Should Cuddlecomfort be renamed "FEMALE COMFORT"?

SacralHeart777SacralHeart777
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Hey everyone,
Now right this moment that In typing this I'm prepared to be aggressed against and labeled a misogynist, chauvinist etc (mainly from women that are too self-absorbed or feminist-minded to not see my point.
But honestly it won't move me one bit, as we are all entitled to our own opinions on things and maturely debate about what we disagree and hopefully come to a consensus on the topic.

Now my claim:
I ask this question because it's evident women mostly rule this Site ( if I could give a ratio I would say to a 65/35 ratio)
And it seems us men just sit and twiddle our thumbs waiting for a lucky text and other half of the time ignored by 95% of women we send a text to; and that's despite that fact that you have a nice articulate profile displaying pure Wholistic intentions and look well groomed and attractive (although looks is not supposed to be a part of the equation, I HIGHLY DOUBT that most people are being sincere with this claim... Because preference in looks is a very human thing!)
This website has really great potential, but between women excessive pickiness
(you can tell this is the case when you see odd things like a woman visiting your page twice after you nicely texted her, but doesn't respectfully answer your request)
and the increasing amount of Pros with Instagram type poses, it seems to be turning into a money making portal controlled by manipulative women for financial gain.

My last point irrational?
How many Male Pros you see typically/often????
We all know the answer to that
Thank you

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  • [Deleted User]ivlegend (deleted user)

    In my opinion patience is the key:)

  • tawnytawny

    Too bad you're not in Atlanta. I can respect your perspective and how well you articulate it. I'd like to meet you.

    I've been on the site for a short time and am finding that more married/attached men are messaging me or responding to me though the profile says single and their age is younger than what they actually are. I understand genuine cuddling being a necessity though I don't support using that need as a guise to trying to talk a woman into cheating... It's happened a few times already and I shut that down.

    I hope for you that you meet a genuine cuddler who can allay some of your concerns. Be blessed.

  • UnconditionalUnconditional

    I think men, as a group/gender, need to work on regaining women’s trust.

    Then websites like this will be much healthier.

    Also, be thankful you’re not in Australia. ? cuddle comfort is close to ghost town here!

  • SacralHeart777SacralHeart777

    Hi Tawny
    Thanks for your reply

  • [Deleted User]SweetPeaMN (deleted user)
    edited September 2018

    A thought to consider...renaming this site Female Comfort, would that attract more women? I think it would have the opposite affect don't you?

    I know I am swamped already. I have new requests daily and if there is a man that is actually articulate and responding to my queries I continue to talk with him, get to know him as a possible cuddle. In total honesty I admit that yes, I do enjoy it if a man is attractive it's a bonus, but I really want to have an ease with a cuddler so looks are secondary but they may keep me trying to pull information out of him for a bit longer.
    Here's the thing, I work full time, most of the men I'm speaking with - two at the moment work full time so it takes time for us to communicate since finding a cuddle buddy isn't our top priority.

    Yet each day I have more requests coming in or some of the original askers checking back in a week later. I do actually have a filter for age and contact. I'm old enough that I don't need a straight man in his 20's messaging me. Sex drive is still to high at that age. If a man leads off with something like I'd like to cuddle, what are your availability? He's out also. The ones that take the time to read my info and mention it in their message are the ones who get a reply. I actually do text them back something along the lines of I'm interested but have others in front of you at the moment. Be patient, I'll get back to you.

    We, as women, aren't always ignoring a man or basing it solely on looks, we are just busy. I for one work full time, have have a 22 year old son-in-law, who is being evaluated at the moment for possible liver failure or cancer. Local doctors are stumped & consulting with Mayo. In the meantime my darling daughter is trying to be strong but they had just started telling the family they were thinking about starting a family. Stress, stress, stress. She needs her mom.

    So @SacralHeart777 I for one would not be responding to you if you had messaged me because I have a life and I'm already talking to men that have requested BEFORE you. Or, would you have me toss aside a man based on the looks of another man who messaged me after he did? ??

    Thanks, Pea

  • cease2existcease2exist

    If the ratio of female to male pros is skewed, more males should become pros ?

  • SacralHeart777SacralHeart777

    @SweetPeaMN
    Well thanks for your feedback Sweetpea.
    I appreciate it.

    There was already a handful of men, that aren't posting in forum, but messaging me that they feel the same way.
    Although what you say may sincerely apply to you, I know that largely HALF of the time it's pickiness and other ulterior desires and intentions with other women on here.

    Out of curiosity you must of read my words in my profile that I assure you I'm 100% sincere about...No pathetic creep scheming crap here.
    Not tooting my own horn, but if I was a sincere female Cuddler that read my words why in the world wouldn't I want that ????
    (The Soaring rise of Pros is a WHOLE other topic)
    And i know There is insincerity about looks not being a large part of the equation...
    Let me mention that I have 0% low esteem on my looks and am considered handsome by everyday woman, but being realistic i sometimes suspect the color of my skin making it harder.
    Also want to clarify that I'm Not trying to pull the Black card, because I RARELY DO THAT IN LIFE,
    as a True Warrior Class Guy, I'm no one's victim ever!
    But we all know truthfully there is unfortunately a negative Stigma and distrust towards black man
    (Btw, I'm actually largely Native American though
    And truthfully there never was any genetic race called Black or white either)

    Lastly,
    I posted in another forum "are woman honestly looking for a "Pansy type men on here"
    So I wonder if it isn't the race thing, is it that men like me look to tough? being that I don't have that ear to ear Goofy smile and a 120 Lb Vegan dressed in white.
    Lol, I'm never told I look scary.

    Conclusion I'm 0% mad? I probably browse here twice a week briefly and have a life, so don't take this too serious
    IM A SAGITTARIUS! I supposed to to "thought provoke" and stir things up Lol

  • cease2existcease2exist

    I'm a 135 pound emo vegetarian and I'm having little more luck than you, pal, haha.

  • alexb2alexb2

    @SacralHeart777 I would be surprised if the ratio was 65/35. I have been on sites where the ratio is more like 30:1(women). Does anyone have the numbers? That is why some women can become pros and charge. The internet has never been equal when it comes to men meeting women, and so women can exploit that. I dont really see anything wrong with that, providing both parties get what they want.

  • [Deleted User]Blondi (deleted user)

    @SweetPeaMN that is an amazing response. I hope all goes well with your family. Sending you virtual hugs and prayers! ?? That has to be a tough time.

    At times I think men do not realize that some of us ladies are truly very single. We are supporting ourselves and have professional careers and/or children. Heaven forbid us as we have friends, financial and family responsibilities too. ;) A website email is not always at the top of my priority list. I always get back as soon as I can. Sometimes it takes me a bit to create a genuine reply. In my experience if I don’t answer right away then I am dismissed. ??‍♀️

    As a single woman pulling her weight in the world I do see myself as someone who has the right to be picky about what I put in my world. I get to choose what to devote my attention and energy to. ?@SacralHeart777 surely you have had messages from women that you did not respond to. ?. I can’t speak for all women but I am by no means manipulative. Sorry if you have had those experiences. I see everyone as having free will to some degree. Now, the description as persuasive, perhaps....my profession demands it. You’re a little far from where I am. ?

    Sometimes these things take patience and time. I’d rather have quality time with someone as opposed to having a large quantity. Yes, that requires me to be picky.

    If most women responded to every man’s cat call, comment or email we would be exhausted and have nothing left for ourselves!

  • AndiCuddlesAndiCuddles

    @respectful Has the actual statistics. You can look it up.

    Almost all sites that ‘sell’ cuddling are run by men (including this one), so... I think some of your logic is biased by virtue of omitting that factor altogether.

    I can tell you that aggressive posts like this one seldom result in having more of your messages returned.

    /shrug

    P.S. Feel free to discount my opinion as a ‘too’ feminist-minded professional cuddler. ?

  • [Deleted User]creedhands (deleted user)

    My opinion as to why there are few pro male cuddlers: Males have a hard enough time finding free cuddle buddies as it is. Why would someone pay for a male cuddle buddy when there are plenty of free male cuddlers vying for the same person's attention? In my opinion, it is a supply and demand issue. I would be curious to hear the opinion of a pro male cuddler.

  • ChocolatetreatChocolatetreat
    edited September 2018

    @SacralHeart777 thats just the way it is bro lol women are going to get way more luck, but it all depends on how you look in your profile, your location and how you talk to them. I personally don't pay to cuddle i meet female cuddle buddies who cuddle for an emotional connection but I'm pretty sure its not that hard to find girls that would cuddle if your paying.

  • tawnytawny

    @SacralHeart777, you're welcome.

  • SacralHeart777SacralHeart777

    @cease2exist .
    Well I'm clearly more handsome then you, I'm sure majority of woman would agree...trust me in REAL LIFE "SCORING" you will not compare close buddy ?

    This is something new im trying with more maturity.
    And frankly put truly not stressing it at all

    I have a nice life right now kiddo?
    I enjoy dissecting things, and provoking thought... That's all

  • SacralHeart777SacralHeart777

    @AndiCuddles
    Hiya Andy...Miss me??
    And glad to confirm that you a feminist.
    I'm a bit of a chauvinist myself ? but will jump in front of a raging Lion to protect a Sweetheart I love... Act like you know me if you want, everyone has a dark side like YOUR FEMINIST persona ( all feminist are a complete fail that is hysterical to me and 0% threat)
    But I'm INCREDIBLY hospitable and women always feel safe around me

    This is a Fact.

    This site is full of dishonest opportunist like yourself under the disguise "Oh I do it from the Heart ?" it's spiritual " PLEASE!
    and do you really think that I'm not going to contact a woman COMPLETELY Cordial respectful?
    Come on I'm sure you can detect I'm a Cerebral intellectual type by now

    If a woman don't answer I never contact them again, it's that simple
    So, what aggression you talking about

    Furthermore, no I'm not some lonely guy, frankly put with my Two Fwbs I'M WELL TAKENED CARE OF with Needs if you can read between the lines.
    But I swear on my life im 100% sincere with this and really looking for that Wholistic connection so don't dare Try to insinuate for one second im here for that

    Which would be quite stupid being that there are 7 popular sites where you can find people on a Casual encounter type of vibe

    Thank you
    Dear Sweet ANDICUDDLES?

  • SacralHeart777SacralHeart777

    @cease2exist
    That was quite Cocky of a comment right??

  • cease2existcease2exist

    @SacralHeart777 meh, who you attract or repel with your schtick is for you to have your own fun with.

    Just wanted to highlight your remark about ladies looking for non-tough guys and I'm about as wimpy as they come.

  • AndiCuddlesAndiCuddles

    That’s a lot of paragraphs defending that as a ‘warrior’ male (?) you are ‘0%’ intimidated by my feminism. Especially for my 5 sentences. Which stated or insinuated nothing about you except that this is an aggressive post.

    You have an interesting writing style for an ‘intellectual.’

    I’ll enjoy watching you disappear from the forums.

    Andi
    spiritual af volunteer for domestic violence shelters, canvasser for registering voters and registering people for Obamacare, and lover of emo pansy boys all day long

    P.S. Unless you, as a warrior boy, need to have the last word... no need to reply. Bai boy bai.

  • SacralHeart777SacralHeart777

    @AndiCuddles

    Yep!I
    I do always have the last words with people that can't hang but dare Try to start with me

    Disappear from Forums? Lmbo! Don't you recall last two forums I opened (which of course as a fan you always tuning into me ?)
    They were closed down because they got too heated...
    I am likened to the Joker, Riddler and Batman all in one sweetie.
    Your Cerebral capacity won't be enough to hang...I promise you that
    We could keep going and you MOST CERTAINLY , inevitably, you will get exhausted/bewildered and give up as everyone always does?

    Bragging rights huh? Hmmm
    Let's see if I can match that:

    -I volunteered for two Dog shelters in last few years (because I love those darn creatures to death!)
    -I taught short course yoga and pranayama stress relief techniques to young teens,
    -I still occasionally volunteer for a Organization in Jersey that gives people free furniture when they get out of shelters.
    -And I am almost like SANTA CLAUS daily buying people little meals that are homeless.
    -A lady recently totalled my new bike by hitting me with her car ( because she wasn't paying attention) and instead of screaming, stressing the money because She looked extremely nervous, I smiled , looked into her eyes like a TRUE MAN and said Mrs, it's just material.. She tried to give me money and I waved it off and said go home to your family.
    She looked baffled.
    And I'm 100% fine, with no injuries?
    ( the positive part of chauvinism: consoling a woman in her weak scared state)

    Lastly
    -In my life I could count Five times I stepped up to punks on the street harassing women. Including deterring a CERTIFIED CREEP that I'm 90% sure was going to rape this woman that was PISSY DRUNK in downtown Manhattan stumbling to her building
    Hmmmm..i Wonder how many of your Pansy types would hawk the muscle in those situations??? ?
    Yep! TRUE WARRIOR S**T! HUN

    And there's a lot more

    You wanted to go there so let's see you match all the above
    So Continue to have fun hanging out in the child I created today:

    This Forum.?
    Bai Bai Bai Lol

  • pmvinespmvines

    When attitude and ego overshadow content and substance the initial purpose of any point attempting to be made gets lost...

  • SacralHeart777SacralHeart777

    I understand your take on Attitude and Ego, but just want to drop some wisdom to you and everyone reading who may me Ego-phobic on the spiritual path

    In The words of Sri Sri Ravi Shankar.
    "Don't fall into the trap of Spiritual philosophies of renounce the Ego, supress or deny it because In this earthly realm that's LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE.
    we will all have one to the day we die.
    Suppressing it causes all types of mental turmoil and complications.
    It's best to Channel the Ego and use it best where it can benefit you or the world.

    Argumentative people, could join a Debate club, possibly become a lawyer-the best one at that.
    Angry people are full of fire energy (and can channel that energy to move people, tear down old paradigms that was long needed to be reconstructed
    People into superficial beauty can be used as models for vegan, WHOLISTIC health campaigns to inspire people to desire to be Healthy.
    And prideful people sometimes can channel that into honor, attaining the highest ranks, metals of honor and a Attitude of
    " Never settle for less "
    Strong Warrior type men that have a lot of Yang and brute force can be channeled into sports or of course even better warriors to fight when imminent danger threatens the nation.

    In a tactful way with full self awareness one can use All kinds of Ego energies on the spiritual path as fuel.
    As the Ego emanates from the solar plexus chakra- the fire element

    And at the right time with SUPREME CONSCIOUS AWARENESS one can tell the ego with firm discipline
    "your work is done" and merge that shadow aspect of the self into the Higher Self (Atman)

    There is nothing wrong with Ego...
    Use it as fuel for growth.

    Take Heed To this spiritual wisdom.

  • respectfulrespectful
    edited September 2018

    @alexb2 "I would be surprised if the ratio was 65/35. I have been on sites where the ratio is more like 30:1(women). Does anyone have the numbers?"

    Yep, about 21% of the members are women, and 4% of members are professionals. Most professionals (97%) are female.

    There are lots of statistics here.

  • CreativeCuddlesCreativeCuddles
    edited September 2018

    @SacralHeart777 I am not here to label you as anything except a man with a void that needs fulfilled and can be by the warmth, presence and touch of another. It’s kind of like oxygen, we need it for survival.

    I will label myself and tell you that I am in the smaller part of those % because I do answer every email and it’s based on your email, not your profile. I will say I don’t put as much effort into someone that just says “hi” which has only been 1 maybe. I don’t pick and choose who I wish to cuddle with, I respond to those that initiate conversation because if they chose me why would I not want to cuddle with them. I don’t ask for a picture until we have had emails and a phone conversation and both decide we want to cuddle. I typically have a few conversations with someone before I even read the profile because my thoughts are not based on your profile but rather our conversation. I’d rather ask you what I want to know rather than read what CC wants you to share. Those that intrigue me, make me laugh, seem genuine and want to use their body to hold me tight while we cuddle are my preference.

    The last and most important part of your post is that some may not choose you because of the color of you skin, that’s their loss not yours. Don’t waste your time, cuddle with those of us that like chocolate!

  • [Deleted User]Bigguy4u (deleted user)

    Men are willing to pay by the hour for hugs, of course women have their pick of men.

  • AndiCuddlesAndiCuddles

    ???

    ???

  • AndiCuddlesAndiCuddles

    “Women excessive pickiness...” says the 41-year-old dude willing to cuddle 25-year-old to 30-year-old, non-feminist, chauvinist-embracing, cis-women.

    Lollerskates.

  • [Deleted User]chococuddles (deleted user)

    Women rule CuddleComfort.

    Women rule all sites like this including dating sites.

    It's not news. It's not gonna change.

    Offline as well. Dance clubs, night clubs (ladies night), even strip clubs (took an ex to one by her request and she got in free).

    Even in SNAP'S "I've got the Power" song the guy raps and the lady sings "I've got the power".

    She knows what's up.

  • tawnytawny

    @Blondi, your first response is very well-expressed! I'm in the same boat as a single woman who is self-sufficient and productive. I appreciate that you pointed out that you certainly can't be picky and who you involve in your world. I'm not to focus on the looks myself, but I certainly am not apologetic that I no it's perfectly fine for me to exclude someone just as it is fine for them to do that of me. Thank you for expressing that.

  • KempistKempist

    This is a response to the OP. Of course this site is a money portal. Its not rude that the women don't text you back. I wouldn't characterize the women here as being manipulative. It's more prosaic than that. It's simply a site for business women looking to make money and for men looking to pay for a service. A business transaction. Nothing more or nothing less. If the women are inundated with more messages than they can handle sure they are going to be picky. I wouldn't fret over it or take it personal if they ignore you. Business is business.

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