The fact that other female enthusiasts are "picky", "non-responsive", "rude" or any of the other lovely adjectives in this thread is probably why I get so many requests from as far away as FINLAND! I doubt either of us will make the 10,500 mile round trip to cuddle, but he is an interesting man as are many of the people I meet here. I have had cuddlers visit Dallas for work or family from Atlantic, Pacific, and the Great Lakes.
From some of the very creepy interactions I have had, I can understand why many women can seem distant or difficult to engage (enthusiasts and pros alike). I am now also concerned about the "too good" profiles. Recently, I had someone who seemed genuinely interesting and normal turn out to be a fake profile when I did a search on a photo he shared. Within 5 minutes of reporting him as a fake profile, I received a demand for $7k with a threat to destroy my reputation by posting to specific neighbors and family members that I was meeting strange men in hotel rooms. This was a first for social media blackmail, but it is the 4th overtly fake profile.
@Gwynne42 so sorry to hear of this horrific outcome. Glad to hear that you haven't thrown in the towel.
@Gwynne42 that is awful and scary. Thank you for sharing and for being so raw. I hope men are listening to your words on how to be and how not to be. You are a brave woman.
Do any guys find it easy to find non-Pro woman to cuddle with?
Nah, non-Pro women cuddlers don't exist on Cuddle Comfort. 😜🍿
We Cuddle Enthusiasts, are simply imaginary!😁
sarcasm 101
Kind of a generalization but I’ve learned from the forum that Men seem very willing to share their bodies, while women are more protective of their own.
It's not the hardest when they are there. New one show up every few weeks but they just don't stay. I think if i were to really push to get that cuddle with new ones it be easier, i kind of let them settle and decide
I rarely really see people ask : how do I improve myself to make my profile more appealing to the non pro woman cuddlers on this site. Might be worth exploring…..
I said a while ago non pros hardly if ever respond and got attacked by the usual board click. The reality is the non Pro’s in the Bay Area do not respond. The typical excuse is they have 1000 messages from guys. Or it’s my fault they don’t respond lol. Unless they even look at the forum it doesn’t matter if you post here or not. Most people don’t even come over to the forums anyways.
@Kense Your profile isn’t even filled. And you don’t have a picture of yourself on your profile. I wouldn’t have responded to your profile back when I wasnon pro for those reasons.
I’ve cuddled with dozens of pro’s and been here longer than you have . If somebody wants a photo they ask and I send, questions? They ask I answer. Filling out a profile really means nothing because it doesn’t prove or confirm anything. Many enthusiasts and Pro’s don’t even have photos themselves. That’s not an excuse .
@jimmylee I've seen your repeated boasts in the forums how you converted/turned pros to give free services. It feels ick and would be an insult to me if I were approached in that manner.
@Kense Pros are a different story. Many will respond just because there's money at the end of it. Can't really compare that to enthusiasts, who tend to be incredibly choosy. You also have no karma, which doesn't help.
Personally I don’t ask for Karma, I also rarely or don’t leave Karma. Karma is a joke 99% of the time. I’ve seen a lot of fake Karma just reciprocated because somebody else said something nice. The thing is Pro’s respond to me quickly . I have zero issue booking pro’s , yes money is involved but it goes to show you it’s not about the profile or lack of photo . I provide that when asked. Most pro’s went strait in without any cuddling prior . There is no difference other than the ask for money. So what is the issue other than money?
Getting paid doesn't automatically make everything safe. So because they are now Pro’s , everything is fine?
To be clear I don't even waste my time with enthusiasts anymore anyways. Just I always see this topic pop up and tend to respond with my experience
I’ve found plenty of non pro women to cudddle with but not on cuddle comfort lol
@Morpheus And aren’t you married? Maybe my memory is wrong. I know you have quite a history here! lol.
@Kense You're absolutely right about one thing - profiles can certainly be false. Then again, answers to posed questions can be lies too.
There is not really a statistically significant number of women who are enthusiasts vs. those who are pros.
@WriterGF absolutely, I’ve cuddled with a few Pros in the past that had a ton of positive Karma and when I booked them I found out why. They were banned eventually.
I didn’t read the whole thread.. Non pro woman.. No chance.. too much time to be spent on impressing and I couldn’t or probably they might get too many requests that they have too much choice.. is a good problem for them.. I am not sure if non pro woman think this site is beyond cuddling or looking for perfect match. No offense, but it just doesn’t work. Even an invitation for coffee is rejected 🤔😢😢🤯🤯
I don't even bother to look four non pros.
Non pro female here. I’m still new here but have started to make some great connections. But as others have suggested my inbox gets flooded with messages. Lots of them. And I will prioritize members who have info filled out on their profile and a message that actually invites a conversation. It’s nice to see Karma but I definitely don’t rely on it. Mostly it just shows you have actually met up with someone. (Pics are nice but I get not wanting to have that up. I don’t have mine up for the public either.)
I ignore one line messages. Here are just a few examples of one line messages I’ve received and I hope it explains why I ignore them: “I’d like to schedule a session” (I’m not a pro and you didn’t read my profile at all) “Got any pics you can send me” “Hello gorgeous/beautiful/etc.” “Are you available on (this date) cause I’ll be in town then.“
People who message me with a little bit of info about themselves, what they want to get out of cuddling, and questions to get to know me get responses.
Is it easy to meet non-pro cuddlers? No. In almost four years I have yet to cuddle with one. I used to advertise to meet women on Craigslist for all sorts of platonic activities and sometimes mild intimacy like cuddling or massage (I never meet up with strangers for sex). In that same four-year time period on Craigslist, I might have met 40 or 50 women, maybe more. Never had a bad experience because I always have good communication and respect desires and boundaries. None of that is helping me here, however.
I just a had woman message me and say that my profile is one of the best she's seen. She seems nice, but she's a pro and charges $200/hr. If she had been an enthusiast I think I would've fainted from the shock. :-}
@g_w_t_w yes I am and what does my marital status have to do with anything?
I really have come to learn no matter a pro or an enthusiast there is not a response rate that acceptable. But the fact of the matter is i do believe that enthusiast respond if they stay enthusiast or stay on the site. Same for pros the large number of people that join are gone with in a week. If they last and have been intentions of platonic cuddling they will interact. But the ones that only come for a buck usually either get banned real quick, or just delete. This ain't a friendly site, no matter what you all choose to believe of yourselves. Most people are going to ask for exactly what they want and if it doesn't align with what the new cuddler expects they either ignore or deleted. All ladies are going to be over run with messages. I don't think profiles matter that much, but they have some influence. Be polite and be patient you'll find a cuddle. If you are spending it's easier of course. Karma means jack shit. Most aren't staying with in the terms of service and I'll also say this most people who are responding on this particular thread haven't been here long enough to know better. Even though they write good.
It can depend a lot on your approach and who you approach. Sometimes what you write in the forum could make a difference, also.
The weather could make a difference as well. But we know it ain't raining everywhere and most people don't read the forums.
LOL!! We're "here", but we have jobs too and we're tired!!!
More in demand for women than men. Most won’t respond or will flake
There aren't too many non pros where I live and the very few I've contacted just stopped responding. Happens everywhere though, it's no big deal anymore lol
On this site I think it more has to do with there’s only so many people in my area. It also doesn’t help matters that I tend to come and go from the site with sometimes weeks or months and I miss messages if I were to be messaged and then when I check their profile, they have been gone for weeks because either maybe they thought I wasn’t interested or they come and go from this site. I for one would never pay for someone that identifies as a pro on the site as I like to have a closer connection with the person that I cuddle with so I would prefer a closer connection than just a business transaction.