Hey everyone!
I wanted to share about some new happenings in my life, and a little bit of the journey I've been through for the past some time.
Odd time I'm posting this lol I know. I just can't sleep tonight, and possibly pulling an alnighter. Because I'm typically a night owl and life lol.
Some of you might know me as the chick who didn't wanna cuddle women lol, or only wanted to cuddle men who are single. Regardless of even if their partners knew, and how comfortable they were with it.
I used to feel, who knows might still come to feel this again, that if someone is in a relationship that doesn't meet their needs adequately "why don't they just leave and find someone who does". Instead of adding others to it, and by extension, it was part of why I felt uncomfortable with the idea of cuddling with someone in a relationship. Though regardless of how I feel and what boundaries I make for myself, everyone is still free to make their bed and lie in it how they see fit: provided it's done with as much respect, care, etc., as possible for everyone involved. Just cause it may not be my cup of tea, doesn't mean I'm gonna knock yours over and that's one thing that to this day has stayed consistent with me.
Little did I know however that after having that view for as long as I could remember, and had to make a decision about the matter: I'd now find myself newly considering being in a similar situation myself.
So I've been dating someone for a while who I met somewhere, not to delve too deeply into this or what's making us consider what we are. Though we've after enough conversation began to mutually consider wanting to see other people romantically. This is far from a decision made, because we've so much to figure out about ourselves, what we want, what we might be getting into, etc. Though let's just say my view on the matter may be shifting, and expanding to some extent or another. I've also overtime began to feel I might be bicurious.
Which is taking me from "I'm so straight, I can't even cuddle a woman platonically" to "I think cuddling a woman would probably actually be cool, and that's something I might be open to trying".
Therefore, I'm now personally starting to possibly become comfortable with the idea of cuddling people in ENM, and women who are open to cuddling women.
With all that said, there are some things I need to run by my partner to make sure whatever decisions I'm wanting to make are decisions he's also comfortable with. If not, then we are to figure out what we need to do about that discomfort or concern he might share with me. Because considering my partner's input is something I highly value, and vice versa.
I just thought I share that and I hope y'all have a pleasant time, much love! 😌