Any one with experience know how to go about it? It seems like a safer bet then going to someone's home. But at the same time I feel like it would be awkward.
Public cuddles happen frequently. Movie theatres, parks, train rides, etc. If you can get over the initial apprehension of cuddling in a park, then it can be nice and practical.
Train ride? I never thought of that. It something I'd like to do.
Public cuddles really are the best and one of my favorite ways of cuddling. From a practicality stand point they are an excellent safe way to have that public meet. Hand holding, arm in arm, sitting close on a bench, better yet bringing a blanket and laying in a beautiful spot.
Train rides yes, ferry rides, even busses or subways would work. Besides full body cuddling is an advanced way to cuddle and should only be practiced after both cuddlers are comfortable with each other and determined if they mesh well. Keeping it as casual public cuddles let's each person determine personal issues like hygiene, breath, hair, even body shape without possibly missing out or not enjoying a full body cuddle because one or more of those things are a turn off for you. It also gives you a chance to discuss those important housekeeping details like saying no, asking for a change in cuddle positions, discussing what's safe to touch and what's off limits. If things get awkward like first cuddles sometimes do, being in public is an excellent way to reset and try a new approach. This time of year haunted houses, corn mazes, apple picking, all great ways to grab ahold of each other for a few minutes or more. Standing in line at an amusement park or other activity you can wrap your arms around each other and do standing spoons. Leaning against a railing watching crowds, front to back, arms around each other is an excellent way to kill time and get to know each other. Sitting on a couch or large chair at a coffee shop. In a booth of a restaurant. Oh how about a Friday night local football game? Bring a large blanket and wrap the two of you up on the bleachers! Public cuddling is amazing! You might find you like it so much you want to keep on doing it!! Sleigh rides anyone? Ice skating?
Have fun, get creative!
Had a good one on a tour boat once. You get to see a nice city, from a different angle and you hear a lot about the city, while cuddling!
@PaulaDahla - all those things sound great but not if it's costing $80 an hour. I can't imagine paying that to stand in line at an amusement park. Most of the things you mentioned sound like dates, not cuddling.
In addition to the cuddler's fee there is the expense of the amusement park or ice skating or whatever. That's an expensive date without any true connection (as opposed to a connection based only a business arrangement). If I'm putting all that expense out for a date it's not going to be with someone who doesn't give a fig about me and who is with me only because I'm paying her.
Gentlemen, the OP's question was about public cuddling and overcoming the awkwardness of it. Specifically as a way to ensure safety. I do believe that's what I answered. Almost every single activity I suggested is available free of charge or under $10.00 per person. @UKGuy & @snugbuddy , I must have missed the part that stated what could be done in public with a professional cuddler.
I'm not a professional, so I am fully free with proper consent. I'm also a person that needs to touch, so a public cuddle session with me wouldn't leave you feeling you lacked in cuddles, you'd be satisfied because I have every intention of satisfying myself. These things may sound like dates but they're actually human touch. Testing personalities, gauging our comfort levels with each other, much like dating yes except without the pressure to impress.
Honestly, all the talking and getting to know each other happening on this site before even meeting is like dating to me. If I wanted endless back and forth I would be on an actual dating site not here. Comfort isn't established repeatedly messaging on a site monitored by moderators, it's in person communication. Besides what if a person isn't a conversationalist and is much better in person?
This three minute video is about cuddle parties yes, but the reason I attached it is because not one of the anchors would be comfortable with that type of cuddling. Which from the posts of many on this site seem to establish that as the only type of cuddling possible. Full contact, intimate, private. Exactly the way cuddle parties are.
https://youtu.be/09lwpcCVQ4Q
I for one would NOT full on spoon anyone off this site without being extremely comfortable with them. There's only one person I've established a close enough connection with on this site that I'd consider laying on a bed with her the first time, because she understands cuddling the way I do. Professional cuddlers are meant to provide a service, as a therapy to people, not to learn everything about them before meeting. That is why the lists of rules and contracts are so specific and detailed. Most professionals aren't only full body contact, in fact some of our pro cuddlers on this site actually detail public cuddles and have a separate lower rate for those kinds of cuddles. Many people just aren't comfortable with that level of touch. I would never allow that type of cuddle as a beginning move unless they were a trained cuddlist, a cuddle party facilitator, or some other form of professional, such as a licensed therapist or social worker. I would however, participate in a cuddle party and have every plan to as part of my professional training.
Anyone that cuddles with me will start exactly the way I've described here and on other threads in these forums. But it will also be a quick meet because I'm busy. I don't have time to coo coo over messages trying to decide if I can lay on a bed with you. If he/she and I are willing, we will meet somewhere public and start establishing trust. In fact if you put me on a set of bleachers with a blanket, you would have a hard time keeping me off your lap! Precisely because it's public and I feel comfortable with the natural safeguards in that sort of public place. In my view, right or wrong, lap sitting in private is sexual, lap sitting in public is acceptable. I personally would be more willing to full on spoon someone in private than to sit on a lap privately.
These actually are great forms of beginning cuddling. Also who says that only one person is assuming responsibility for the cost of a haunted attraction, a sight seeing tour, a sporting event ticket, or even coffee? This is a mutual, free service and as such it's dutch, or, eventually maybe we take turns paying if there is payment required.
@Tallguy, that sounds like such a great experience. A perfect example of what I'm trying to illustrate.
Maybe if more men on here were willing to start slowly like this, not expect a full body session first thing they may be able to find a cuddler that will do it for free. Really, isn't any human touch better than no touch at all?
See the beauty today,
Paula
One more piece to this, I have occasion to work with a lot of people transitioning from prison or rehab. I am of the opinion that if a person has made a decision to put the past behind them and start a new life they are equal to any lawyer, doctor, garbage man, teacher or pastor. I fully embrace them as being equal to me and deserving of my time, attention, and affection.
My mom and grandma taught me not to leave the house looking anything less than properly dressed. So when I'm out I am usually presentable and clean, I'm polished but not fancy. Many of these men I take places or accompany on various tasks of reentry have a well established poor opinion of their former selves, as do the women. As a way of keeping up since I'm only 5'3" or lending moral support I often ask the men if I may take their arm. I ask their permission, I wait to receive it then I hold them close. I will sit thigh to thigh with them on occasion when they are really nervous and just place my hand on their arm, leg or back. I always ask them if I may touch them before I do something more intimate such as back or scalp scratch. Not a man yet hasn't come out of his self-imposed poor image of himself when I do this. Just by doing these small public cuddles I watch him relax, sit a little straighter, make an effort to clean up a bit more next time we meet, and develop more confidence. The women make the same changes because I am giving her a safe outlet for her need for affection. It's not drug, sexual, or abusive, many of the women have never received that type of touch and they soak it up, they get lots of side hugs and hand to hand contact also.
I am not a professional anything other than a life-experiencer so my thoughts behind these transformations is nothing more than my thoughts. I dress well and make an effort to be presentable and assured in public, because I am willing to embrace them and I dress, talk and present myself like the people they're going to meet they start to actually feel like they deserve the new life as well as respect. I see direct benefits of public cuddling with them and it's only light non-intimate type of cuddling. Only one man and three women have fallen back into that old life and I believe it's because the ones I work with have the added benefit of direct human contact in a non-threatening, safe, confidential way. I drive them to appointments, go in with them and wait in the endless lines with them. My public touch seems to be a direct confidence builder, a security blanket when fear hits, a touch stone of assurance.
Public cuddling is amazing, it's beneficial, and is extremely valuable. Just my two cents. Hope you got something good out of this @Bigguy4u. Besides public cuddles are quicker and easier to schedule because no extra prep work needs to be done to walk around a pond and feed the ducks or go sit at a coffee shop. Any touch is good touch!!
Enjoy, good luck!
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@PaulaDahla Here here! Great post response! Thank you!
@Sophiabeldris I just read your profile actually, you and I seem to have similar ideas about public and private cuddles!! Thanks
@PaulaDahla You are most welcome, and yes, I think that is probably correct about our ideas!
I cuddle almost exclusively with professionals. So I don't get this public cuddles concept. I would not pay to cuddle in public.
@MarvinNYC but would you cuddle with one individual for free? I agree with pauladahla, it doesn't seem like the question was would you pay a professional it was ways to cuddle in public while being safe. But I suppose I could be reading it wrong.
@MarvinNYC I agree with you I wouldn’t pay to cuddle in public nor would I expect someone to pay to cuddle in public. The question isn’t necessarily would you pay to cuddle in public, it could also be misinterpreted as simply would you cuddle in public. After an overnight cuddle instead of parting ways my cuddle and I spent time in public and it was because we wanted to not because he was paying me.
Those that think they are going to get lots of public cuddles with someone to get to know them before they cuddle May as well forget it.
I cuddled with a guy in a park. We started out walking holding hands, then sat on a park bench and snuggled a bit. Then I remembered I had a blanket in the car so we found a place in the shade under the trees, a bit away from the path, and snuggled on the ground. It was quite lovely to have a blue sky with clouds and trees overhead and bird songs. I recommend it.
@MarvinNYC : "I would not pay to cuddle in public."
Neither of us were pros. I didn't want to take a guy I'd just met home and he lived with a relative and didn't want to take me home, so the park was a good place.
Public cuddles wouldn't really work for me, and not just because I am a private person. Outdoors in public, it is my habit to maintain a certain degree of situational awareness at all times. It's not compatible with being completely relaxed and "off duty," which is exactly the kind of escape I seek in a cuddle session.