@AlyLauren thank you for putting a name to something I do! I had a hand full of tasks I needed to accomplish this weekend and invited my best friend @simsaddict to just be with me as I did them. She also had some tasks so we made a plan to conquer them and called it an adventure 💗Her presence helped keep me on task and we laughed non stop and just enjoyed one another's company while also working through our to do lists.
I don't know if people would be interested in booking a pro for body doubling but I can absolutely see the value in it.
I think I need to get off this site. This is truly painful.
@Nature_Lover_ I love that! Me and my best friend do the same. But we both have neurodivergent diagnoses and have some more access to resources and information and were able to learn the name for it.
@cde123 sounds like you should! Probably best to avoid anything causing you pain wherever possible. Hope your day improves
@AlyLauren Thank you, I appreciate that. Core wounds sneak up on you. I was thinking about how I can change my behavior to prevent getting hurt, and how unhelpful it was I couldn't talk about it, and just realized I'm fitting the symptoms now. It's really sad, but at least I have a word for it, I guess.
This isn't a therapy thread, though, it's supposed to be positive and uplifting, so I do apologize and I'll try to leave it at that.
So the people talking negatively about body doubles have clearly never struggled with executive distinction. I literally begged my friend to come over yesterday to do this and she wouldn't. Remember people thought no one would pay to cuddle and here we are. Body doubles are legit and those not willing to embrace it are leaving money on the table for the rest of us.
I have often wanted someone to just keep me company while I do chores. Or while I do exercises. Or to exercise with me. Just to have someone with me to drag me out of my own gravity well.
The discord server I'm on has body doubling channels, but I'm not sure about an online body double.
I am so glad so many people have this shared experience and are talking about it! @ladybug7 and @IronLemon I hope you both find some buddies who will do this with you. It really is so helpful.
I only have a couple friends I would ask to do this, and probably only one that I can count on and not worry about. But I have definitely called her and said, Hey my house is a mess and I am struggling to organize myself, would you please come over and sit on my couch while I do this. And it has the double effect of me getting busy cleaning before she arrives because I don't want my friends in a messy space, and then feeling more focused and more able to finish those tasks once she is here. Those friends are priceless!
@AlyLauren I have exactly 1 person in my life at this point. I wish I had someone though... My one person is pretty stinky amazing so I don't like to complain much.
As I mentioned earlier, I think body doubling is awesome. It's not something that I'd ever pay for though, and the example of housecleaning is one reason why.
In this example, why would I pay someone to come over and watch me clean when I could pay someone else the same amount or less to just do the cleaning for me?
The original example of working out makes a bit more sense, because you can't really hire someone to work out for you, but you can hire a personal trainer and in addition to emotional support, they will also help you develop a workout plan.
But I agree, friends that you can share body doubling with are amazing.