Extra Services Question - NOT that kind

AL3XGage_06AL3XGage_06
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The answer to this question is of course "it depends" though it might just be a bad overall idea.

I am disabled in a way that I'm pretty weak. Ambulatory to an extent and live independently but there's a bunch of stuff I either can't do or it takes me way longer than an average person to do. An easy example is that if I do a large grocery haul for me it could be 5 or 6 trips from the car in my wheelchair where an average person could do it in 2 trips.

This isn't really stuff where I would need a medical aid and those services are wildly expensive. As it is I pay a house cleaner business at $60/person/hour.

To get to the point here... if I did contract with a cuddler for 1-2 hours a week would it be wildly out of line for me to request a portion (probably 20 minutes) of that time is spent doing some stuff I can't do on my own?

  1. Yay22 votes
    1. Nay
      59.09%
    2. I'm indecisive
      40.91%

Comments

  • KariMeiSnugglesKariMeiSnuggles

    If I had a client ask for that stuff I would be happy to help but I would want to know ahead of time

  • SoosonSooson

    The poll is off again , idk if people don't know how to use the feature or if its an issue with the program

    @AL3XGage_06 But to answer your question, My opinion is that once you establish a relationship with a pro and she visited you couple times, I don't think it will be out of line to bring this up. for all we know, she may even offer help once she knows you and more aware of your situation.

  • wilderdudewilderdude

    I would think it would be cheaper for you to just hire a caretaker for that sort of thing. Cuddler is there to cuddle, not take care of your personal household stuff. You can ask but don't give surprised if you get a harsh response.

  • whoismaryamswhoismaryams

    Wildly out of line? No, I don't think so. Many of us pros are very accommodating. Just discuss anything in advance that you'd like to go on during each visit and what your expectations are. I am sure you'd find someone to help out. I've gone to dinner, slept (during an overnight), watched movies, just talked, and even picked someone up from the airport. I've witnessed some pros who have had requests for cooking, etc. Many of us are cuddling companions, not just cuddlers. Good luck!

  • KuddlyKoalaKuddlyKoala

    Not a weird request. I've cleaned people's kitchens and done the dishes for them😂 Not to mention cooking.

  • cuddlefaerycuddlefaery

    It's likely cheaper to hire someone through IHSS or even Fiver. Because the cuddling industry is new, the prices haven't standardized and can swing wildly.

    If you were to decide to ask a cuddler for personal assistance, I'd caution two things:
    1) pros on this site are discouraged from offering extra services unrelated to cuddling as it becomes a legal/liability nightmare.
    2) if you decide to proceed anyway, make sure the cuddler knows upfront before booking and don't just spring it on them at the time of your cuddle session.

  • BellaAineBellaAine

    I would actually offer to help whether you asked or not love, but it’s important not to expect it without asking ahead of time first. For example, I’m currently recovering from an injury. I might look fine on the outside, but I’m in a lot of pain and can’t lift anything right now (even bumps on the road hurt!). In the current state I'm in, I would have straight up said NO without hesitation. You would have felt awkward and uncomfortable while I could have cared less because you didn't take my needs into consideration. Basically, I am willing to help outside of the usual request as long as I am not jeopardizing my own well-being. So like others mentioned, clear communication beforehand is really important.

  • AL3XGage_06AL3XGage_06

    @Sooson the tool is messed up I think. There was very clearly a Question and 3 answer fields. I only put the 3rd option in to be silly because it was a field already.

    @wilderdude I've looked at the prices for stuff like Visiting Angels which provides a more intensive version of this. They are on par or more than a pro-cuddler.

    @cuddlefaery specifically to your 2nd point absolutely. Establishing terms BEFORE meeting is pretty standard. I'm not sure what IHSS is.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    In-Home Supportive Services program.

  • TrialKingTrialKing

    Tesla bots will soon be able to help lol missing but not kidding until then I do for free on my spare time if you was close. In the meantime check out papapal it's an app that does Exactly as you describe for a measly 15 bucks I cooked cleaned dr appointments out away groceries and pick them up
    Definitely check out papapal j did it for a year

  • cuddlefaerycuddlefaery
    edited November 2025

    @AL3XGage_06 what @WriterGF said - In-Home Support Services. At least that's what it is called in California - it may have different names in other states.

    It's a program usually ran at the county level to provide non-medical support to people with disabilities. Things like cooking, cleaning, daily hygiene, running errands, paperwork, etc. My metamour who is legally blind has used it to pay someone to drive her to and assist her at the grocery store, appointments, etc.

    Depending on your location, the support provided may be fully paid by the state/county, or at the very least subsidized. It's definitely worth checking with your county's department of health & human services to see what is available.

  • DelilahWylderDelilahWylder

    I'll echo what others have said. If you have a rapport with someone, I think it can be alright. If it's someone new, or if it's a surprise to the cuddler, it's different. We establish a specific type of relationship, and it would be uncomfy for that to change on a dime. If I knew ahead of time, I'd love to use my professional cuddle time to lift and move things for someone who appreciates it, but it'd be awkward if it was a surprise

  • theHugAlchemisttheHugAlchemist

    i have helped a client with such things before, I alao used to do personal care work so it was pretty easy to just.... notice that he might like some help getting his sheets out of the dryer and onto the bed, etc. I offered, he didn't ask. If it's a true ask and not a demand/expectation I don't see any problem with it.

  • UREverythingUREverything

    @Sooson whenever I post a poll its in point...
    @AL3XGage_06 this is why this site is weird. Pros should not be good at doing everything and have not mastered cuddling.

    Enthusiast...............?

  • sagantysonsagantyson

    I think if it’s a pro and they already offer extras like just hanging out, playing video games, etc., then it would be okay to ask for a couple really easy things. Hauling groceries? No. Load the dishwasher? No. But taking out one light bag of trash on their way out, grabbing the mail on the way in, that kind of little thing, would be okay. Maybe put dishwasher detergent in (but not loading or unloading) the dishwasher and starting it up. But I agree with some others that hiring someone not from the cuddle site would be more economical and appropriate.

  • AL3XGage_06AL3XGage_06

    @UREverything if you're wondering why I'm asking a question about Pro and my profile is labeled as enthusiast it's because that's what I put it as back when I made it in 2021.

  • wilderdudewilderdude

    @AL3XGage_06 there's an app called nextdoor, in my area there are always people advertising services like you described, just general household chores or maintenance for reasonable price. Completely freelance and they aren't with an agency or anything. Might be worthwhile to look into something like that.

  • stormydaycuddlestormydaycuddle Mod

    Moderator here: if you were to meet someone and naturallybuild rapport, that’s one thing but using the site to specifically search for that arrangement is not allowed.

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