Can I legit start referring people to professionals?

Buffy8371Buffy8371
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Ummm yeah so I just logged onto a dude telling me he was staying at the Hampton Inn in the middle of the night and asking me to come “visit”… I also have had another dude this week ask me to go to the beach or hangout and “if all I was looking for was cuddling”…. Can I start pawning these dudes off to you professionals so they are reminded what this is? Or to otherwise go on tinder? Thanks.

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  • Buffy8371Buffy8371
    edited June 2025

    Conversation screenshots that contain usernames or pictures of other members are not allowed in the forum. As stated by other members in reply to this thread, problematic users should be reported to the moderators. Moderators do not monitor messages here, so posting here will not address the problem. @JoyfulHeart (Moderator)

    No joke 11:15 pm asking me to go to a hotel. What in the absolute f……

  • [Deleted User]gem7 (deleted user)

    Just report this kind of activity to the moderators. No need to start a thread.

  • cde123cde123

    Looks like you've found the low quality clients that pros reject. Just ghost 'em or you can go into your settings and mute, which prevents new people from messaging you.

  • SublimeHugsSublimeHugs

    Maybe consider posting this without his pic unless you have permission?

  • SublimeHugsSublimeHugs
    edited June 2025

    Also, I’d be curious to hear from a mod if this kind of inquiry from potential clients violates TOS?

  • EvalovescuddlesEvalovescuddles

    @gem7 its actually good that OP wrote this in an open thread, because others might experience similar requests

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod
    edited June 2025

    No. Report and Block them.

    "If in doubt, Report." - the Mods.

    @SublimeHugs in some cases at least such messages will not technically break the terms of service. However, history teaches us that the next message or the one after that will, or that the person has already sent inappropriate messages to others.

  • [Deleted User]gem7 (deleted user)

    @Evalovescuddles Then those people can also report it to the mods.

  • KatotaKatota

    Surprised Dudebro's pic wasn't a "headless torso". Lol 😆

    @Buffy8371 Don't make discussion threads about jackass's fappery nonsensical requests, just report them. 😊
    The Mods are pretty good about dealing with jackasses, and I really wouldn't pawn them off on Cuddle Pros either. 😒

    I'd stop mentioning that too, why push jerks off on Cuddle Pros just because they get paid to cuddle? 😏😒

    That's kind of insulting, if you stop to think about it! ☝️😁

  • KatotaKatota

    so they are reminded what this is

    HA! 😆

    @Buffy8371 Dudebros don't care about "reminders", they're called Dudebros for a reason. Lol! 😆

    Seriously, just report them next time. 😁👍

  • [Deleted User]gem7 (deleted user)

    @Katota Well said. BTW I am at the Hampton Inn....not. :)

  • CuddlesofcuddleCuddlesofcuddle

    Wow, is this really a question?
    Rhetorical questions normally get really stupid answers from me. But to keep on topic. From a professional that deals with enough bs and does due diligence to reporting. Your formal response is no.
    No, you may not start pawning people out to professionals. That is very insulting.
    As you were advised, you may report users who are violating TOS. Go on mute, and raise awareness all you'd like about how important platonic cuddling is to you and why you came to the platform 😀
    Let's keep this a platform we all care to keep using with the intention around platonic on all sides. Professionals and Enthusiasts alike

  • BrionCBrionC

    Grown adults don't understand Block, Mute and or Report...smdh!

  • [Deleted User]gem7 (deleted user)

    And then there are the attention seekers.

  • frankparker9frankparker9
    edited June 2025

    People are going to stumble into this site not knowing the etiquette and rules of engagement. For example, that opening with logistics is (only) fine if you are messaging a pro; same-day is possible but rare; etc. I don't see a non-platonic request in this particular screenshot, and we don't know if this man is a monster, a creep, or even a "bro." That said, it is "off" enough to report IMO.

    It's ok to tell a man that pros exist. It's ok to limit your negative assumptions about him to the ones that will help you take appropriate action and hold your boundaries. Pros will decide what clients they want to take. Mods will decide who to kick out.

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles
    edited June 2025

    I think the best thing you can do for all involved is write a very short, blunt (possibly copy/pasted) response to these men saying this site is for platonic cuddles, and you cannot be ordered like an Uber. As soon as you click Send, you can immediately report and block them, if appropriate.

    This way, the men have the opportunity to learn something, the mods can make a decision based on their account history, and you've protected your fellow women.

    @Buffy8371 posted: "Can I start pawning these dudes off to you professionals"

    If you have reason to believe someone is interested in sexual contact, no, do not send them to another unsuspecting female. Report them to the mods.

    @Buffy8371
    It bears mentioning that your availability is literally Guest-only, with preferred times being Evening/Night. Knowing this, receiving a message inviting you to a hotel at night is...actually a male showing he read your profile and paid attention? 🤨 The appropriate response is to politely let him know you don't do same-day cuddles. Not to splatter his photo on the board like he's a criminal.

    I agree with @Evalovescuddles - while the OP's question is inconsiderate of other women, at best, threads bringing red flags to the attention of new female users are never a bad thing.

    We need to inform, support, and protect each other...not gatekeep information, remain silent when assaulted, or knowingly put others in danger. Our actions today can either help, or harm, another person, tomorrow.

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🫂 Enthusiast 🌄 Travel Junkie 📸 Shutter Bug

  • ImmersedwarmthImmersedwarmth

    @frankparker9 well balanced and well said.

  • Buffy8371Buffy8371

    Hi so a few things:
    1) I deliberately cropped out his name to avoid exposing and also did not tag.
    2) there are professionals who literally use this as a source of income and do not care if someone is married/relationship, etc. I am not judging. The economy is tough. I am
    Not judging. I work. I’m not meeting someone at 11:30 at night.
    3) stop jumping down my throat and being so condescending, judgy and shaming.
    I asked if it was possible. People have said professionals literally reach out to them right away trying to get professional cuddles. Trying to make life easier. I don’t need to be lambasted and told I’m violating anything for asking a question. I’m not comfortable with married, traveling or guys in a relationship. Other people don’t care. No one is being criticized. Calm down.

  • btc13btc13

    @Buffy8371 Condescending and judging is a specialty of these forums. For me, both enthusiasts and professionals should be able to be selective about with whom they cuddle. Asking someone for a cuddle late at night with whom you haven't established any chemistry with to understand if that is a reasonable request is pretty rude, regardless of whether he had ulterior motives or not. That applies equally to pros and enthusiasts, so unless you know a pro well enough to know that she would be open to late-night, last-minute requests, I wouldn't recommend referring that person to anyone else.

  • ImmersedwarmthImmersedwarmth
    edited June 2025

    Reported, reviewed, and removed by @Sideon . Thou shalt not stir the pot, @Immersedwarmth .

  • pmvinespmvines

    Some people treat it like ordering a pizza and then get pissy when their whims aren't catered to

  • btc13btc13

    @pmvines It's worse than ordering a pizza, because a lot of pizza places are closed by 11pm.

  • pmvinespmvines

    Very true

  • Mare_BearMare_Bear

    I wish I did have s*worker on speed dial to refer them, it wastes SO MUCH time

  • AlyLaurenAlyLauren

    I am a professional, and no I don't want the people who creep enthusiasts out 😂

    If I get a weird feeling about a same day request or the tone/language of a message, I outline boundaries and vetting very clearly and honestly most of the time they don't respond. If they respond inappropriately or their massage is flat out against TOS, I just report.

    But if someone is asking for same day, late night, only in town for today, etc. I just tell them I need an in person meeting in public first, I need a deposit, and I need a copy of their ID. And I go through TOS and my personal bounsaries. Occasionally, they end up being a well meaning first timer who doesn't know the etiquette, and are totally fine with whatever vetting I request and have the conversation to make sure we're both comfortable. A lot of the time, they're being weird or want cuddles delivered like DoorDash and they say no thanks or stop responding. Win win!

  • JoyfulHeartJoyfulHeart

    Please report people who are breaking or stretching rules. Please do not suggest a pro for them. In some cases, it will be very clear to the moderator team that a ban is in order. In some cases a report can be the first bit of evidence. In some cases, there is evidence that a simple warning will be enough.

    Posting on the forum does not allow the moderators access to the tools that we need in order to investigate. It also creates the situation where people end up being tried in the court of speculative public opinion. The verdict might be correct, but it still leaves the problem unaddressed by moderator investigation.

    None of this is being said to shame anyone. The rules are pinned near the top of this page because it is recognized that most of us will be unable to memorize them.

  • mauvefoxmauvefox

    As others have said:
    Report when there’s even a question.
    Block when you feel uncomfortable.
    If you feel like replying with an educating message (which sometimes I do if I notice their account is brand new) then you can do so. Usually they don’t respond to those anyway.

    But a note on your profile, and I intend for this to be helpful, not judgmental in any way. You do say you’re available at evening/night. 11:30 and later falls within that parameter. You also mention that you’re using this to avoid going back to your ex and a toxic relationship. So first of all, kudos to you, keep doing anything you can to stay healthy. But second, it’s possible that many of the dudes on here would misconstrue that to mean you are open to activities other than platonic cuddling. It really doesn’t take much for them to think that about any cuddler actually. So stating that cuddling is your replacement of sorts for a relationship just might not do you any favors.
    I might spell out what evening/night specifically means and that you don’t do same day cuddles. And while it shouldn’t have to be said, I’d spell out one more time that this is platonic cuddling only.

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