I noticed that while there is a fair number of active users, some towns/city may have fewer than others. The best cuddlers are either pros nearby, or sparse and few in-between to ones liking. I propose casual virtual Zoom/Google-meet hangouts starting just 1:1 no matter the distance between your pen-pal. Discuss your day, get to know each other, network if you'd like but maintain a safe space to allow an appropriate amount of emotional unloading. Nothing complex, no pressure, just talking on a regular basis. Like a check-in with a platonic trusted future friend. That way when someone asks "How are you?" You don't have to tell a fib and say "I'm fine."