Men, don’t message me asking about pros I’ve seen

CudlMe22CudlMe22
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I actually added this information to my profile:

Over the last two weeks I have had several guys messaging me asking about the professional cuddlers I have seen. I will not be engaging with you on this, and I promise you I will let the ladies know you are asking about them.

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  • SoosonSooson

    Just tell them she created an amazing space and the conversations were organic.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    @CudlMe22 Are they asking inappropriate questions, like trying to find out if the pro is open to pushing boundaries? If so, report them to the mods so they can be banned.

  • SuperManCuddlesSuperManCuddles

    @CudlMe22 I can relate to your experience.

  • waynewvwaynewv

    I have had the same thing happen to me also.

  • MorpheusMorpheus

    Happens to me all the time, I never reply.

  • supertouchsupertouch

    My profile says something similar.

  • MausHausMausHaus

    I dont see too much harm in this other than im sure it gets annoying or a waste of your time. Some people are just shy and nervous to take the step. Have no idea what to expect sort of thing 😅 but you guys correct me if im being naive

  • KennyG332211KennyG332211

    ...I don't understand the issue here.

    The pros here provide a service. It's not uncommon to ask someone who has experienced a particular service from a particular provider they may be thinking of receiving services from about their experience with said provider/service. Why are you making it sound like a cardinal sin to seek information before spending your money?

    If the men you are calling out are asking inappropriate questions, like whether or not a provider may be an undercover sex worker or something, then I might understand your objection, but generally speaking, someone asking whether or not a provider or service was worth the time and money doesn't seem like something worth calling out or condemning.

  • SRobbSRobb

    @CudlMe22 i can totally relate !

  • jabraham96jabraham96

    I’ve had others ask me before and tbh it didn’t bother me as long as they weren’t asking inappropriate or degrading questions about the women. Also I ask sometimes because some ladies have friends on their account but no/karma reviews, so I ask to make sure they are legit. But for me personally, I think it’s good for us men to look out for each other if the intentions are from a good place because I even warned about about a pro bring a catfish and thanked me later for giving him the heads up when he seen her. So they’re definitely positives for asking

  • MTexMTex
    edited November 2025

    I asked a Pro if one of her clients was safe because I was getting a vibe. I didn't ask for anything personal just if he was respectful & safe, she never responded. I took that as a "no" so I blocked him.

  • SoosonSooson

    @MausHaus lol just a bit naive but that's ok 😂

  • CudlMe22CudlMe22
    edited November 2025

    My OP is due to this most recent message. It doesn’t feel this was going to be benign.

    “hey man, saw you had a session with xxx. Did she really look like her pics lol?

    Can you text me (229) xxx-xxxx

    Happy to share cuddlers I’ve seen too”

    He ended up being banned. I also got a previous message from someone from the same city a few days prior asking about a different person in a different state. He was also banned.

    4 different ladies have been inquired about, and I am not entertaining the questions with answers. Take the messages shared above for what it’s worth.

    Lastly I mentioned originally that “several guys” messaged. I mistakenly wrote that b/c I think it’s actually only 3. One of the guys asked about multiple ladies.

    My point with all this is hoping guys will do better and be better. Probably just wishful thinking. 🤷🏼‍♂️

  • wanacuddle85wanacuddle85

    There was someone messaging someone who had seen me and doing the same thing and the best part was he’s never even spoke to me or booked me so I don’t know why he’s asking questions about me.. so annoying if you want to know about me at least say hi to me 😂😂🤦‍♀️

  • disneysamuraidisneysamurai

    Those guys get banned shortly after…

  • _marC_marC

    It used to happen to me a lot too- Just mute your account. (It's not like guys get dms anyways)

  • cuddlefaerycuddlefaery

    For the people thinking there is nothing wrong with this behavior:

    This is a common tactic used by men to ascertain whether a) the pro is a sex worker, and/or b) is receptive to having their boundaries pushed/bent. There's a whole host of sites where guys seeking sex workers will share their techniques for convincing professional cuddlers to have sex, and this is one of their techniques.

    If a client truly wants to vet the pro, they'll read their karma and ask the pro more direct questions. Asking clients to disclose what happened their session is a dog whistle and massive red flag. You don't see patients emailing others who wrote Google reviews to ask what happened at their doctor appointments that wasn't disclosed in the review.

  • All_the_snuggsAll_the_snuggs

    I had a couple of my past snugglers reach out to me a while back to let me know an account was asking questions about me and they weren't of a platonic nature. The account in question never reached out to me or contacted me. I reached out to a moderator and they looked into the messages, confirmed they were inappropriate and banned the account. If you get the ick from the tone of the messages, hit up a mod and let them peep their account. Dudes watching out for dudes is all well and good but the good dudes could also look out for the ladies too. Just my unsolicited thoughts.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    @cuddlefaery I don't disagree with your main point, but I actually know a number of people who ask around to get recommendations for doctors and dentists.

  • cuddlefaerycuddlefaery

    @WriterGF yes, absolutely. But are they asking for recommendations from people they know? Or strangers they've seen review the provider online? Are they asking in a public forum for recommendations, or are they cold-calling people they know have seen the particular provider?

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    Funny I get more women DMing me about the cons.

  • friendlyj311friendlyj311

    I've had a pro ask me about someone I've cuddled with before to make sure he was good since I was his only Karma and it turns out she was straight up offering extras, of course she's obviously already banned. Funny thing is that I was actually on my way to go cuddle that same person she was asking about at that very moment and I was a bit surprised at what she was proposing and the fees she was trying to charge him 😲. I knew it was a matter of time before she was banned. But I don't see no harm in it in order to keep each other safe. But then again I can see how it can prolly get annoying to you guys.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    @cuddlefaery In the cases I know about, it was people asking their new neighbors after they relocated.

  • JoyfulHeartJoyfulHeart

    From a moderator perspective, I see this kind of question tends to be asked by men who are trying to find out if a pro is willing to bend the rules. They word the question in a way that allows plausible deniability if they are called out on it.

    Any legitimate questions can be asked of the cuddler in question directly.

    To be clear, ban decisions are made with all the information available, and someone asking this kind of question is seldom banned without additional information.

  • AchterbahnAchterbahn

    Here's an example of a message I got a while ago. (This person is banned):

    I saw that you cuddled and reviewed XXXXX, how was it? Did she go above and beyond to make you happy???

    Just trying to get a feel if she is worth going tool and if you left extremely happy?

    That's clearly not an innocent inquiry, bit there's nothing actually explicit in the message.

    I'm still ok with people reaching out about pros I have seen, but I take it on a case-by-case basis. In one case, the pro was new and I was her first (and only at the time) karma, so the message I got seemed like a sincere query about a new pro. I occasionally get messages like the one above and they are often banned by the time I read the message.

    If someone has a specific question, I'm mostly ok with them asking, but generally any session between two different people is going to be different, so asking about (non-logistical) details is pretty meaningless.

  • QuelQuel

    I have heard this is a common occurrence.. with a few of my cuddlers declining to leave karma after sessions because they do not want messages from other men on the platform. I also have had clients come back to me and inform me about others inquiring on the site like you said you did. Sometimes it was positive questions, other times it was not. I would intentionally ignore or block those accounts when informed ahead of time. You can always block and report if it becomes off topic of cuddling but I can see how that's a little frustrating as a cuddler.

  • Comet85Comet85
    edited November 2025

    They word the question in a way that allows plausible deniability if they are called out on it.

    Usually 😂 Here’s one I got:

    Hi. I see that you had a session with [Pro] recently. Do you recommend her to a friend? Are her pictures update? How tight and tough are her boundaries?

    ^ What an idiot. Reported and now banned.

  • CuddlesofcuddleCuddlesofcuddle

    I'm glad you don't participate in that. Anybody who does needs to be reported! Thank you for reporting and If you get a non platonic vibe from someone please guys report it.
    The copy and pasted texts yall shared is enough to make me cringe.

  • SoosonSooson

    I was recently offered a list of Detroit cuddlers in return for a list of Chicago cuddlers 🤣.

    though this one is probably my favorite :
    "I’m considering booking a session w/ her and extremely curious as to how your session really went. What type of experience and how was her body?"

  • SoosonSooson

    In the past when I was getting such inquiries, I would refer them to @JUICYLUCY , now I just ignore them.

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