Approximately how long did it take before you successfully had a cuddle session? I’m new here!
If you’re speaking of finding g a fellow enthusiast I got lucky maybe a month or so but it’s much tougher these days there are just too many guys and not enough women. Keep expectations very very low and hope for a unicorn. Just being honest.
But if you’re talking about pros that’s entirely up to you since it’s a paid service. I initially was very against the concept of paying someone to cuddle me but I finally acquiesced.
Take your time, get to know the place, read the stickies especially the beginning of the FAQ thread. The cuddling world tends to reward
Patience Effort Thoughtfulness Self-Awareness Respect
Some pros might do same day service, but the quickest I've gotten is next day. Some people require a verification call so it might take a bit longer
As an enthusiast who meets with other enthusiasts the average for me has been a month of messaging before meeting someone in person.
They are so many factors. Know going in that it’s a men to women ratio of 10:1 on the site in general and probably closer to 25:1 for enthusiasts.
Your region and location matter. If there are only two women enthusiasts who prefer partners outside your age range, you’re left with seeking partners when traveling.
Focus on what you can control. You can book with pros, be a good client, and get and give good karma. No karma = near impossible to even get a return message from enthusiasts.
Write an authentic, engaging profile with fun pictures (not holding fish, guns, or political signs and keep your shirt on).
Review local enthusiast profiles, even pasting their profile text into a document so you don’t keep viewing their profile too many times.
Tailor a message to them about what you have in common and find engaging, whether it’s certain activities, their sense of humor, or places they’ve shown in their pictures. Don’t approach like it’s a date or even date adjacent. Include one or more pictures in your first message.
Be patient. You are not entitled to a reply, continued conversations, or meeting. Enthusiast women get 20-100x more messages than men do, with a horrifying number of them being sexually charged, tone deaf, low effort, or incomprehensible.
Take no for an answer. Wish her the best and move on.
Be willing to talk on the phone, do a video call, and meet in public.
Share your boundaries and ask about hers. “I have no boundaries” = all of the red flags.
If you do have a session, be respectful, clean, on time, patient. Use your words. Read the room. Check in on your partner’s comfort level.
The reality is most guys will push boundaries. What women have shared with me is it’s exhausting to have to constantly monitor and be alert, to enforce (and will that trigger some incel rage?), or even escape.
Show you not only respect her but all people.
Cookies also help. Good luck.
@DogsTrave Great advice, all of it!
@DogsTrave... what flavor of cookies?
Well that will mostly depend on what your particular area looks like for cuddling. When I first joined up several months ago, there were no active profiles in my area, most haven't been online in nearly a year or more. There are a couple now but they can only be guest and as I am a single parent I am not comfortable having someone over. I tried to meet up with someone during the last trip I took, but we ended up not being able to meet.
Yes , there is a limit imposed of 13 days and 79 minutes