Am I miss reading this?

samgttsamgtt
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A professional reached out to me and sent this message but I truly believe that this is asking for more than just platonic. Am I reaching or do you all read this the same way I do?

"Good morning. I temporarily stepped away but I’m slowly coming back. I charge $ for a regular session and $$$ for cuddling with upper body caressing (my butt being an exception). Let me know if you’re interested!"

  1. Is this an appropriate for a professional?56 votes
    1. Yes
      17.86%
    2. No
      82.14%

Comments

  • warmbearhugswarmbearhugs

    If they make you feel uncomfortable, ignore and walk away.

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    I’d report that one, charging extra for exactly what? @CharlieBear @Sideon

  • Sheena123Sheena123
    edited March 2025

    Considering the only way anyone could perceive “upper body caressing” as touching breasts, and she’s charging extra for it, no, it’s not appropriate. Report it and let the mods deal with it.

    Also, please do not “ignore and walk away” from this type of stuff. It’s obvious she’s charging extra for “extras”. If you walk away from that and ignore it, other guys will take her up on that offer and then those type of guys come to people like me expecting the same “extras”. Don’t ignore it. Report it.

  • SideonSideon

    Absolutely report them. You know the ONLY thing on a cuddle menu? Platonic cuddling.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod
    edited March 2025

    Report immedately.

    If in doubt, Report. Always. Every time. No exceptions. That is the only way we can keep this place safe.

    Let the Mods sort it out, it's what they are for. If no rule breach has been committed, they won't do anything. The Mods are volunteers, ordinary members of the community. They post in the forum and cuddle in the same way as everybody else, as well as doing their bit in helping us all.

    If you are thinking about making a post like this, don't. Please Report instead. (But thanks to the OP for posting: much better to do something than nothing.)

    @warmbearhugs with the greatest respect and absolutely no offence, but I believe that approach (ignore and walk away) is utterly immoral and it revolts me. Somebody who ignores such an egregious attack on our community is thereby complict in encourging the perpetrator to attack somebody else.

    If somebody makes you feel uncomfortable then you should be thinking about Reporting them. If there is the slightest possibility that they have implied anything that is not very strictly platonic then you should definitely be Reporting them. Do not give them the benefit of the doubt, ever. There is no doubt on this site, what happens here is very clear.

    The damage that can be caused by such a message to a vulnerable man with trauma around sex and touch is potentially quite serious. Through my friends who are professional cuddlers I hear (anonymously) about some of the harm that is done. It also harms the professionals who, perhaps six months or a year later when the victim has recovered enough to approach the community again, have to deal with the aftermath.

    So yes, if you get a kick out of knowing that you have consciously and deliberately exposed vulnerable people to being hurt, and given the cuddling community a general kick in the teeth at the same time, by all means ignore and walk away. If not, Report. It takes one second.

    If everybody Reported every time, this site would be a much safer place.

  • CharlieBearCharlieBear Mod

    Banned

  • KatotaKatota

    Banned

    @CharlieBear

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne
    edited March 2025

    @CharlieBear @Sideon
    You all are AWESOME 🤩
    And @samgtt thanks for reporting, helped avoid some problems for others!

  • SoosonSooson

    (my butt being an exception)

    Just imagine how much that would cost

  • [Deleted User]MaverickLegend (deleted user)

    @Sooson im guessing it would be more than an arm and a leg 😂

  • samgttsamgtt
    edited March 2025

    Thank you all for your advice. When I sent the message I already sent any report with a screenshot of her message. I honestly didn't think anyone would see this. I'm glad to know I have support in this community. Thank you again

  • IneedahugortwoIneedahugortwo

    That’s very inappropriate. I’m glad you already reported it. That’s the only way the mods can keep profiles like that away from this site.

  • RedFox16RedFox16
    edited March 2025

    Yes! Thank you @CharlieBear and @Sideon ! 🫶🫶
    And thank you @samgtt for reporting ☺️

    @Sheena123 is exactly correct 💯 Most people may think there's no harm not reporting....but there IS harm and it trickles down to us legit pros and also legit female enthusiasts. If everyone wants to see more women choosing to be enthusiasts, help make sure this place is safe for platonic cuddles ❤️❤️🤗

  • SoosonSooson

    🦊🦊🦊

  • KatotaKatota

    If you walk away from that and ignore it, other guys will take her up on that offer and then those type of guys come to people like me expecting the same “extras”. Don’t ignore it. Report it.

    @Sheena123

  • KatotaKatota

    If everyone wants to see more women choosing to be enthusiasts, help make sure this place is safe for platonic cuddles ❤️❤️🤗

    @RedFox16

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