No judgement just hugs

mokissiamokissia
in General

I for one love and I am open to cuddling anyone, no matter age, gender, sex orientation my only basis is good conversation, agreement on boundaries and please let’s laugh.
I have heard about pros judging on how someone looks as to how open they are to cuddling someone.
Cuddlees - have you ever been judged and dismissed by a pro due to how you look?
Pros Cuddlers- Have you been judged and dismissed by how you look?
Does the way someone look determine how a session goes?
Do people judge on how someone looks to them hoping and thinking it could lead to more?
No judgement - Just curious why there is any judgement in a profession where we are to be empathetic and caring to those who are interested in being cuddled.

Comments

  • BrandiBrandi

    I never judge based off age, weight, race, gender, or by appearance in any sense. I’ve definitely had people reaching out being fearful of that and asking if I’m okay with certain aspects like that, it breaks my heart and definitely wonder if people have judged them prior to them reaching out to me. And have had people say “I hope I pass the photo test” but The only reason I ever ask for a photo if they don’t have a profile photo is simply so I know who I’m greeting and meeting outside and don’t accidentally mistake a stranger walking by for my cuddle buddy hahah but I’ve had incredible cuddles with people of all different sorts of appearances. For me, as long as people are kind and respectful I have no issues. 🤗♥️

  • TxTomTxTom

    Personal preferences are fine. Nobody should be upset by another person's personal preferences.

    Cuddlees - have you ever been judged and dismissed by a pro due to how you look?

    I don't know, but perhaps. I don't lose any sleep over it.

  • SpicyNSweetSpicyNSweet

    I will cuddle anyone who is respectful and I feel at ease with. Looks don't play into that at all for me as a pro.
    I'm sure I'm judged by others in various ways for my looks, whether positive or negative, though I don't often hear rude or negative things. Doesn't bother me though. It's just a part of being human. ☺️

  • Connecticut1977Connecticut1977

    Thank you so much for the discussion!!!! Just like with you, I DO NOT DISCRIMINATE against anyone regardless of race, age, gender, Disability, or size. I have cuddled with women and men. I enjoy both and would a Trans. DIVERSITY and INCLUSION is the way to go.

  • AntiqueWpatinaAntiqueWpatina

    @Brandi Welcome to the midwest soon. I'm close to Indy. Except for the cold winter weather, I think you'll like it. :)

  • BrandiBrandi

    Thank you! @Thenewestguy in actually most excited for the cold winters! Coming from Cali we never get any kind of winter really and I’m a sucker for the super cold hehe 🤗 perfect cuddle weather

  • CSnMUS87CSnMUS87

    Cuddlees - have you ever been judged and dismissed by a pro due to how you look?

    I don't have definitive proof of it, but I feel like that has happened a handful of times. Usually not with pros though, but it seems like it has indeed happened when I had messages ignored asking for a session with a greeting. Couldn't think of another reason why they'd ignore my messages for weeks or months but have sessions with others after that. Oh well if that's how they truly are, I don't think I'd want to spend my money on someone who would do that anyway. Might make for a less than great cuddle session if that's how they view their clients. Note that I'm saying this isn't my normal experience with pros, just a few out of the many who have messaged kindly. I also was under the impression that pros are not supposed to discriminate but that's hard to prove if they are anyway.
    Now when it comes to enthusiasts, there could be a lot more reasons why someone wouldn't reply or dismiss a person, so I just usually don't expect a reply and am surprised if I get more than one, or even more pleasantly surprised if it leads to an actual cuddle. It has happened but not often. I find it interesting that I seem to connect more with people from other states than locally. If only I could freely and easily travel or teleport.

  • MorpheusMorpheus
    edited March 7

    Cuddlees - have you ever been judged and dismissed by a pro due to how you look?

    My answer is no but I do often have pros ignore my message and I sometimes wonder why. I don’t think it’s appearance but may be my age or relationship status.

    I think most pros do not discriminate based on looks but…. I think a lot of pros will be pickier about who they have public sessions with based on looks as well as other factors.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    @CSnMUS87 there are precisely eleventeen thousand and ninety million reasons why a professional might ignore your message in the way you describe, and almost none of them have anything to do with you. Of the ones that are something to do with you, most of them are unavoidable, for example you remind them of their ex or their brother. Most likely your message came in on a day they weren't taking bookings and then it dropped off the bottom of the page and was forgotten.

    I take a considerable interest in professional cuddling matters and I have never encountered an authenticated case of a professional declining a booking on the grounds of looks. I have discussed this with professionals I know personally and they mostly didn't even understand the question.

    I can imagine it might happen with a new, young professional who doesn't fully understand what she's doing, but that type are mostly focussed on the money and would they really turn down a perfectly good booking?

  • AntiqueWpatinaAntiqueWpatina

    @Brandi Well you missed your opportunity this winter. It seemed abnormally cold this season. There was a time in the past where I LOVED walking at night in the snow, with snow falling. It was soooo tranquil. That time has passed, unfortunately. Of course, in the past I used to like walking in a fine rain... Time changes things unfortunately. Who knows...I may test ya on cuddling when you get moved. A bit of a drive not terrible...I might be up for it. You seem very very kind... :) Stay warm... Bob

  • mokissiamokissia

    I personally have a job so depending on when someone messages I may be delayed to respond. I wish we had a messages like on Facebook to be notified directly and not email.

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    You can turn pop-up notifications on in Settings.

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🫂 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Junkie 📷 Shutter Bug

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