I was just looking through my past messages on this app and I was surprised to see the number of people I had communicated with that were now marked as banned. What are the most common reasons for a pro to get banned?
Booking offsite, sharing contact info before making a booking, offering non-platonic services, and I have known a few who were banned for breaking CC rules in the forums.
More often than not for selling non platonic services
I’m not sure, but booking offsite and sharing a phone number before booking might get a warning before being immediately banned. I imagine most Pros who are banned would be offering non platonic services or have profiles on sites offering sexual services. Both are against TOS and Admins/Mods do a great job at catching that. Anyone, please correct me if I’m wrong.
I am certain that charging a deposit and not providing the service would qualify for a banned account.
So, I was banned recently for having pictures on my profile that moderators let me know were sending the wrong message.. that was not my intention . I had warnings/a timeout about pictures before the ban .. When I posted certain pictures , I really didn’t think they were provocative in any way . One was of me wearing sunglasses and a daytime summer dress , another of me at the gym wearing normal gym clothes . T shirt and gym pants .,I’m glad the moderators pointed it out and explained their point of view. . I understand now that the angle in which the pictures were taken may have been misinterpreted. I deleted the pictures. I was given the opportunity/chance to appeal to have my account restored. The moderators are very fair.. So, though alot of people do get banned for non platonic activities/services, that was not the reason in my case.. I’m strictly platonic always.. Gossip/rumors can destroy someone’s life. Everyone that met me already knows that I do not do anything non platonic .. and those that have hinted or tried to cross boundaries with me through inappropriate messages or by exhibiting inappropriate behavior during a session also know that I do not do anything non platonic.. they were reported.. I just had to say what has been on my mind.. it was really bothering me .. Now I could let it go. Thank you for listening., I normally wake up at 5am to start my day , going to make my coffee now ., maybe play tennis this morning ., I’m off today ( RN) I hope everyone has a great day 😊
In regards to booking off-site, a pro would probably be warned multiple times before being banned for it. It’s when they intentionally start trying to share their number in sneaky ways that gets them banned.
Like let’s say a pro starts sending photos with their phone number written in the picture thinking it will prevent them from being caught. We are not reading conversations (and don’t even have the ability to) unless they have been reported, so how would we know? Well, it’s usually because the person they sent it to got reported by someone else for a completely different reason (like say inappropriate clothing requests, or harassment, or something else unrelated). That persons convo history then becomes unlocked from being reported and that’s when we see these photos being shared by the pro in question.
That would then allow me to report that pro for what I am seeing, and then all of the pro’s other convos become viewable and then it’s like Pandora’s box and all sorts of things are found (or they are simply just sending that photo to most clients). Something blatant like that where they can’t act innocent claiming to not know the rules would get them banned (though again most likely if they had been warned before).
But most of the time it’s probably something non-platonic like having an escort profile or onlyfans or something. But some do just use the site to offer extras and those are real easy bans.
I always thought that pros shouldn't be able to post pictures of themselves in clothing that wouldn't be appropriate to cuddle in (per CC's rules).
If I'm looking up a massage therapist online, and I see a picture of someone with a professional headshot or working with a client in proper attire, I'm going to have a professional expectation.
If I see another message therapist's picture and she's wearing a hot suggestive evening dress, well, let's just say it's not going to be a good massage.
@jps76 If you see a photo you think is inappropriate, report it and let the mods sort it out.
@Rafael9898 was inspired by your post to scroll thru my DMs this morning. .As far as banned pros , I stopped counting at 40. It seems to be quite challenging to last over here more than a year or two as much as those of us who have been here longer may find it hard to believe.
@SweetCuddler33
I haven't visited your profile in quite some time, but I don't recall having seen anything when I did that stood out as inappropriate. And I know there are loads of profiles with ones that are genuinely inappropriate and even when they do get reported majority of time they just have the pics removed along with a warning. Sorry that happened to you and glad you are back .
@Sooson - the flip side are all the men's accounts that were banned for soliciting non-platonic activities. For every pro banned, there are 10+ men banned. I explicitly say men, because most of the time it is men behaving badly. Men aggressively message Pros looking for the ones who will bend the rules for them, because they're special and entitled, dontchaknow. In the end, we ban both parties. I especially love the reports that come in claiming innocence and good intentions when Pros have the receipts.
What I like seeing from Pros are strong, no-nonsense vetting practices and follow-through. "No" means no, and it's not negotiable.
@pmvines Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate it. You are correct , I didn’t think they were inappropriate photos on my profile and I do not send inappropriate photos to anyone. I’m just not that type of person. I do have good morals/values. The ban was not really about the clothing I was wearing in the pictures ( a long summer dress that I have worn to my church and the other one was of me at the gym , no bikini pictures on the beach or anything .. only appropriate tshirt and gym pants ) as it was about me not showing my full face in those pictures , Pros have to show their full face . They said not showing my face in those pictures and the angle that the pictures were taken, from my shoulders to my sneakers. The moderators said it was not appropriate , so, I will listen to them . I understand .. for safety too. Thank you for being nice to me ..I’m signing off now.. so kind 😊
I was getting to know a pro who I thought was legitimate at first... Trying to arrange a cuddle time... Then all the sudden they were gone for a week . Then came back and said they needed a weekly rate. Confusing as heck .. By the time I tried to respond they were already deleted and banned ... I'm wondering if there any legitimate cuddlers here?
@Sideon Thank you . No means No! 😊
All the ones that I know that got banned shared phone number before booking.
One was taking deposits and stalling (probably forever) for the virtual. Probably had no intention of providing it, I just kinda forgot about it and let it go, then noticed one day she was banned. Popped up on a new account, reported that one and she was banned again lol.
@seven77
You are describing an acute experience with a singular person and asking if there are any legitimate cuddlers on a site with many thousands of members based off of that ?
@pmvines yeah this is just one experience that I'm mentioning, but there's many others that are the same way. I'm not naive enough think that 100% of cuddlees are this but my experience there are a lot
@seven77 This site is a microcosm of humanity. There are honest people, dishonest people, people who want to use the site as it is intended and people who want to abuse it. There are often red flags to be spotted for the latter.
Did you report the pro you mentioned?
The first pro I was with was banned for canceling bookings even though cuddles happened as planned so she could get 100% of the payment (I assume).
The banned pros I knew best were both booted for repeatedly breaking forum rules.
I see on review sites that a lot of accounts get banned and whatever else they do here. The advice from the review sites is don't have a differing view from the op in the forums. Some pro's got banned because the refused to do extras and the guy lied about it.
@iamnobody Sorry, but that's incorrect. People argue with the OPs in forum threads all the time and don't get banned for it. As for clients lying about pros ... the mods investigate reports, which includes reviewing messages. They don't ban pros just on someone's say-so. If a pro is offering extras, it will often show up in the messaging with client. Keep in mind that what you are seeing on review sites is people who are bitter because they have been kicked off and have a vested interest in maligning the site.
@iamnobody So what is it that concerns you the most? Violance? Mental health? Banned pros? Just so people can better help.
@sooson ... Good question I put my 2 cents in some topics. Mental health is interesting, most say to get it treated and get meds and what not. Then next day they judge and call that person names. My topic post is because my mom, dad and brother have very bad depression, anxiety, panic attacks and my mom was very surprised when I pointed it out. She didn't know. I wonder if anyone else has that experience before
I read reviews like I view the news ... to see what is going on ... I don't take much of it serious
@iamnobody I believe the vast majority of bans due to non platonic are justified. Both men and pros. As far as review sites, there are ways to assess the validity of a review. Some are false Some are not.
@iamnobody I have never banned a pro for not giving extra. I’ve banned pros for giving extras.
That is the weirdest accusation I think I’ve heard. Mods don’t get paid. There is a reason for that.
the lady said that she refused the guy's advancement. The guy told the site that she did extra and she was banned. There are similar reviews like that.
@iamnobody I wouldn't take it to heart. There is allways more to the story than one side of it will share with you.