Aww thanks @mulftor I didn't want it to be like a mean call out... I don't think he was intentionally or at least I hope he wasn't intentionally being like that... I do wish people just share their own experiences without negating others. That's how we get in these messes to begin with. I was blessed with a booking last night that actually helped me quite a bit. Its crazy how much we all need each other and how easily we annoy one another. 😂
I'm sending hugs to those who are struggling! You are seen, and you are heard.
@ladybug7 I did not think you were being negative toward Jubal. I wasn’t trying to be either. I was just pointing out how one person’s non-issue is another person’s crisis of the day. We are all very different and very much the same simultaneously. And without saying it I think what Jubal was saying is he is a master of compartmentalization. That behavior and skill is common in war veterans. My dad was in Special Forces and served two tours in Vietnam and compartmentalized everything in his life until he blew—severe PTSD—and my mom and I pulled him away from suicide more than once. I hid an arsenal of guns at my apartment while I was in college. You do what you do to cope with your reality.
I feel you this site is a great idea it would be better if people would reply even if they were not interested in cuddling I would like to get a reply either way hope everyone else is doing better than I am here
... I'm always struggling.
The trick so far has been to just try and focus elsewhere.
I am. I ended up in the ER thinking I was having a heart attack. Turns out it was an anxiety attack. Have had chest pains for like a month and a half. They say my heart is fine.
@CuddlesNeeded3 I have that happen all the time. I have weird physical manifestations of anxiety and the more you are concerned something could be serious the worse it gets. It feels like you are brushed off or something at the hospital just anxiety doesn't seem to be a fair description of what you feel. I've actually found a few things that have helped if you want to message me. I'm still working at it daily but the small body hacks you can do to reset your vagus system... They can help in a pinch.
@Crash83 I'm sorry that's happening. I think I've only ever turned one person down for something other than I couldn't meet that particular time but always offered a different time. I'm not sure why people aren't saying anything. I wish you luck.
I struggle everyday almost, mainly with personal finances and it has been that way pretty much since I moved out of my parents house when I was 22. It seems like the other shoe keeps dropping every time I achieve a milestone in life like getting a higher paying job or making a lot in a side hustle, with inflation and economic downturns.
3 years and counting - I was pretty much taught that everything I ever believed in is a bunch of bs....
Funny this topic came up at this time. Been a hell of a week, feeling so isolated and lonely. Struggling with getting any response from attempts to book or send an interest message. Just worsens my mood as if I am not worth anyone's time.
Life's been hard for me, especially recently. I think I've struggled with loneliness my entire life, but it's never been as bad as it is now. I think I can count on one hand the amount of times someone has genuinely asked me if I wanted to hang out with them, that wasn't out of pity. I've always felt like I'm a side character in someone else's story. The reason I made an account on here is because I was hoping to heal that neverending aching pain in my chest from feeling lonely, but I feel like it's just made things worse. It's made me feel like I'm not, and never will be worth the time of day. I don't think I've ever felt so worthless in my life.
It's especially rough when you're the one always doing the asking if friends want to hang out. Makes you wonder how many of them are really friends and how many of them are using you. I'm sorry, @Kirbyfire73 , that's very painful. I understand it.
Big time!
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I call BS! (i know 100 people will jump down my throat). You cant play the struggling card and also charge for cuddles. This is becoming popular. If you are struggling, i will hold you tightly for hours. But i wont pay to comfort someone. Doesn’t that bother anyone else?
Yes I totally agree with you! I've had my ups and downs but try to stay positive and not let it get the best of me. I definitely enjoy helping others get past their anxieties... it gives me peace and happiness to help out when I can. I'm here if you ever need someone to talk to or could use some good laughs.
@normaldude54 that is some weird logic. Are regular therapists not in need of therapy bc they charge for their services? Am I, an icu nurse, supposed to be denied care because I get paid to take care of and keep people alive? Just because a person provides a service for a fee does not mean they cannot also be in need of said service. Additionally, a good pro (imho) will be more giving of their time and energy and, therefore, may receive less of a benefit from cuddling.
Lol. There it is. It’s advertising. Plain and simple. If she needs cuddles then just go cuddle. Posting that is about getting more business. Lets be honest with ourselves
[There's a mighty bitching thread about Pros and pricing. Your comments belong there, not here, but I'm leaving them intact because I'm benevolent like that. -Sid]
@normaldude54 You're right. I will absolutely not go to @CentralFLCuddle if I need an ICU nurse, because she posted about it here.
@normaldude54
Since you have a brand new account and choose this thread to antagonize and bait in, my assumption is that you are either a banned member or someone who has an account and created a dummy account because you are mad that nobody will spend time with you and are resentful to cuddle pros for charging, or perhaps maybe resentful towards women in general, and are just here to try to troll and be disruptive without anything intelligent or meaningful to say.
Am I getting warm?
@normaldude54 is being handled. Carry on, folks.
@Sideon thank you. I'm sorry if I did something wrong posting here. I only joined the community in February. I wasn't attempting to advertise nor would I ask anyone to comfort me on their time as he was making it seem... I thought these discussions could be about anything. I was having a super hard time that day with what was happening on TV and the news and I thought if it's bugging me, it's probably bugging others too... Just put some virtual arms out there for hugs was all.
Rest easy, @ladybug7 . The troll came here with an agenda and was quickly sent back under his bridge, thanks to community vigilance.
@Sideon thank you again, I'm the kind of person who tries to figure out why people do what they do... I'm sure like many people who find this place, he may just be lonely. That's ok. I get that.
I'm in a residential therapy program right now, for multiple reasons. The world is a bit overwhelming, and not getting any better.
I can definitely feel that. Had another rough one today so I'm trying to just sit in quiet and feel it or something. Tune stuff out. Alot of things feel unsafe. I'm sure you must be going through a lot. 🫂
Between severe depression and having had a hard time finding work for awhile now, I have been struggling really badly. And then add another Father's Day without my dad being alive (this year hit me really hard) it's taken every ounce of strength to just survive the emotional downpour that floods me every day. The struggle is very real.
Feeling so down today, needed a strong hug! No one is responding in my area, everyone seems to be busy! Or abandoned me? Feeling super anxious!
Me. I have never had anxiety like I’ve been having for a few months now. Sending hugs and prayers your way.
I'm having a rough evening & could really use cuddles right now 😭💔