Respecting Boundaries in Cuddle Sessions

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in Pro Cuddling

I recently had a booking where the client initially seemed fine, but once I clarified that my sessions are strictly platonic and held in the living room (not bedroom), he became uncomfortable and chose not to proceed.

This made me realize how important it is for both clients and providers to be fully aligned before booking.

Cuddle sessions are not a loophole for anything beyond platonic connection. Clear communication and respect for boundaries should be the standard.

Providers…..do you find it helpful to restate boundaries upon arrival, or do you screen more heavily beforehand?

Comments

  • BrandiBrandi
    edited April 2

    Totally agree that being aligned is a must beforehand. But In my opinion boundaries should only have to be stated once. I’ll be clear that it’s a platonic experience in messages, and it’s very clearly posted on my profile. they also signed the cc contract, they know it’s platonic. No excuses that they “don’t know” when that’s 3x that it’s been stated. I don’t feel like it’s needed to go overboard by saying it more than that. I’ve learned that Anyone who is a boundary pusher they will push them weather they are stated once, twice or a million times, because they just don’t care. whoever has bad intentions will make their way in, I’ve accepted that at this point unfortunately.. it scares off a lot of new pros who get targeted the most and it ruins it for the people who have a kind heart and could really benefit from a service like this and there is tons of cuddle clients who have the biggest and kindest hearts. I refuse to let the bad apples ruin it for me or for them.
    After doing this for so long It’s very easy for me to spot a person who is being respectful and trying to inquire exactly what’s okay and what’s not/trying to be as respectful to me as they can vs someone who is clearly looking for more than a cuddle once the moment comes to being in a cuddle.
    There’s unfortunately the people like the dude I just saw a few days ago who was just a great liar and agreed to platonic, said he read my profile and when they got here just blatantly asked me for extras if he paid more in the middle of a session. I said absolutely not very firmly and let him sit in the uncomfortable situation he created. that’s happened to me on multiple occasions and then of course you get the straight up sexual harassment where people try to force themselves on pros and that’s another level of disgusting and truly scary.. 🤷‍♀️ Pros deserve respect. I’ll always advocate for pros and the hard things they go through sometimes. 😭

  • Sheena123Sheena123

    It doesn’t help that there are a lot of pros that have platonic allllll over their profile but give extras on the side so most of the creepy dudes know to be good on the site. Thats why I don’t go off site.
    Also, some guys have said that they get off on trying to push those boundaries so even if you mention it multiple times, they’re either going to hope you’re one of those spicy ones that says that to save their asses OR they don’t care and they want that “chase”.

    All we can do is clarify that we’re platonic and report if they push.

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