Now I just wanna wrap some veggies in tin foil and stick em in the grill . I'll take my chances with whom or what is attracted to it all
This Website could much easily be improved by making it into an app with a few more features.
A live chat/match option like tinder or fb dating so you can know you are matching with people who are interested around the times you are using it.
More promotion. The user base is very low seems like, and the website will continue to become more dated especially against modern apps that make it easier to match up with other Cuddlers/Clients.
Forum can stay but should also be a live chat option to allow others to build bonds and actually be online actively/more often.
@jorjor234 Are there other cuddling apps in existence? I know there has been a lot of talk about this being an app, I assume it comes down to money. Not sure.
I would like a page on definition of terms and what constitutes an offense and the consequences of an offense. For example, I blocked someone and do not know the consequences of doing so. They overrode my telephone goodbyes twice and I blocked them. However, it may appear that I think they are a predator or something worse than a nuisance.
I came to say what @mauvefox is suggesting. There are people I don't want to block but I also don't want coming up in searches.
@Tinaleeds The only effect of blocking on here is they can't see your profile or message you through the site. If this person has your phone number, and is harassing you, your best bet is to call the police. As for a list of offenses that one can be banned for, that would be in the site TOS. But banning won't prevent harassment off the site.
WriterGF what is TOS?
@Tinaleeds Terms of Service. If you click on "Terms and Conditions" at the bottom of the page, and scroll down to Conduct, there's a section on what is not allowed on here. From what you had said, the person you are dealing with has definitely violated site rules.
Thank you WriterGF
Delete the cuddle requests section of the forum. Most posts have no replies and it just makes me sad to see people reach out and get no response from anyone
@radiatawellness I totally agree 👍 and it seems to be mostly newer members who think it’s the best way to connect with someone Some of the post are really sad like you said Ugh ! 😩
@radiatawellness Could they maybe be getting messaged?
Hey, this is a question for the devs/admins. Do you have any plans to improve the messaging facility? I am finding it a little bit clunky. The main problem is if you keep the message page open you often miss or overlap messages. It would be nice to have a seperate IM app such as messenger for facebook. It would also be great to be able to edit and delete messages.
@cuddlyDavid Not sure if this is what you need, but it is possible to delete a conversation from your message list.
@writerGF, yeah you can delete the whole conversation but I am talking about a singular message. For instance if you accidently write a message to the wrong person, or suddenly realise something you have written sounds wrong. The same same way as you can with most IMs. I am a fast inaccurate typer so an edit facility would be good too.
Having an IM based message app would also discourage people from coming out of CC and using apps like Whatsapp or Teams. I do realise that the cost of something like this may be prohibitive to what is essentially a free service.
@greenearth2 I agree.
I wish we could archive old messages without having to delete them.
It does seem like many people aren’t using the cuddle request section successfully.
I wonder if a location based bulletin board wouldn’t make more sense? One for every metro area represented by the membership. People could post upcoming plans, last minute availability, etc. to a more targeted audience.
That seems to be how some of the sticky threads are already organized.
A back button so if you’re reading the forum and click on a commenter’s profile, you can get back to the thread.
@Amalie if you're on a computer you can right click and a back option comes up. on the phone you can swipe to the right and it should take you back a page. or at least on an iphone it does. 🤷♀️
There should be a way to block Individual discussion threads from appearing. I know we don't have to open them if we don't want to, but It would be better not to repeatedly see threads we have no interest in reading.
I'm confused, people are paying to be on the site? Other than percent from the apts booked?
I would love if in threads we could reply directly to a persons comment instead of scrolling to the bottom and tagging them.
@ladybug7 male pros pay a set monthly rate rather than the site taking a percentage of their earnings (as it is for female pros). Since male pros have very few paid sessions, it makes business sense for the site to charge them a flat fee.
I believe this has been raised before, but for some reason when I go to the "search" function, I keep getting both pros and enthusiasts showing, even though I keep telling it to "hide pros." Very frustrating.
I've been having a hell of a time getting msgs solely from people who only "cuddles women" (which I am not) and are often straight cis men, some of whom that I've met up with have been handsy, some have not. I would rather only stick to queer people (includes bi men, trans men, etc), nonbinary ppl, femmes (cis or trans women, etc) and straight cis men who are open to cuddling anyone
I know this isn't a dating site but it grossly still feels like one when so many straight men are drawn to my profile even with queer/gay is literally colored all over it. this is a similar feature to what okcupid used to have, except specifying who should see you based on their gender preferences with an algorythm/filter that lets us choose/account for that since nonbinary people detrimentally aren't usually thought of in this area.
maybe even a quick definition/explanation of why and how sexual orientation and who you're willing to cuddle are completely separate categories
force people at least once to read each individual rule/expectation 1 by 1 with a timer checkmark so they can't just click through it and start messaging everyone.
thank you
@RiverBreeze posted: "can we perhaps get a "read" notice on ... messages that are opened vs those collecting cobwebs"
YES! I have so many unread messages I'm embarrassed to say, and I wish everyone on the other end knew that I haven't read and ignored them, I simply haven't had the practical time or mental energy to deal with my inbox.
Having users know whether their messages have been read yet or not would probably save a lot of hurt feelings or assumptions.
@89cadillac If you don't want to know who visits your profile, don't click on the Visitors page. 😛 Am I missing something?
@WriterGF posted: "no idea why men who cuddle women are checking out other men who cuddle women"
My theory is they are ransacking their Karma for eligible and active women. 😒 Among many other potential reasons...I honestly figure most don't realize a post on the board was by a male, so they click into the profile and likely immediately back out.
Regarding bans, yes the mods can ban by IP; the problem is, some people have dynamic IP's.
@HealingTouch808 posted: "Ability to mute (not see) comments/anything posted by Pros and just see Enthusiast content (why I'm here)."
Not that many Pro's are active on the General board, to be honest. The majority of posters are enthusiast men.
But your post indicates your general view of the board as a source to find cuddlers. That's what the search function is for. The boards are for connection and discussion. To find potential cuddle buddies, run a search of cuddlers in Oahu. 😊
@Adento posted: "I did the webapp and allowed notifications, but I haven't been getting them."
Make sure your browser notifications are allowed and set to pop-up. 💬
~ Sunset Snuggles
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It would be really useful if we could write and view Notes on Paused, Timed Out, Deactivated, and Banned accounts.
I add a Note when someone makes, say, a racist or hateful comment on the board. Not being able to do so when someone is on a temporary Time Out means that person will come back and I won't have a way to realize their past behavioral red flags, in the future.
In a similar vein, having our report history available to us seems like a very obviously helpful thing to have. Imagine in March I report a guy for a sexual statement on his profile, he takes it down, and in July, he messages me...with no visible record of a report, and it being a fleeting memory to me, it would be easy to believe someone is more upstanding than they are. For this reason, I also add a Note when I make a report, but this shouldn't need to be the case.
There should be access and transparency with one's own report history, which mod/admin handled the report, and if the status is open or closed.
Hold pro’s to some sort of standard for common courtesy. They are here searching for people to pay them to cuddle and so many of them don’t return messages. Even worse, lately new pros return messages and suggest a time to cuddle and then ghost. This has happened multiple times over the last 2 weeks. Professional is really a loaded title because many of them have zero professionalism. Should we be leaving karma for these profiles? If you don’t vibe with a profile then communicate that our block people. It’s just rude.
@kal77 Pro here just means they got approved by the site. There is no certification or training involved nor are they employees of the site. The site holds them responsible for their behavior by suspending or banning them if they get reported and the reports are accurate.
That’s my point. I’m suggesting things that in my opinion would improve the site. I’m not looking for definitions that I already understand. The reality is, the site operates to make money. They do that by having very low standards to become pro. And almost no standards for maintaining it. Half the pros on here in my experience are soliciting more than cuddling. They just don’t get reported because they avoid putting it in text. And a man reporting a woman isn’t going to matter much without proof. But a female pro reporting a man is an instant ban. That’s at least why I’m intimidated to report.