I feel like I need to cuddle like 24x7 to feel normal lol. But thats not realistic sadly. I wish there was a pill or something one could take ugh.
I hear kids cling to your leg for a few years. 😜
Nah, it sounds like you're experiencing touch deprivation, as so many here are. The desperation to have it all the time will likely calm down once it becomes a semi-regular, or regular part of your life.
I hope you find some great cuddle buddies, here!
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I love laying in bed all day cuddling with my gf, she likes to cuddle but sadly not as much as me.
Not sure that wanting to do anything 24/7 is very healthy
@gujunilesh - keep your mindset with how to create a great cuddle for you and your buddies. keep attending events, be exquisitely mindful of boundaries, error on the side of doing less, build up a reputation and be trustworthy. Over time you will attract people who are looking for safe partners and you will be on the short list. As you heal, other parts of your life will open up and hopefully a long term solution will present itself. good luck
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@TheFunCartel Hey I've met folks who don't want to do that before
I could use 24/7 cuddles, at least until I become overwhelmed and need time to myself.
I'd be happy with a good, 5-hour cuddle once a week.
I don't get 24 hours of cuddling in a year, let alone a day!
I wonder if I even got 24 hours total in my 5 year marriage. My ex was not a cuddler. It's funny... I never really thought about it specifically, but once we were married, I don't think we cuddled at all. Actually, I can think of a couple of times but she hated it, and we had some difficult disagreements about it.
I wonder if I would have left her if we could have just cuddled some. Maybe that could have snowballed into other positive things for both of us.
It used to be that all I ever wanted to do was cuddle. And that wasn't healthy for me. I came to this site wanting to bring some cuddling into my life. And I did, but it's all dried up, and I don't know if I would choose to cuddle at all now, even if an enthusiast came my way. Funny how life works out.
I've taken to watching girlfriend roleplay ASMR. It's not nearly as good a feeling as actual cuddling, but it kinda suffices in the absence of it, especially if said absence has been for a long period of time.
I already had a three days no stop cuddle session (we only stopped for toilet and for meals). The first two days I really enjoyed it, but at the third day I finally had enough and needed a break. I didn't think before that I could have too much cuddles - but obviously there is that point. I couldn't do a week of cuddles.
Sounds amazing indeed! I could cuddle for days 😆🤗
The oldest lyrics known to man, written around 3,000 years ago, were recorded by The Byrds in 1962.
“To everything, there is a season… a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing”.
I’ve lived through many seasons already and I plan to be around for quite a few more. Right now is a season of extremely long hours at work but it will be followed by a season of rest and celebration. While comfort is absolutely enjoyable and necessary, it can become a trap. This is a shirt I bought last weekend.
@RaveHeart89 Can you stop with the ASMR girlfriend role references? We saw your whispering, unbuttoned, kiss-blowing vixen last time you posted. Nothing platonic about her. Or you, I assume. Bye bye.
Totally agree. A 24/7 cuddle would be ideal.
The “Oldest Song”, to the best current knowledge of anthropology, historians, and ethnomusicologists is the Hurrian Hymn, or Hymn to Nikkal. (And various permutations…)
It’s a song from about 1400 BCE in the region of what is now Syria.
And, of course, it is about fertility. It refers to the making of offerings and libations to the moon goddess, Nikkal.
The oldest known instrument is a flute carved from bone that was discovered in the Divje babe cave network. It was likely made by the Neanderthal family who lived there.
Oh, it’s made from the femur of a long extinct cave bear, and is around 55,000 years old.
Music has been made for far longer than we have had written language.
So, obviously the Hurrian Hymn is simply the oldest recorded song known, but it came from somewhere which came from somewhere…
It’s possible that the first cave paintings are “music” but we simply don’t understand the symbols or context.
My personal experience is that those paintings have a definite rhythm and tone that I hear quite clearly. But I am an ethnomusicologist with synesthesia who has spent a lot of time doing ecstatic ceremonial drumming, so I am probably just crazy.
Anyway, it’s fun to read about, and have a bit of actual knowledge, not just religious propaganda.
Yooo @Sunrise_Snuggle , you make it to Wisconsin ever? I see in your profile you want to hit all 50 states. I would love a 5 hour cuddle session haha.
It's interesting to see some of the different perspectives on desired cuddle length and frequency! Personally, I'm good with 1-2 hours at a time on a more regular basis instead of 5+ hours. After a couple hours, I'm good and satisfied and ready to get up and move around. I can't imagine 24/7, but to each one's own!
@friendlyj311 I feel like I could cuddle for days, as well. Maybe not ALL day for multiple days, but who knows. Presented with the opportunity, it could be amazing.
Personally, the ideal cuddle situation for me is having a platonic cuddle buddy that's also someone I build a close friendship with 🤔 Like, I can absolutely cuddle for 24hrs or even more with my close friends because we enjoy each other's company and the atmosphere is completely relaxed and natural.
If it was with someone I didn't have that connection with, 24hr cuddles would be awful, but with someone who just clicks with my personality? Cuddling and spending time together with those people is as natural as breathing 🤷🏼