Just wondering if many users are aware of the button to self mute from user search list

PolarMtnHuman95PolarMtnHuman95
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One thing I have long realized since a long time ago is that most women who receive message will only look at your profile and then not respond at all to the message, not even with the sentence “Not interested.”, or “I don’t want to talk.”, but one thing In have just begun wondering is if many enthusiast cuddlers here are aware that on settings, they can mute themselves from the user search if they want to or if they don’t want to talk with more people than the ones they are already talking to, as there are some active enthusiast female cuddlers that have had an account for a while and remain active also that once they receive a message, they just look at the profile and not respond, but I think it would be made a lot easier if all users when creating an account, are let known that they can choose to mute themselves from the cuddler search list anytime if they want to as well as unmute themselves if they want to. It would definitely make it easier for everyone, those who can potentially receive a message and those who can potentially send a message, so that way nobody feels annoyed with so many messages and no unnecessary time is wasted from potential message senders. What do you guys think and were you aware of the self mute feature on the settings that muted the user from the cuddler search list?

Comments

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    I wasn't, but the fact that someone isn't responding doesn't mean they don't want to show up in searches. They may simply be buried in messages and not have seen yours or they may simply not want to talk with you. Many women are not going to send a "no" because some people don't take "no" well. Safer to just not respond at all.

  • PolarMtnHuman95PolarMtnHuman95
    edited January 2025

    I didn’t mean to say that they should say “no” or “not interested”, but rather that they don’t and that the self mute option to mute oneself from the cuddler search is very useful and can save a lot of time, stress, annoyance, and frustration from the ones who receive messages and the ones that may potentially send a message.

  • _marC_marC

    🤐

  • pmvinespmvines

    When you are muted you don't show in search lists anyway so knowing if they are muted so that you'll know to not send them something is irrelevant. Only way you can search and send messages to muted person is if they first reach out to you or if you are already friends and have chat history I believe anyway

  • PolarMtnHuman95PolarMtnHuman95

    Well, there is no reason to know who are muted or not. I think you may have a point here, but nonetheless, with being muted to not receive messages from other users is very beneficial to those who receive messages and those who may potentially send a message, because it helps save potential frustration for both parties, as the receiver (female user) receives message from lots of people (male users), and the message sender (male user) sends a message to lots of new users only to get few to no replies, and those who reply will either stop replying soon or will delete their account or just abandon the account and not log in again. And unfortunately, many male users here are creepy, and with using the mute feature, they can allow themselves to talk to the ones they are already talking that are good, get no message from a user they didn’t talk to before (saving themselves from potentially getting creeped out by a creep), and block the users who seemed like they were good but suddenly begin demonstrating creepy behavior. The mute button definitely facilitates the use of the website for everybody!

  • CozyWolfyCozyWolfy

    I'm muted 🤫

  • cuddlyDavidcuddlyDavid

    Hey, I do know this but I do have a question. Is it possible to hide individual users from your search list?

  • PolarMtnHuman95PolarMtnHuman95

    That is not possible unfortunately, as far as I am aware.

  • [Deleted User]cuddlylove143 (deleted user)
    edited January 2025

    I respond to every message and what i have realized is that 99% of the men on here are flaky and are not actually interested in booking a cuddle session but just want someone to connect to for free. I provide a professional cuddling service, but that seems to not be valued.

  • PolarMtnHuman95PolarMtnHuman95

    What I meant is that the ones who don’t respond to most messages and sometimes just view the profile but then not respond, are female enthusiast cuddlers, the ones not registered as professional cuddlers. I am sure that there is probably a good portion of users here who are not aware of the self mute feature on the settings. What I think is that guys tend to also prefer cuddling with enthusiasts, as they don’t charge, but enthusiast female cuddlers don’t really respond as I have heard that they have a lot of messages and due to the fact that most are unaware of the self mute feature in settings, the female enthusiasts just keep getting lots of messages and even a noticeable portion of guys just being creepy, and then they often don’t see a reason to continue using the account and then abandon it or deactivate it or delete it, by which they may not have felt that need if they would have been aware of the self mute feature on the settings, as it would have helped them to not continue receiving message from lots of users and be better able to filter out the creepy ones from the ones she talks to, which aren’t a huge portion from all guys but the creeps are loud and persistent, making it seem like it is many guys and then that helps make this site be seen/felt as annoying or inconvenient or even unsafe for many female enthusiasts.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    Or they may stop paying attention to their account because they have found someone to cuddle with and aren't looking for multiple guys to do it with. Men outnumber enthusiast women here by 16-1. Even if they use the muting feature, odds are good you will never hear back from one.

    You have a very lengthy profile, which is great, but you're starting right out talking about all the things besides cuddling you would be willing to do and things you might have in common. It comes across like you are looking for a girlfriend experience more than just a cuddle experience. You probably aren't, but I could see how it might sound that way to a woman and if she is just looking to cuddle, it could be off-putting.

  • pmvinespmvines

    Your time and energy may be better spent by not trying to read so much into these things and not trying to think that you can somehow fix it

  • PolarMtnHuman95PolarMtnHuman95

    Writer GF, thanks for the feedback. I am not looking for a girlfriend experience but I will fix the profile description when I have the time to later.

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