Cuddling in the pool?

SpaceGoatSpaceGoat
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I have a cuddler asking if I would be comfortable cuddling in the pool and asking if I would wear a bikini. I’m getting red flags but I want to ask other pros.

How would you handle a cuddle in the pool? I was thinking maybe full cover suit or maybe have strict rules of no body on body but instead encourage hand holding, tangled feet and sitting side by side.

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  • pmvinespmvines

    If he's specifically focusing on a bikini then he's just wanting you to get super skimpy and he's wanting to wear minimal clothing himself ( no shirt etc) so I would say in my opinion it's red flaggish

  • SpaceGoatSpaceGoat

    Yeah that’s what I was thinking too. But I wanted to know what would your rules be for pool cuddles. Seems fun but doesn’t seem like something I’d do unless I knew the person really well already.

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    Pool cuddles just might be illegal here, maybe? And in a bikini??? lol
    I know a pro who was banned for offering them, but let’s double check with the mods.
    @Sideon @CharlieBear @stormydaycuddle
    @cheeseboy etc

  • cheeseboycheeseboy Mod

    Pool cuddles as well as hot tub cuddles don't meet the minimum clothing requirements of shorts and a t-shirt or tank top. Trying to meet up at the hourly hot tub rental places is also a huge red flag, as while there is a hot tub, there isn't a separate private changing area.

    I'd see a request for pool cuddles from a new client as a red flag. Perhaps suggest that it could be an option if boundaries are respected for a full length session

    Other moderators are welcome to add to this.

  • stormydaycuddlestormydaycuddle Mod

    No pool cuddles. I’d even report him so that he can get at least a warning. - Love Stormy

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    Report Report Report. Nothing to think about, this is blatant disregard for the terms of service.

  • GuyverGordonGuyverGordon
    edited July 2025

    Just out of curiosity ... (and this is purely for curiosity... I, myself, would never ask for a pool cuddle ... even if it were part of the rules, I would never be comfortable asking for this.)

    So when i go the the pool I have a bathing suit and a swimming shirt (I am one of those quick burning types). If the person i was potentially cuddling had something similar; would that be allowed? (I guess my question is: is it simply a matter of clothing or over the activity itself?)

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne
    edited July 2025

    2 layers of dry clothing - underwear and pants - are required so wearing only a swimsuit (especially a wet one) doesn’t meet the requirements. Women are required to wear 2 layers on top I believe. Isn’t this written somewhere in the TOS?? It’s not that difficult to understand unless you just don’t want to understand.

  • lovingspoonfulllovingspoonfull

    @GuyverGordon There’s several other posts going back years that vary from ambivalent to sure as long as the rules are met. I looked into it out of curiosity. Never found conclusive guidance.

    https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/13643/hot-tub-cuddling

    https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/comment/336717#Comment_336717

    I’m personally not opposed but kind of prefer the idea of a Salt River float on a nice raft / boat for a gently cuddle experience.

  • GuyverGordonGuyverGordon

    @lovingspoonfull
    Thanks for the links. I kind of remember the discussion in the second link

    Here is a screenshot of the TOS:

    @g_w_t_w I didn't see it mentioning 2 layers of dry clothing nor a distinct difference between men and women; just the mention about not being nude or wearing just underwear. Do you happen to know where it explains the clothing rule further?

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    @GuyverGordon
    I just made it all up. There are no clothing suggestions or rules. Wear whatever you want and see what happens. I just hope you will use some common sense.

  • GuyverGordonGuyverGordon

    I am just trying to get things clarified. Why the distain?

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne
    edited July 2025

    I do believe that somewhere on this site it’s written.
    But regardless, wouldn’t you just use higher level reasoning and go with what is appropriate for a strictly platonic cuddle where you don’t want to push boundaries or give the wrong impression - or make someone feel uncomfortable? Like, to just be a decent person….
    edited for wording

  • GuyverGordonGuyverGordon
    edited July 2025

    I dont think you saw my opening line when I asked my question:

    (and this is purely for curiosity... I, myself, would never ask for a pool cuddle ... even if it were part of the rules, I would never be comfortable asking for this.)

    I was simply asking out of curiosity; simply because there has not been a cut and dry answer to this.

  • AuroradreamAuroradream

    Oh man.. Call the cuddle cops I've gone swimming with a repeat cuddle client. As well as the beach. The pool was actually very relaxing as I helped him float. We managed to get some quiet time and then a bunch of families arrived. It was fun to chill and enjoy seeing kids play.

  • pmvinespmvines

    @Auroradream

    You mean you didn't wear wetsuits and flippers ?

  • AuroradreamAuroradream


    I had on my 19th century swimwear

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    @Auroradream
    Perfect! I’m sure that would pass the site’s rules.

  • SpaceGoatSpaceGoat

    @g_w_t_w No where have I seen the site specify how much clothes we are to wear just that it has to be more than underwear. There have even been discussions about pros only wearing a shirt no bra! I would agree a bikini would be a bad idea with a client but started this post because I was curious what other people thought.

    The person in question that reached out to me about it quickly dipped from my inbox when I asked for his full name and phone number for my safety soooo xD the trash took itself out.

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne
    edited July 2025

    Mods have answered this question about minimum clothing requirements multiple times in the forum.
    People want what they want, as much bare skin as possible. I have my own rules and what random strangers here (who I will never meet) choose to do have zero effect on me.
    Let’s bother a mod one more time…

    @CharlieBear are there any site rules about cuddling in swimwear? Is there a minimum clothing requirement? I believe I once read that 2 layers were required at bottom for men and women. And 2 layers on top for women.
    Also 1 layer on top for men.
    Please clarify because I’ve been asked a few times.
    Also if there are clothing requirements, where are they posted?
    Thanks and sorry to bother you!

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