It gets very complicated with photos
It does indeed and different mods have their own subjective assessments which are not always aligned.
For this reason, we sometimes get complaints of being too strict. The thing is, whether it's about photos or external non-platonic profiles, being called 'too strict' is exactly what we want shouted from the roof tops.
@mrcuddleman If no one reports them, they aren't going to get banned.
@WriterGF - I'm quite sure you're correct and plenty of guys do what they do for the thrill of the forbidden. Plenty of women do as well. My thinking isnt so much about the men hiring the sex workers, but rather a gentle way to encourage sex workers to leave this space. I thought, perhaps, if they had a way to know cuddle professionals would send clientele their way who are just looking for sexual experiences, they'd have the increased reach they want without needing to be here.
I've had potential clients reach out on here who have been very honest about what they're looking for. When they have, I've recommended several sex worker sites I know of and trust from friends outside of CC and I've seen those people close their CC accounts and find more aligned services. So, I've seen that part of the thought process work firsthand, at least for some. Obviously it wouldn't make a difference to the guys who just want to push boundaries and try to get ethical professionals to do more. What I don't know is if sex workers would be willing to make that move or not.
Mostly, I just want to find a solution.
Personally, I have respect for sex workers and what they do. It's one of the oldest professions and it's a needed service. I would just like to see them leave this space for those of us who are trying so hard to provide a different service with platonic, therapeutic cuddling, care, healing, and nurturing. It's difficult to "compete" with sex work and it damages the whole focus of this work. Not to mention, the more connected they are, they more likely it becomes that professional cuddling becomes illegal someday.
Which is why I'd love to hear more ideas if no one thinks a separate referral network has any legs. 🫂
Painfully, it’s a cultural thing, deep rooted in sexism of the Abrahamic religions that the culture is founded upon.
I can’t think of a single profession that women work in where that profession isn’t sexualized in some way in the cultural perception.
As for cuddling itself, “respectability” would have to follow the normal routes of requiring a standardization in training, acknowledged instructors and institutions to provide and certify that training, and some sort of professional union or practitioner board that continually monitors and updates the standards and practices of its working members.
Hard to imagine enough current professionals willing to sacrifice the time and income to create such a thing, let alone enforce it by lobbying for new laws, requiring state issued licenses, working with insurance companies, etc.
Especially while sites like this exist.
I'm not sure there's a way to get them off other than making it clear there's a no tolerance policy and enforcing it. As long as they have reason to think a market can be found here, sex workers will try to take advantage of it.
Thank you mods and CC rule supporters!! I appreciate this site and all of you so much!! <333
@CharlesGrove - I'd be ALL for something like that. It's actually what I envision for the future of it, similar to Massage Therapy. That said, I came into this differently than some others. I received accredited training through Cuddle Professionals International, which does seek to do that very thing with their training.
I believe it's possible. Not easy, not without effort, but possible.
@mccuddleman Naked and holding his D right at the crop is not just suggestive, people need to display some common sense if they want to get a cuddler. Because guess what, most if not all women here think it’s not ok and will pass. Guys will try to spin it every other way, don’t play dumb.
Thank you to all the moderators and admins for all that you do!!!💯🎉
@CharlesGrove very well said and articulated. Also the most common sense statement I’ve read in this forum.
For real, they just make everyone think/expect sexual favors 🤢🤮
My 2 cents...It was last November give or take when I reported a pro cuddler..And whenever I have a session scheduled I try to do a background check on them if this is our first session, as I expect one to be done on me.We are two strangers meeting over the internet..Long story short I soon found out that not only was she on two sugar baby sites but an escort site as well.I took screenshots of all 3 and sent them to the mods..She was banned but not long after that she was back on which surprised me.Even more surprising for me was when I clicked on her page(I had her on my favorites list) it turns out that she blocked me.In no way am I using this to blame the mods because I know all of you are doing this for free,have a life that takes priority over this site..But I guess the downside is try as we might a few will slip through from time to time.Even though this isn't what this site is about and goes against the rules,two consenting adults getting lost in the moment and taking it a little farther than they should is one thing. But when you have men who try to coerce/threaten with a bad review a pro is wrong and makes it dangerous for the women on this site.Or you have women who maybe not with every client but with some and the offer of if you pay a little more then maybe this or that might happen that's equally dangerous.I have no solution to this problem nor am I blaming because it's a thankless job that needs to be done...
Cuddling is not about sex ,but connecting with a person on deeper level. Cuddling brings out emotions and feelings in yourself that you didn’t know you had. While cuddling is not sexual in nature, it is very loving and caring act. Professional cuddlers have an important job. They need to be treated with respect and kindness. Don74
Dick pics and nudes are insta-ban.
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@Sideon That is great to know, it took a while but I did come across a Dudebro with a dick pic (here on CC) and YES I did report that mess.👍
Plus it was an ashy dick pic too, why take a dick pic without moisturizing your dick? 🤦🧴
I mean WHY? Really? Smh! 😒🤷
Lol 😆
Ahem
@Sideon Well done, keep up the good work! 👏👏👏👏👏
@Katota Omg🤣🤣🤣🤣 I needed that laugh 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 And yeah there are a few too many unpleasant profile pics, I just wonder don’t these people get it, do they really think that’s attractive??
@g_w_t_w 😆😆😆😆
You're welcome, and yeah a lot of Dudebros think "ashy is attractive"...Nah, it's really not. 😒
Honestly I don’t want to find out about anything “ashy” here. 😑 lol keep your problems private, guys.