuz wow... It's like why bother, right?!🤷☺️
Geez! 😆
They must be make believe (or something imaginary) here on Cuddle Comfort. Lol 😂 😆
You're SO right about that! @Midnight01 😁👍
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There’s not many users in my local area either. I’d guess that a lot of them are not even real accounts. You’ve got accounts that have been here for years with zero reviews and sporadically come on once a fortnight.
I understand there may not be many users but having a selection of people in your area that totally ignore you and don’t engage is a bit suspicious.
Surely they’d check out the profile and some would reply. Not all accounts are fake but the ones that are are pretty obvious. Why are you on here for ten years with zero reviews and not interacting with anyone?
I find it hard to believe with supposedly everyone here for cuddles that people are getting ignored. That doesn’t make any sense 🤷🏾♂️
Although there are defo some that do ignore…
Anyway, when did being so rude become acceptable? Do you just blank people who talk to you in the street? There’s bo obligation to be kind and respond but there’s also no obligation to treat people rudely and like they are insignificant and invisible.
@Williwarm There are plenty of men who have found and continue to find some great cuddle friends on here. Don't let the piss and moaners deter you. Misery loves company so the ones who aren't happy with things are going to be the loudest. And more often than not they are the ones who are the problem as to why they have not been finding cuddle friends but they lack insight so they blame it on the women and project the very vibes that repel others. You are doing good by asking for feedback.
@FitSmartCuddler I'm sure that for you it was accurate. Don't you worry about it. You just keep up that look.
I've found that the females on the site can be slow to respond, probably due to the high number of messages received. I tend to contact a pro I'm interested in with a simple complimentary message, well before proposing a date, in hopes to breaking the ice and giving them the time they need to respond. The ones who respond quickly or with great energy are typically somewhat interested. Hope this helps 🤞🏾
@CuddlyKind7 The women you're contacting could have 200-300 messages in their inbox and never even see yours. Male enthusiasts outnumber female enthusiasts here by something like 16 to 1.
I disagree with the "you won't find any women enthusiasts."
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@jimmylee Thank you, so do I. It gets pretty silly reading comments like that on these sort of topic threads.... Eh, it is what it is.🤷😏☺️
There are plenty of men who have found and continue to find some great cuddle friends on here. Don't let the piss and moaners deter you. Misery loves company so the ones who aren't happy with things are going to be the loudest. And more often than not they are the ones who are the problem as to why they have not been finding cuddle friends but they lack insight so they blame it on the women and project the very vibes that repel others. You are doing good by asking for feedback.
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@pmvines
@Katota What is also pretty silly is the resentment they have towards the women who don't contact them and then get on the forums with misogynistic and angry attitudes about it because they blame the women who dont respond while refusing to consider making any changes that might help their situation. It's a breeding ground for hateful incel development.
Woah please... my intention was not to start an argument here. I blame no ones outside of me, that's why I called that post 'Am I the problem?'. I read all your messages, I listened to your advices and I made some changes.
@pmvines I really appreciate your positivism! ^^
I obviously expected my experience here to be very 'random', but I certainly didn't expect it to be so 'quiet'. Again to be clear, I blame no ones. Some days are just harder for me...
I received a lot of support here and I'm grateful for it. Thanks everyone!