Do you think there should be background check required to have an account (or to keep it active)?

PolarMtnHuman95PolarMtnHuman95
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I have heard that there are some men that unfortunately, have been creepy or even sexually assaulted women, and that there were even women on some rare cases sexually assaulting men, which aren’t good at all and that is definitely not the purpose of this site, so although this may be inconvenient for everyone in one way, I think it is overall beneficial if mandatory background checks are added as a condition to have an account or to keep it active as well as requiring a new background check again once every 6 months or 12 months to keep the account active, by which may not fully eliminate incidents but will most definitely help them to decrease dramatically and likely to almost zero, and probably will help dramatically decrease the frequency in which users send creepy, suggestive, or inappropriate messages to other users.

What are your guys’s thoughts on the idea of mandatory background check for new users and for current users to keep account active as well as having to go through background check again once in a while to keep the account active?

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  • [Deleted User]easylike (deleted user)

    Overall I thinks it's a good idea when it comes to someone's safety and like I said in a previous topic of concern, it is a two-way street. My only concern is the discretion for those being vetted. As they say "who is watching the watcher"

  • jmdankjmdank

    No, the reason why is it's very unlikely anyone would do it, the more obstacles you put in the way of something the less likely there will be people willing to do it and this is already a niche market, people should vet themselves.

  • _marC_marC

    No

  • CacaoCacao

    @pmvines must still be asleep

  • brownglucosebrownglucose

    There should be a background and sex registry search done for clients who opt in. I would prefer to prioritize people who do have a background check for cuddles

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)
    edited February 2025

    Should there be one? Perhaps. Will there be one? No, for these reasons:

    1) The expense would have to get passed on to members. If they start charging a membership fee so people can come on here and then pay for a pro, membership will drop like a rock. Add to that the number of people on here who don't even want to show ID to the person they are cuddling with and it's doubtful you would get much opt in.

    2) If the site is doing background checks, they can then be held legally responsible if they miss something. Same reason dating sites don't do this. CC is not going to set themselves up for any kind of liability. They are basically saying, "We're a place where A can meet B, and if A or B is not following TOS when on here, we'll take action. But we're not responsible for what takes place off the site."

    @brownglucose I can't speak for the site, but I could see the attitude being that you are responsible for your safety. Insist on seeing ID before the cuddle and run the checks yourself. (Not saying I necessarily agree with that attitude, but I can see why that's what it would be. Anything else makes them responsible and potentially liable for your safety.)

  • javacupjavacup

    no. for me it would be more important to have those listings removed if after a certain period time they were not responding to clients or did not log on, like say six months or so or give a status button of on hold or be back such and such a date.

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne
    edited February 2025

    Others can explain this more clearly than me, but here goes….
    Each Pro runs her/his own cuddle business basically, and can require a government issued ID before meeting. Many already do this and run their own background checks.
    The site has made it clear that it’s not actually the service provider, Pros aren’t their employees.
    CC is basically a social media platform for people to meet each other and is a strictly “platonic cuddling only” site with guidelines - TOS.
    Yes, many of us wish they would go further with safeguards like requiring an ID to join. Since they take the Pro’s credit card info, it seems like they could require an ID for everyone.
    I believe dating sites do this, and they have millions of members. But apparently it would be a big investment for CC to make these changes to the site.
    There are many threads about this, and some explanations as to why CC doesn’t require IDs.

    Does “Meet-Up” require IDs? Can’t remember.

  • Zara_BeauZara_Beau
    edited February 2025

    Considering the sites stance on their role I understand why they don't but I do think there should be some changes to the rules that specify ID is asked for or a section that shows the Professionals pre reqs like ID, Backgrounds and Deposits and a section for members to show that they are or aren't willing to show ID, do a background or leave a deposit so people can match with Pros that suit them and Pros can spend less time qualifying.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    @g_w_t_w My experience with dating sites is that they do ask for credit card info because they are charging you for membership. (You can join for free if you just want to look at who's out there, but if you want to actually contact someone, you have to pay for it.)

    @Zara_Beau A pro can list on their profile if they demand ID, deposits, etc. Just put it in the text description.

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    @WriterGF
    The only dating site I’ve used was several years ago and there was ID verification available. I didn’t bother with anyone who didn’t implement it.
    If someone doesn’t want to invest the effort in even posting a photo, or doing anything to prove that they have nothing to hide, then I’m not interested. I mean, come on people make an effort.

  • AlyLaurenAlyLauren

    @g_w_t_w that is actually a great point. They could make ID/background verification an added plus on your profile. Not required to join, but you get a little badge on your page or something if you've completed that.

    Then clients and pros can still make their own decisions about it, maintain their privacy or ask for ID. But if a member was willing to pay $5-10 or something for that and have their info run I would MUCH more likely to book with them. Even if they were new.

    The dating apps I've seen that, it's an optional thing, and then you can see a checkmark or something where they've done it. That could work!

  • SoosonSooson

    When I was a pro I owned a lie detecror and used it to vet clients. Highly reccomended.
    @g_w_t_w

  • TeddyBear4u2024TeddyBear4u2024

    I understand the sites point of view, and you are always walking a thin line when it comes to legal responsibility, especially under american civil law. I know there may me additional nuisance with site ownership being UK based, but operating in the states does potentially subject them to jurisdiction here.

    I used to do scuba diving and when you would get in the charter boat you sign waiver and there would be highly visible sign that charter company was not responsible for accidents, but it doesn't actually eliminate responsibility or prevent a law suit. In this situation the site is the deep pockets and guaranteed they would be named in any civil action resulting from incident despite their stated position.

    Much of any security frankly is not about eliminating risk as good as that sounds, but increasing the barrier for bad actors to the point that their time for benefit is best spent elsewhere.

    I don't know about full background checks, but the site should really be considering increasing that barrier to entry. That could be as simple as w factor authentication, picture verification, credit card verification, etc. that makes it harder to create empty profiles

    I certainly would be in favor of 'verified' status even it it is optional. Similar to karma would be a tool to increase confidence levels.

    Considering we are probably at 16:1 gender ratio, might help increase the favorable odds for enthusiast especially.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    @TeddyBear4u2024 Not being a lawyer, I can't disagree with you. But you read pretty often about people being robbed and assaulted by people they have met through dating sites, and the sites never seem to get sued.

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    As someone who's been here for a couple years, I'd give a resounding, "Yes, there should be background checks."

    However, before I joined, when I was just kicking the tires of Professional Cuddling, I would never have:
    1. Trusted some random site with my information.
    2. Paid a single penny to join any site, no matter the subject matter.

    The site knows this, and will never do something to detract from gaining as many members as possible. They get their money from taking percentages from the female Pro's, and the more men they have mobbing this site for free, the higher chance those men will hire the female Pro's. Putting up any kind of barrier between the men and the Pro's will lose the site money, and they won't let that happen. Not even for our safety. They don't want to lose the money, and they don't want to risk the legal liability. It has been requested of them over and over. Safety is not their concern. (Please note I am not referring to the mods. They actually do largely care about our safety. They volunteer. Re-read that: They volunteer.)

    @brownglucose posted: "There should be a background and sex registry search done for clients who opt in. I would prefer to prioritize people who do have a background check for cuddles"

    This is brilliant. It still allows the scumbags and sex offenders in, but allows anyone not hiding something to prove their value, of their own free will. Everyone wins...except those with something to hide. Love it. 😏

    @javacup
    You can adjust your search settings to only show people who have been active within the past day, week, month, etc.

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🫂 Enthusiast 🌄 Travel Junkie 📸 Shutter Bug

  • cuddlyDavidcuddlyDavid

    Background checks are expensive (at least in the UK). People on here are from many different countries so admins would have to navigate each country's unique system. It is a nice idea just impossible to implement.

    That is why admins are quick to act when things are reported

  • cuddlyDavidcuddlyDavid
    edited February 2025

    @AlyLauren - This site unlike many apps is worldwide. How would you implement that for Europe/Australia/UK etc?

  • ChiaraCuddlesChiaraCuddles

    I think it should be an optional safety feature that could help people feel safer. But it shouldn’t be mandatory (but they should heavily imply that completing it would create a safer environment for everyone).

  • cuddlyDavidcuddlyDavid

    @ClaraX - how would you implement it? and who would cover the cost?

  • AlyLaurenAlyLauren

    @cuddlyDavid great question! I'm not sure how background check and offender registries operate in other countries. I'm in the U.S. so that is not my area of expertise. I'd love to hear from some of the community abroad!

    I think a higher barrier of entry would be great. Months ago, I had a client book with me and he was fine. I personally had no issues with him, but then he was banned for sending unsolicited nude photos. As we had already been communicating and booked, he had my phone number. I cancelled our session and let him know I wouldn't be meeting him.

    A few weeks ago he told me he made a new profile so he could schedule again. Of course I still declined, and if I knew his profile I would report it. But there is nothing slowing down banned members from just making another profile. It would be great if there was something to manage the weirdos a little better.

    That said, the mods are fantastic. They have been quick and responsive when I report and they have helped a lot! So shout out to the mods 😊

  • ryguyAZryguyAZ

    No not at all, I get the general concerns but I think that’s pretty overboard.

  • brownglucosebrownglucose
    edited February 2025

    Every mainstream dating app offers photo or video verification. Some even Offer ID verification.. Airbnb and most hotels require ID verification as a security measure, recognizing that there’s no way to guarantee a stranger alone on your property will be safe—so it’s best to have safeguards in place. And yet, you’re telling me I should be completely fine w allowing a stranger into my space and give them a service from my space with zero safe guards? It’s naive at best and deliberately neglectful at worst. I love this site dearly but Cc needs to get their *ish together.

    @brownglucose - CC is a nexus, a place where enthusiasts and Professionals can interact, but CC is in no way responsible for individual safety. CC advocates for strong vetting and identity confirmation prior to meeting, whether enthusiast or Professional. CC does not dictate when or where enthusiasts or Pros meet or cuddle. CC strongly suggests you talk with other Pros about their vetting and safety standards. [-Sid]

  • brownglucosebrownglucose
    edited February 2025

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  • [Deleted User]SweetlyBlissful (deleted user)

    Nope !

  • cuddlyDavidcuddlyDavid

    @AlyLauren, imagine the expense for CC to contact all these different angencies, they would need more staff. That expense would have to be recouped somehow. They would have to charge membership.

    Even though the majority of users are from the States I believe the site is British owned

  • cuddlyDavidcuddlyDavid

    @brownglucose or those who have been to business school

  • CSnMUS87CSnMUS87
    edited February 2025

    I wouldn't pay for it, so I don't know who'd be paying for these background checks. Especially if I'd have to do it multiple times a year no thanks. Also what information would the background check show and who would have access to all that? I like my privacy thanks. Like it would need to be properly encrypted, seen, then erased once verified that all is good. Don't need to freeze my credit again and file reports for people committing fraud in my name.

    I am not in the "cheating hubby crowd", as I am single and never been married (if I was, I wouldn't be here). Looking at what potential information is shared with background checks would worry me if some hacker was to somehow gain access. Potentially SSN, addresses, credit reports, employment history, education records, phone numbers, social media profiles, and possibly more. I have nothing to hide as far as criminal history or driving record as I have no criminal history and the only tickets I've ever gotten have been issued by cameras (and not in person) or for the city sneakily putting parking restrictions after I had already parked for the night and didn't see until I woke up the next day. And I'd still be against being forced to getting a background check, because it feels intrusive and gives more information than necessary.

    Sure someone might be able to customize it, but would that be 100% transparent in what is shared and how long it's retained, that it's safely and securely handled and disposed of? I have my doubts, so I would not want to submit to that.

  • jamesDCjamesDC

    I would never join any site that required a background check.

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    Paranoid people with something to hide, there’s a lot of that here.

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