yeah . . . I've only had one cuddle session and it was with a pro. It was terrific, but yeah, lots of feelings. I keep reminding myself that she was just really good at what she did. But how, especially if its a continued thing, how do you not develop some kind of feelings for someone? It's one of my biggest hang-ups on using this site more. Cuddling with someone is a very intimate action. It seems as though it can be a thin line between getting what you need out of a cuddle session and getting attached to your cuddler.
As a pro cuddler, what do you do to try to ensure that someone doesn't get attached to you?
This is great advice. I felt the same way towards my first cuddler. It can be even harder on the guy because this could be the only physical touch/comfort he is getting so falling is love is a big risk. I knew logically that she was a pro and had other clients so she wouldn't feel the same way towards me.
The best thing to do when you can't get her out of your mind is take a break and find another cuddler for awhile. You can have a favorite and go back more often but if you are prone to over attachment its best to have a rotation and manage your expectations.
Sounds like something I would constantly find myself at when I was 15-20 years younger. I dunno if it's me getting older and colder but if this past 10 years has taught us anything, is that almost everything is ran on a transactional method so I usually approach something like that on a business mindset. Don't get me wrong, I do want to enjoy some time with the potential cuddler on the terms of a friendly outing but at the end of the day, that's what it is, a good time bought on the dime depending on the going rate of said cuddler because not many here are doing this for free.
If a pro is interested in another outing, I'll oblige, though I usually prefer to make the moves and the planning of that outing. I don't want to seem as bothersome so I would contact every other weekend at best and only do so once depending on the answer.
I know it's tough to not get attached to a feeling that's on the same plane of intimacy, I've fallen victim to that myself but you gotta get your bearings together and remind yourself, this is an arrangement, nothing more, nothing less.
Bear spray is pretty effective.
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It’s good to see several cuddlers so that you don’t get attached to one in particular. You start to understand the difference between romantic love and a general feeling of love when you broaden your horizons
Great advice. 💖