Well I apologize that I did not convey how horrible and harmful it is in more words. But please don't judge me based on my comment.
I hate that there are predators that do this to people. And just because I was born a man I am seen as guilty until I can prove my innocence.
I love this community but when people judge an entire gender for the crimes of others, I find the forums can be it's own version of an unhealthy space.
With some people charging $400/h, I feel like it cuts both ways lol.
Platonic intent huh..
@tacpmurg It definitely does. Even without the suspicious rates.
I have been sexually assaulted as well by a pro. Someone who dry humped me, forced her mouth on my mouth, and grabbed me in places that were innapropriate repeatedly. So I don't take any of this lightly.
@tacpmurg ive been saying just that for years
I had a client in tears telling me about a pro who came out of the bathroom to cuddle him full-on naked
he was so freaked out
it took more than a year before she was finally banned
@theHugAlchemist So sad..The cuddle space is a vulnerable place for us all. And it's so sad when people take advantage of that, regardless of gender.
A lot of people join the cuddle community on a path to heal their trauma. I'm sorry for all those who have had such negative experiences like this.
But my own negative experiences will never lead me to demonizing a gender.
Some of these 'pro' cuddlers are delusional the way they think anyone will pay $200/hr for their company looking unkempt and unhealthy both physically and mentally. Lets both hug each other and look at the ceiling for two hours. How desperate can you get... It's always a good laugh perusing the swap meet once in a while.
As a man lacking touch it was hard to not caress her butt and breasts.
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I'm gonna shut up on this comment...🤐🤐🤐
whole bullshit attitude that some men have about how they are the customer and the woman should appease them and just deal with it with a smile on her face because they are renting her body
@pmvines 👍👍👍👍
So the problem is and has been clearly identified.
Some men see it as a game. Some like the “power”. Some simply like making women feel uncomfortable. Some wrongly dont apply self control. Etc etc.
These guys are beta and cowards. They are poor excuses for what a man is. They clearly wouldn’t be doing it if, excuse my bluntness CC, they knew physical consequences were waiting for them on the other side of the door.
What would now be productive is sharing more of what I surprisingly don’t see much of in the forums. I would safely assume this problem is the single greatest reason pro cuddlers end providing services on the site and the same barrier for new providers considering joining or staying.
Has cuddle comfort provided sufficient resources and support to combat this? The providers are their money makers and preventing attrition and barriers to entry should be a top business priority.
What safety strategies and solutions are there that pro-cuddlers utilized and that have worked for them?
would safely assume this problem is the single greatest reason pro cuddlers end providing services on the site
@idontknoww Pros are independent contractors and the site bans bad actors when they are reported. That said, vetting should be done by both sides as there isn’t a staff that monitors thousands of accounts. There might be one paid employee outside of the owner.
But to assume harassment is the main reason pros leave is a stretch. What you hear on the forums is MAYBE 1% of everyone on the site. I have heard so many reasons pros retire that I cannot enumerate all of them on here. Most are related to their personal life from what I have heard personally.
But yes, there are many guys that do not practice consent and some are well versed in eluding whatever guardrails are in place.
Pros discuss a lot of that and about problematic clients in the pros only forum which is not available to clients. Which the site provides.
You’re getting lost in the weeds bro. We basically agree on everything important.
Not getting lost in the weeds—answering your assumption and your question. If you weren’t looking for an answer then why ask? I edited the post to add your question and assumption for clarity.
Thanks, all good. 👍 What you added to your answer about the pros only forum makes sense.