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These are all things you should be asking the person you plan to cuddle.with in a one on one conversation. Also not sure what you're angling at with some of these questions that you seem to be seeking permission for.
@pmvines I have an idea...
To answer your questions...
@Lost_Alone posted: "Would you get "creeped out" if the person holding / hugging you, say smelled your hair ?"
This can be sweet or it can be a kink. It completely depends on the person.
@Lost_Alone posted: "Kissed you on the shoulder (like on a hoodie) because they were a bit overwhelmed with emoton ?"
Kissing is not allowed, per the site rules you agreed to. I've had guys I care about very much ask to kiss my forehead, my neck, etc. No, it is a slippery slope. There are plenty of ways to express emotion without kissing, don't use this as an excuse. Save it for relationships.
@Lost_Alone posted: "If while hugging, rubbed your back and arms in a loving embrace ( not grabbing your butt lol) but held you firmly without hurting ?"
Absolutely, I adore being held and squeezed tight.
@Lost_Alone posted: "If sitting side by side, is it ok to touch your leg, just above the knee ?"
Is there some reason you're wanting to touch above the knee? Why can't you rest your hand on the knee? Yellow flag for intent.
@Lost_Alone posted: "Of if anarm to around you, and (truely) innocently the hand slips down to the top of your breast area ?"
No, everyone can keep the hell away from my cleavage. The only time I want a cuddler's appendage anywhere near my chest is if I am the little spoon and I pull their arm over my neck.
@Lost_Alone posted: "If you are sitting in front, is it ok to wrap my arms around your waist hugging you to me ?"
Yes, though I would much rather wrap my arms around the other person's waist.
Sorry for the blunt answers, but hopefully that is helpful. Of course each person is different, but in general, the vibe should be comforting, not romantic, and never sexual.
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I think these questions seem like they are fishing for certain responses to guage permissiveness with boundaries if I'm being honest. Hopefully I'm wrong. But you are 58, I doubt this is your first rodeo and would hope that you've mastered the art of common sense by now.
@pmvines Seems that way to me, too.
@pmvines Hence the bluntness.
@Lost_Alone - You know that the things you’re asking about are pushing the boundaries of platonic touch, that’s why you’re asking. But instead of deciding to be properly cautious and stay well within the boundaries, you’re asking for advice on sneakily probing and penetrating them. There are other sites for that, so keep it off of this one.
@Lost_Alone most of the questions that you asked are fairly reasonable but the way you posed them in the forum sounds a bit creepy. I think quite a few female members would be creeped out if you asked them those questions the way that you did. I’ve been around cuddlecomfort a long time and I always politely ask my cuddle buddies if there’s anywhere they don’t want to be touched. I ask this question because outside of the posted rules, there are places that some people don’t want to be touched. For example, I had a cuddle buddy once ask me to not touch her face and she said she doesn’t like her face touched because she breaks out easily. It doesn’t say in the rules that you can’t touch a cuddle buddies face but you have to be respectful of people. Be polite, be a decent person, don’t be a creeper and this can be an amazing place.
Ok, I understand what and why the advisory came from. I decently did not come out looking the way I thought I did. I apologize for my way of questioning and appreciate your insights. I was in no way fishing for excuses to act inappropriately. I have been reading through a bunch of post, from all kinds. I do see that the way I asked, could have come out on the "creeper" side of the issues. I truely did not mean it to sound like that. I have suffered from depression for several years, and I guess I let me fears of missing out of what could be a good thing, jeopardize myself. I thank you all for putting me in "check" so for now, I will sit back, self reflect and just listen.
Again, I apologize for many inappropriate things that may have been "heard" i truely want nothing more than a platonic friendship.