You seem extremely unhinged and angry . I’d suggest you get help.
@Mike what does anything you’re saying have to do with anything I’ve said. I said I don’t know any rapists and I don’t know anyone who has sexually assaulted a woman. Wtf. I’d be surprised? I have a handful of close friends and no , none of them have sexually assaulted or raped a woman. I knew it was a matter of time before the man bashing would start up again here.
@Kense - nobody is man bashing. Try researching the statistics instead of going off of personal feelings.
@kense facts have been stated. I don't understand why that's so upsetting for you.
"I don't know anyone who has sexually assaulted a woman"
Yeah, cause people who hurt others like that just wander around announcing it.
@Kense So typical to reduce a woman to being unwell and ‘crazy’ simply for stating facts and concerns. Yea maybe we should all go back to not addressing it, plenty of women echoing the same experience but let’s not talk about it because feelings may get hurt. You’re right, it’s not worth the trouble of hurting your feelings. My experience is irrelevant, and so are the experiences of everyone who resonated. It’s all sunshine and rainbows everybody!!! 🤫
Plenty of men read this and contributed and or reached out to me without challenging my experience, without getting butt hurt, with sincere concern and compassion, and without making it about them.
Great job with making someone else's story and experience about yourself and your personal grievances @Kense 👏
Lmao typical here we go
Facts ? Such as most men know rapists ? Really what facts are you referring to? There’s clearly a woman in here agreeing with me but you all in typical forum fashion choose to hang up on the bad male
@Kense - not sure what you are even talking about. Nobody claimed anything about you. We are simply sharing statistics.
Stepping away.
@Kense i understand your point about man-bashing … that is true and a counter reflection of the violence that many here have seen in a different way - men, women show it differently but both echo the same in the society in a different way. Personal experiences: I’m very sad sad sad to say that a considerable percentage of my dance partners, platonic cuddlers, and girlfriends, wives … considerable number of them have experienced sexual or male violence in one form or another (some by relatives even) - it is heart rending. To the extreme that when they find an extremely soft man then they tend to exhibit the same violence on them but in a different way - we are human. … none of my male or female friends have ever said that they violated someone so I agree with the counter argument as well - that is correct too. There are some people with whom other people feel safe to talk with and share their suffering (I’m not pointing a finger, it’s just a natural thing… people want to share their vulnerability but want to ensure it is not shared around) … There is DV in same sex couples too. Again I only have personal experiences nothing formal: i feel that if you have the lucky chance to meet a person who would go out of their way to feed the hungry or an orphan (secretly!) and a person who is fair to their opponents in the moment when angry against them … THAT person may be most compassionate towards their partner… in other words see how people behave with their money and how fair they are in unfair situations….
Yeah I have had a similar experience . That’s why I’m not consistently on here . The men I have met have crossed my boundaries. I’ve only met three.
@lilspoon1 I'm sorry to hear that. Shame on them. I hope they get banned. I hope you're doing OK with it.
I agree with @TheMidnightOwl I'm Not here to bash on @Kense I heard we were serving sunshine and rainbows 🌈 🌞 🌬 Use caution. Be responsible and take care of yourself bc you just never know! Pros, Cuddle buddies and Enthusiasts alike, let's all be safe!
Being responsible for yourself doesn't always keep you safe unfortunately. And the blame for that lands squarely on the person violating the rights of the other. End of story.
So because cause I asked for proof to the claims here that most men know a rapist , I’m the bad guy. There are no stats or facts that back this claim. So your fathers, brothers etc all know rapists?
If I said most women are gold diggers how would that go over here? How about Most Black people have committed crimes? How does that sound?
Anytime you throw most in front of something it’s usually based around emotion not facts. Then I’m the only one to get a time out when midnight owl started calling myself and another member names. No biased moderation there.
Apparently stats are difficult for you to comprehend. I'm sorry to hear that. Perhaps you'll get there. No need to behave in woman hating or anti black ways there buddy
A quick Google search can be a very useful tool to answer questions and gather the information and/or proof one is seeking:
@Adragayle 🙌 And what's worse is how underreported SA is. So the stats we have are horrific, but the real numbers are even more horrific. We can't pretend this away. It's the truth.
@Kense You're an adult with access to the interwebs . Nobody owes you stats just because you refuse to look it up for yourself .
@SpicyNSweet sadly, reporting only hurts the woman and/or the child (coined by some as "underage woman")
@Kense - Nobody even said that most men are rapist so I'm not sure where those comparisons are coming from. It was said that most men knows a rapist. Unless you have the power of telepathy, you don't know everything about somebody. They don't go around announcing when they sexually assaulted someone.
For starters “buddy” I’m Black and was making a point “buddy” . Mike you seem to be having trouble. Please don’t put words I never said in my reply. My response is clear, I said nothing about most men being rapists.
You can assume anything about a person, you don’t know what anybody does in private assumptions don’t play into data. Everything posted about men knowing a rapist are not actual studies, just maybes. Just because you meet someone doesn’t mean you know them either.
....That's how numbers work. 🤦
While you’re trying to be witty , thats actually not how studies work. There needs to be a segment of the male population who were asked how many men do you know have raped a woman.
Im not sure why people have to get so defensive about the subject when it doesnt even apply to them. I'm sure the people who knew Brock Turner thought he was a great guy until he wasn't. Rapists appear like a normal person on the outside.
Weird level of defensiveness for sure, @Mike403
Quote from the article below: “Life-time prevalence of IPV in LGB couples appeared to be similar to or higher than in heterosexual ones: 61.1% of bisexual women, 43.8% of lesbian women, 37.3% of bisexual men, and 26.0% of homosexual men experienced IPV during their life, while 5.0% of heterosexual women and 29.0% of heterosexual men experienced IPV.”
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6113571/#:~:text=Life-time prevalence of IPV,of heterosexual men experienced IPV.