Ok, confess. As a man, we are great big spoons and it comes very naturally for us but don’t you guys crave to be the small spoon sometimes?
I guess it’s the child in us seeking comfort lol
I do both
@disneysamurai im a little shy to request small spoon. But it’s nice 👌
Don’t feel awkward requesting small spoon! I loveeee being the big spoon and feeling a man totally relax in my arms.
I was taught to like being little spoon by professional cuddlers. One in particular, who absolutely insisted. She was quite right.
@SunnyCuddles7 any experienced professional cuddler will have endured requests too bizarre to imagine. A guy asking for little spoon is a relief.
It turns out to be an illusion
I’ve never been able to seek help or comfort since I was a child. I just dealt with things on my own. I’m ready to help and comfort others though. Not really sure why I’ve always been like that.
The answers here are reassuring.
Thank you
Being able to be big spoon is great for my ego. Lol.
I love being the big spoon
There’s a loving strength in the big spoon and an eager vulnerability in the little spoon. The two work well together lol
It’s great some of you ladies like being the big spoon at times 🫶
I had a really big male professional cuddler Let me in on a little secret (according to him). Every big guy wants to be the little spoon sometimes. Probably could modify that to say every human wants to be the little spoon sometimes. In my practice, I’m happy to oblige.
My hope is that everyone reaches a level of comfort with their cuddle buddy that they can ask to be held in the manner that their heart seeks, whether it’s a feeling of calm, safety, or sweet childhood remembrances.
I don't mind being a little spoon, but usually prefer being the big spoon. I will be the little spoon if the cuddle partner suggests it. The only time I've really sought being a little spoon was in the context of a relationship when either I was feeling sick to my stomach or sad and crying about something. Then being held like that does feel quite comforting. I haven't been in any cuddle sessions where I was sick in any way or feeling unhappy though. I feel like I would just stay home if I wasn't feeling up to it.
Both.
There is no spoon.
@JerryAtrick Am I the one?
Both would be great and really just depend on the mood i suppose , but i dont recall ever being the little spoon. 🤷♂️
@BluboySnugs If you have to ask, you aren't the one. But you already knew that.
My favorite partner and I just move around as is required when body parts get numb, etc. We don't pay attention or use labels, just go with the flow. Both have happened at times. I've never felt the overwhelming need to be a spoon, big or small.
I'm a short guy, so I love being the little spoon. I like being held like a cute little puppy. haha
However, there are times where I feel like leading and I be the big spoon; that usually means lying on my back with the other person lying on my chest. It works for my size.
I like both, I find a lot of men love the opportunity to snuggle up as the little spoon. If they're a lot bigger than me, I call it a jetpack 😆
I had so much utensil confusion that I got myself banned
Utensil confusion 🤣 silly goose
With my regular cuddle partner, I roll over to be little spoon on a regular, but infrequent basis. Usually when I'm feeling sad and vulnerable. As a male, I'm usually the big spoon, which feels more natural, especially when my partner is petite. I prefer big spoon. However, I enjoy surrendering as lil spoon on occasion by curling up in the fetal position and waiting to be enveloped. 🤗
Both is good. I appreciate being a big spoon as a woman.
I think it's just a personal choice
Little 🥄
Big spoon(for me) is coddling, nurturing…. Creating space for the client to let go…. Little spoon - is me being in the position for receiving (female energy receives masculine touch)
It’s a beautiful dance of touch and synchronized breathing (just “being”) close to one another.
little but it rarely happens and i get so appreciative of it that i want to turn around and hold them back, i only remember it happening once, i remember being big spoon a lot cause it's what the other person needed
If it's a trio situation, and you get to be the medium spoon, you get the best of both! 🧍🏼♀️🥄🧍🏼
@PrincessSummer "jet pack" LMAO...adorable!
When the Big Spoon is actually a smaller person, I like to call the “The Jetpack” lol
I am typically the Big Spoon and love it that way. I enjoy wrapping someone up.
I prefer being a small spoon (I am 5'4 only) but if the vibe is right, I can try being the big spoon