@DavidJH
Pushing someone to do something there not comfortable with, definitely would NOT be respecting their boundaries which is Vital in cuddling I think that Everyone's boundaries should be respected whether female, male, straight or not
Pushing someone to do something there not comfortable with, definitely would NOT be respecting their boundaries which is Vital in cuddling
I think that Everyone's boundaries should be respected whether female, male, straight or not
I'm confused. What did I say that prompted this response?
I suspect that I misunderstood you, but when You mentioned that you've been following this thread closely and categorized it and then you said as for me I'll choose the bear, I took it like you weren't happy with men
But I did also see that you will be cuddling a man soon, so I guess I'm still not understanding the first part
@DavidJH I was just making a joke, referencing another contentious topic from not long ago. Unrelated to that, though, is that it's only recently I've been comfortable enough around any men to consider cuddling them. In the past, I would have had to overcome a lot of conditioning to not be seen as gay. That, at least, is no longer a problem now.
but what are bears in this context?
A really bad football team that actually needs a platonic hug and to be reassured everything will be alright.
@IronLemon, ah ok, it's SO hard to pick up jokes in text 😂
I'm glad to hear that for you, and I respect that you are forthright about it
@IronLemon
As for me, I'll choose the bear.
Why did you feel the need to insult a large group of people indiscriminately?
Well, at least I'm not discriminating.
@IronLemon Please answer.
@billiam Ask a question that makes sense.
@billiam With respect, this has already been gone over and over in the original Man vs. Bear topic. Rehashing it here will just get the thread locked.
Whoever said biology is wholly unaware of platonic cuddling is glaringly, and demonstrably wrong.
@WriterGF Why did you choose to address me instead of the person who started the contentious subject with a large, indiscriminate insult? I'm not trying to debate the question. Just why the insult was introduced.
@IronLemon My question is logically sound.
And I have been respectful here. I'm genuinely curious, and I have the right to ask, why an insult was thrown my way.
@billiam In what way were you insulted?
@billiam why didn't you ask me? I for no reason chose the bear. It's a hypothetical situation and there are valid reasons answer they way they do but fortunately they likely won't have to choose. But in my opinion the only logical answer is the bear. You know the bear means you no harm. People you never really know.
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@billiam Because I already knew why she mentioned it - it was a joke referring to a past topic of contention on here -- you implying you were insulted was what was going to turn it into yet another fight. It's easy enough to go search out the original thread and read through it. And, frankly, if you are insulted by the reference, blame the TikTok video that started it all, in which 7 out of 8 women said they would prefer the bear.
In respect for the thread and OP's desire to read answers to her question, I will drop it. There has been some honest, well-intentioned discourse. Hopefully, that will continue.
@ReltvlyCanshes I've read enough of your comments over the past year to feel that your comments come from a helpful place.
I'm not interested in a debate or in changing anyone's opinions. I was just curious. The inability/unwillingness to answer my question is answer enough for me.
Because we’re not interested in it?
She probably just doesn't want the thread locked, plus she's answered this already in the original thread.
@billiam Very well, the answer to your question is that I didn't insult anyone. I have no idea what made you feel insulted, so all I can figure is that you misinterpreted a joke and decided it was something targetting you.
There's been a tik tok trend where women say they'd choose a bear over a man.
How I intrepeted is was Iron Lemon was merely playing off that joke. Because right after she talked about going to cuddle with her first man.
She's just joking folks, try not to jump all over her thread!
Unrelated to that, though, is that it's only recently I've been comfortable enough around any men to consider cuddling them. In the past, I would have had to overcome a lot of conditioning to not be seen as gay. That, at least, is no longer a problem now.
I admire your courage to speak on this. Makes me want to have the courage to speak my view of why I only cuddle with women. I'll think about it first so it comes out coherent.
Women are “wired” a certain way also, right? Women don’t want anything forced on them either. Each person tends to understand what feels comfortable or not. Let’s at least respect that autonomy. I get that that @theCuddleDrgn is really trying to help and has a perspective that’s maybe idealistic but ultimately people get to choose what they want and I usually ignore the “shoulds” in the forum. No one really knows me, not even my closest friends or family.
I think I'd rather they choose the bear
@gingerroot lol and you get to choose! I personally would choose a man over a bear in the wild. I can reason with a man. But I wish I could find a friendly non-biting polar bear to cuddle.
Most men make me feel ick. Can't control that. sorry !
@SuperManCuddles I love what you wrote. Being objective and not attaching pre-conceived ideas is a healthy practice but not always easy.
Some feedback for some cuddlers who want to make Cc more appealing for female enthusiasts. Perhaps consider Ask yourself the following:
What am I doing to cater my profile to the female cuddler gaze aka Are you creating a profile with female cuddlers in mind?
Do you include pictures in your profile that are clear and well lit?
@g_w_t_w 💯 Thank you!🎉
@SuperManCuddles Cool shirt.
@gem7 Thank you! I appreciated the transparency of you’re first post. I had to battle social conditioning, it took me a while to admit that I had cuddled a man before too but this site really helped me discuss it with a bigger audience. I also agree that everyone has a right to chose who they will and will not cuddle! Thank you @Mike102 for sharing you’re experience and views as well!