I just wanted to know what did I do why no one wants to cuddle with me why yes I know I'm not handsome but I wanna know what did I do...
Don't take it personal. It takes another time and patience to meet people on this website.
It's not you. It's difficult for the vast majority of men to find anyone to cuddle with, unless you are willing to pay. You can do it with patience, putting in some work, and adjusting your strategies to find what works for you.
Or if you are one of those guys who just has a knack for it. Some guys do. Most of us here don't.
It depends on what type of messages you might have sent. Usually cuddlers want to message a little bit in order to gage one's personality before agreeing to a session.
Don't buy into the marketing that says all you have to do is show up here and you'll get someone. If you're trying to find a female enthusiast, remember that men outnumber women here by 16-1. Women get buried in messages the second they show up on the site. If you're desperately in need, hire a pro to build up your karma, which may make you more appealing to an enthusiast.
I don't know you so I honestly can't say if you have done something or not. I will say that even in the best of circumstances and having the best behavior, best profile, best pics, best interactions etc, many people on here have a difficult time finding a cuddle friend. I am pretty outgoing with my interactions, am very clear about my intentions, am focused on building friendships and connections and making sure the other person feels safe and comfortable before ever even talking about possibly getting together to cuddle, and I love a good road trip so I'm not necessarily confined by geography. With all that said, it has taken a while for me to establish my cuddle friend circle.
Keep your head up and as long as you're not being a creepy weirdo and you don't mind putting in some work then it will eventually happen. You seem like a decent enough guy, profile is fine for most part I'm not your target audience so perhaps some women will provide feedback on this. And you aren't unattractive so don't say that about yourself but even so, you'd be surprised at how little of an issue appearance is when it comes to platonic cuddling. Women want to feel safe and like they don't have to put in all the emotional labor to take care of your needs. Men tend to be the ones more fixated on looks. Why do you think dad bods are popular ?
@billiam it’s definitely him. I wouldn’t feel safe with a guy who is all “I ENJOY MEETING STRANGERS ASAP. Having ASAP twice in the name, talking about loving to meet strangers and make friends, I don’t know any woman who wouldn’t take this as the guy is desperate for a warm body and won’t care about my soul.
@NikkiFM That is A. Great point! I had not noticed that ASAP in the right now period yes, it would make me feel like I'm just not enough important to someone.
All im saying to them how was your day or month going so far I get no response I know they picky do I have to be handsome to cuddle with someone...last time I met someone here was 4 years ago I paid 50 for hr im not paying more than 100 for cuddles no way the highest I go is 50..I just don't understand females cuddles here are they looking for love r money why they're picky...
Your last post projects some reasons you might be having issues here. The woe is me and it's all their fault stuff gets you nowhere. Your initial post here seems sincere. Your subsequent post comes across as resentful, and like you are looking more to vent than receive feedback.
I'm not looking to vent I'm just getting tired of no response that's all....
"How are you" is a low-effort message, and you'll rarely get any kind of response to that.
If I'm feeling bored, I'll answer "I'm okay, how are you?" It never goes anywhere.
@cuddleasap15, as a female enthusiast, your profile leaves a lot to be desired, although I know you did your best. While I echo what @WriterGF said, if you would like suggestions to improve your chances, I'd be happy to discuss privately. Feel free to message me.
Unfortunately, enthusiasts are hard to come by. It takes a lot of patience. And enthusiasts probably find one person they click with and stick with that one person. I don’t think a lot of them bounce from guy to guy and they are going to take a lot more effort and time to get to know them. Of course they’re going to be picky. And this thread you created won’t help your chances because through my eyes as a woman, it seems filled with anger and (some ppl don’t like this word) entitlement. There are plenty of men here that aren’t considered conventionally attractive and they have a good handful of snuggles available to them because they have patience, are light hearted and sincere. Starting off with an angry post and sounding bitter that your one liner isn’t getting answers will not help you.
@Sheena123 I think entitlement is a great word and accurate. And you are correct re looks. There are certainly lots of people who are younger, more attractive, and in better shape than me but I think I do pretty decent in the cuddles dept. Even if I am obsessed with my own poops
@pmvines lol 😂 I mean, I certainly enjoyed snuggles from you 😂😂 it took a long time just chatting back and forth but it was worth it when we finally met! I’d guys want an enthusiast, it takes patience. Period.
@Sheena123 Well you're great too and all, but your litter of kitties is really what makes it a hoot !
lol no!!! 🤣🤣🤣
I just took a patience test. It came out negative.
I am pretty sure you didn't do anything wrong. When I came on here I was under the impression that I could get non pro cuddlers within days. I even put a post on here and got flamed (probably didn't help that I am British and sarcastic!)
You can get non-pro cuddlers, (look at my Karma for proof - and you will see I am far from hansome too! ) but you have to be very dedicated. Make sure you have an interesting profile with a few pictures and when you send messages try to be engaging, funny and let them know a little about yourself whilst enquiring about them.
For every 20 or 30 messages you send expect 1 or 2 replies back. Also don't expect a cuddle straight away. It takes a few weeks of meetings in pubs and coffee shops to gain the trust to cuddle.
If you want an instant cuddle fix then a pro is probably the way to go
EDIT: Looking at your profile I would include some of your interests and even add some goals you have on the cuddling front. You need to have a couple of interesting paragraphs to sell yourself. In the UK the 'god bless' part would put people off but that may be okay in America so that's your choice but worth considering. I would also remove any instances of ASAP as that makes you sound desperate.
"I got no record"....lol. Bro you give off beta energy. Ask a female friend to review your profile and she will tell you what's wrong
Bro you give off beta energy.
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@Mr_Mann Another rogue "alpha" over here, there's a reason your packs abandon y'all in the end. And they're right to do so! 😋🐺🤪🐺😀
Lol! 🤣 So by your "alpha logic" having a criminal record is the best way to get free cuddles, good to know.😀👍
There are plenty of men here that aren’t considered conventionally attractive and they have a good handful of snuggles available to them because they have patience, are light hearted and sincere. Starting off with an angry post and sounding bitter that your one liner isn’t getting answers will not help you.
@Sheena123 👍👍👍
I just don't understand females cuddles here are they looking for love r money why they're picky...
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@cuddleasap15 Okay, now you're definitely venting with that comment. Good luck! 🍀👍
The woe is me and it's all their fault stuff gets you nowhere.
@pmvines Very true! 👍👍👍
I think its your socks in profile pic.
@NikkiFM you know, it did cross my mind that ASAP was a bad call... I don't know why I didn't mention it. Even if that wasn't there, he'd still have a lot of work to do to get some free cuddles though. Maybe that's why I left it out... wanted to try and boost his confidence first.
It's interesting that you say him saying he loves "to meet strangers and make friends" is a problem too. Would it be a problem if the ASAP wasn't there?
And if it is a problem, is it a problem because he might be pushy and inpatient, ie, disrespectful of boundaries? Or is it just unattractive? Something else?
The way your profile is written comes off not great to a female audience (at least in my opinion). If you're a massage therapist mention that in your profile and that you love to cuddle and give backrubs or something along those lines. Also definitely take out the part about having no record- you don't want women even thinking about this when they read your profile. A friendly, approachable and well written profile with a few more pictures would help. Also I would suggest no sunglasses or hats, you want to appear as open and friendly as possible.
Feel free to message me if you'd like help rewriting.
If they don't respond to you tell them that if they don't stop leaving you on seen then you'll start leaving them om Sheen
Your job title is listed as massage. I’d call it Massage Therapist, assuming you went to school for it and completed the program.
@cuddleasap15 I’m going to have to concur with the advice you’re receiving around your profile. It doesn’t seem to come off very welcoming to enthusiasts and pros alike.
I’d definitely recommend a rewrite. In my opinion, it’s not your looks as to why you can’t find someone to cuddle.