For my first snuggle I think I would like another woman... Just because I don't want ANY chance of getting sexual harassed or assaulted. Any women in my area who feel the same?
@motleyrose - There is a search capability on this site that enables you to search for the cuddlers you want to meet, Simply click 'Cuddlers'. There are a lot of women on this site who identify as bisexual so I'm not sure how just cuddling women will alleviate your concerns.
@motleyrose I understand your concern. If you feel more comfortable cuddling other women, then cuddle women. Good luck with your search!
@UKGUY... I get your point... It has just been my experience that women understand more.
@motleyrose I hear you and I think there is nothing wrong with trusting your gut and doing what is most comfortable for you. Only you know what is best for you
As a Pro cuddler, I’m straight, but I haven’t been contacted by a woman yet, though my profile clearly says I’ll cuddle anyone, sex, race, or how a person identifies.
If you exchange messages, & have some video chats, maybe even chat on he phone too, then a public meet before the session, you can get a good handle on the cuddlers personality.
Even at the public meet, I reserve the right to cancel the session if I feel something in my gut or get that “creep” vibe. Also, i have a friend I check in with at the beginning of the day, letting him know about my appointments and check in at the end of my day, meaning when I am done with clients for the day. I haven’t had any untoward male cuddlers yet.
@motleyrose And I think it is great that you are secure enough to be ok with cuddling women. Many people, myself included, aren't real comfy with cuddling people of the same sex. Nothing wrong with it, it is just not for everybody. Even in the platonic context, it is something that takes some getting used to for a lot of us. So good on you for not being this way.
I cuddle with women a lot, too. There is a certain level of instant safety and comfort in it that is generally unattainable. I can usually get comfortable in the first 20 minutes with a woman or sometimes it takes two or three meetups with a guy before I feel safe.
I dont think anyone will judge you for it.
I'm still waiting for my first female client. Really looking forward to it :-)
In a similar boat! Been hoping for a woman partner too, but I haven't had much luck finding one I liked who doesn't only cuddle with men XD
I have spoken to a few professional women though and may be scheduling with one soon^^
I would love to cuddle women! I haven't been approached by any for cuddling yet. It definitely feels safer since women are statistically less likely to rape/murder you than men are.
I have on my profile that I cuddle both, but haven't talked to any women for cuddling yet. I've had some great conversations with some that were far away over common interests. I do cuddle with my best friend when we see each other and it's great! No pressure, no safety or boundary issues. I wish we still lived in the same city and had less hectic schedules.
This might be weird to some, but I got to cuddle my husband’s aunt as a client! She was curious and open-minded about it and wanted to see what it was about! It was really amazing. She’s 60 and said she felt like she was a little girl again in her mother’s lap.
I can’t wait to have another female client!
Wow! A lot of supportive people here! Thank you!
If only you lived closer, I'd cuddle with you.
Awwee thank you @Wolf_Woman ! I wish you were closer!
I cuddle with both but I never had a female cuddle buddy. I'm comfortable as a host with the men because I have roommates.
I've had male cuddle buddies. Not from here, but in general life. They to usually end up moving on very quickly when I remain true to my boundaries. I had one snuggly lady friend, but she didn't snuggle with me unless she was drunk or I was crying, so that made me feel lonely the rest of the time. She moved away, and I haven't had a cuddle buddy since.
What about men who ID as women do they qualify to cuddle with you
Nah don't feel bad @motleyrose if you don't want to, don't. No one is forcing you nor should you feel forced to and is perfectly an okay reason to just want to cuddle with women right now Unfortunately, sometimes others tend to judge quickly and not understand your point of view of feeling unsafe.
I am open to cuddle anyone no matter what sex they are or identify as. I haven’t had a female cuddle. I accept everyone as they are.
@mokissia amen to that, thats how it should be
That's good that you do @mokissia ! I'm glad you feel safe, I think the reason why some people prefer a certain gender is because they need to feel safe at first. For whatever reason that is, we can't immediately react to say, "BAD NO!" We as a society gotta be better than that. I'm not saying you're saying that, I'm saying other people say that all the time.
Why? Not making this a guy thing or anything like that but... Bottomline: A lot of guys don't know how it is to be a woman or lady. We as in everybody need to be more sympathetic to understanding others.
I am open to all people, regardless of gender identity. I understand your concern though. You can't always tell who's going to overstep your boundaries or when. Sometimes people can off as being kind and respectful in messages but test boundaries and make things uncomfortable in person. Don't get me wrong. I've met some good, respectful men on here but I've dealt with some creeps too who didn't seem it until after having seen them a few times for cuddle sessions, so I know exactly where you're coming from.
I stand with @mokissia and anyone else who doesnt single out one specific gender
-Dont hate me for my opinion-
Try cuddling in a public space like a park. It does not have to be always a bed or sofa.
I don’t think it’s wrong for anyone to decide who they are comfortable cuddling with even if that decision is based on gender (among other factors I’m sure).
@Navyman1010 it’s also awesome if someone is open to cuddling with every gender. It’s nice that you would cuddle with any gender, too!
My advice would be do whatever you are comfortable doing. However, if you decide to meet a man, just be really clear. REALLY CLEAR...about what is not happening...what cannot be touched...and tell him clearly please do not test the boundaries. Tell them all that upfront...a few times. And either they will go away or they will follow your wishes. Sorry it's like that. There are gentlemen out there...promise. One more thing, if at anytime you feel uncomfortable in your session USE YOUR WORDS not your body language and be clear with your words...Good luck to you.
My very first snuggle was with a body pillow.
Not great at conversation but a good little spoon.
4.5 stars.
@chococuddles But the question remains, did it leave you karma?
@pmvines - Nope.
Bad at convo and karma.
No more pillow cuddles for me I guess. shucks...