I’m going to say that I’ve had a ton of men try to break my boundaries or ask imply stupid shit but I’m pretty firm with them and they usually stay in their lane. I will also say…. Ladies…. Please carry. Whether it’s a weapon or mace…. Especially If you have never met someone before. I will be damned if I’m going to meet a stranger unprepared. Ive only met one man who really pissed me off so bad that left after 15 minutes, with 3 hours worth of money, and immediately reported him. He was not who he posted pics of, or was 30 years older, insisted that everyone on the site sells cat and really was trying to grope me. I was not having it. I’m thick skinned so it didn’t deter me from continuing to cuddle(I make a decent amount here and have met really cool people) but for someone new, young or mentally unprepared to deal with a man like that…. They would have lost their fucking mind. I’m always in fear for the women who aren’t prepared. Be READY.
We’re really SWvestigating now? Haters can’t stand to see a woman separating platonic and prudish. Be yourself? No, be beige. God forbid someone exist attractively, vibrant and stylish, oh heavens no, they must be a sex worker. Get a grip.
@RebeccaKe I don’t think charging $150 per hour is outrageous…. Nor does it imply SW. if you look around at different cities, people’s karma and how the cuddler looks it makes a difference on what they can and should charge. For instance, I’m charging less than what I could be based off the other pro cuddlers in my city…. Atlanta is huge, has a very busy airport and a ton of people coming in and out so I’m able to charge more(I could easily charge $150 and still be in the normal range for this area) I would say a SW is going to charge wayyyyyyyyy more than $150 per hour around here 🤷♀️. However, you live in Sacramento, which is smaller, with a slower pace and less going on in the city. So maybe for your area, you feel $150 is high? I don’t know….
To the men out here: Even if someone is a SW by chance I don’t think they can coerce a man to be non-platonic. How about just paying them like a pro and remain platonic with them. Maybe this gives them an easier life…or they start to respect you for not using them…Seems men exploiting them equal to the darkness of their own hearts.
Also, I’m not saying that women don’t coerce men to be non-platonic. Just that their coercive mechanism is different and mostly requires emotional involvement at some level.
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@LeilaBags Thanks for the reply. You answered my questions objectively and helped me understand your point of view. The rest of the responses "dogpiling" me - as one person earlier put it - seemed to stem from either low reading comprehension skills, some weird white knight syndrome, or personal projections - which I found to be the funniest, their lack of self-awareness.
Just out of pure curiosity, how much did your long-time psychologist charge you hourly - the rate which you say would really upset me?
@justpopcorn Her rate was 400 an hour. It’s when I lived in NYC.
@LeilaBags I agree with you… I think a lot of people are maybe just upset that they can’t charge that much and still have clients. I charge my hourly rate, but also make sure my parking is covered at hotels, and if the drive is more than 15 minutes, I’m going to charge them for my travel and time. So sometimes it can be upwards of a couple hundred for one hour of my time. I live in Atlanta and we are full of strippers and sw….. There’s absolutely no way in hell that a sw or dancer (who looks like you or me) is going to ONLY charge 120-180 per hour. 🤷♀️🤣 I do not think this is an unfair charge. Now….. if we looked “different” or lived in cities with a smaller population, less visitors, less traffic, and a slower pace…. Sure… maybe THEN we should lower the rate? But not currently. lol. Keep being graceful, and kind…. You’re making cuddles happy! Your cuddlers love you and that’s what matters! 🩷
I believe it can be both things at the same time . It could be that some cuddle pros are giving extras based on their rates. And it could be that they are not. It's slippery and dangerous to make assumptions based on generalizations and absolutes. If you have proof, report them and see how it pans out. If not, quit being a grumpy baby about what someone charged to cuddle and stop slut shaming because you wish you wish a cuddle pro had cheaper rates. And never assume that someone's rates or appearance gives you leverage to be a creepy weirdo and expect something out of it. I swear it's like who let the grade schoolers out around here sometimes
@oneprettygirl I’m in Santa Monica at the moment and getting around LA without a car is so expensive I’m coming to realization that if people want me to travel a distance I’d have to charge even more. It takes an hour to get to some places and then to get back. I find that people that can afford it are never the ones that complain. There was a time I didn’t have minimums and I would be busy all day since it was more on call because people would book last minute rather than planning ahead now that I have a little one I’m more selective with my time and would rather plan ahead hence the 2 hour minimum.
@justpopcorn I’m glad you have now come to acknowledge the point of view many in here had, which you initially resisted.
Just be nicer from the start next time. It’s free to do so. #”weird”White knight syndrome ✌️
There’s absolutely no way in hell that a sw or dancer (who looks like you or me) is going to ONLY charge 120-180 per hour.
Apparently what’s happening is that some SWs on here charge a “low” rate, because they expect or know that they’ll get cash under the table or payment via other means for additional services 😓
I’ve even had some contact me on here with a low rate or “enthusiast” label, but tell me they only meet up if they get cash for additional stuff 😪
Edit: It’s like they charge $120 an hour, but that’s only the entry rate 😳
This is super important for this website and all users. Any nude or sexual act should be reported and that user should be banned immediately. being strict is very important during those situations and if there is any safety issue that can't be contained, local police officers are only there to help you.
@Adam_Prof you have faaaaaaar more faith in the criminal justice system than I do lol
@SpicyNSweet sure, as I have been a part of it, so I'm pretty sure that it can be such a big support.
I use this site to maintain a presence and now exclusively meet enthusiasts at community cuddle events so that I KNOW they have been trained around consent and what platonic means. And I get to sense into their energy and make sure its a match. It is not intuitive in this culture on what "platonic" energy means. I understand that I have geographical privilege.
@quincyq03 I’m sorry that happened to you. I do hear a lot of stories about such things happening and have been asked for menu pricing which is always strange to me but I do know it happens. That’s why a lot of us screen clients before we ever meet them. For the amount of people that contact me I meet a very small amount and try to report such issues so others don’t deal with them.
@Adam_Prof how dismissive of our suffering. Thanks. ✌️
On the contrary i felt @Adam_Prof was pragmatic and supportive
said something, changed my mind
@HUGGGGGG perhaps that was his intention, but simply saying if there's unsafe situations your police officer will help you is incredibly simplistic and not at all reality for many victims of SA. Acknowledging the system is broken should just be something we can all agree on.
For example, my daughter was 14 when an adult male coerced her and manipulated her. We immediately reported him for statutory grape, and haven't heard a thing and it's been close to a year. Unfortunately this is far from the only situation like that out there.
@SpicyNSweet i hear you - I see what you mean…and I’m very sorry to learn of your daughter’s experience, heart wrenching…
Thank you
@SpicyNSweet I’m so sorry to hear. I have three daughters myself and have dealt with SA in my younger years. Police can be useless. Therapy definitely helped me a lot. Hopefully your daughter is doing ok and knows none of it as her fault. If you haven’t already maybe seek out a good therapist she can confide in.
@LeilaBags thank you very much. She's been in therapy, yes. She's very loved and supported. DBT was the most helpful, as has been getting her a puppy❤️ I appreciate you!
My first cuddle from here I was a victim of SA. It sucks. And as a guy, it's hard to find any support for it, without people thinking that since I'm physically stronger, I should have protected myself better.
This is why I'm not a big fan of generalizations or statistics. I look normal and am socially normal. But a lot of times in my life I have been an outlier because I carry this depth inside of me.
I've also had 2 people from massage places SA me, and they did in such a violent way, that I don't even think it was a sexual attraction thing. More like they had power over me. I don't even know. The places I went to seemed legit. There were no "offerings". Just an older Asian woman had rubbed me up and down through that area so fast and harsh with the sheet over me. It hurt. I didn't know what to do.
Regardless of gender, I think people who have a certain innocence to them get knocked around or run into others that try to reach in and corrode that. I admittingly have a certain naivety to me. I try to approach everything in a straight forward manner. It gets me trouble at times.
I've become more protective of myself. But it's been a road to say the least.
Im someone that had used both escorting services and cuddling in the past. I dont use escorting services anymore but thats probably a reason i can be platonic because i dont come to this site for that. When i had my first account 10 years ago pros were charging $60-80 an hour while escorts then were charging $250 an hour. When the FOSTA/SESTA act was passed and escort advertising sites were banned there was an influx of escorts registering here and pros id see would raise their rates because people were getting more handsy.
Escorts are now $350-410 an hour while some cuddlers charge $250 an hour. Even though they are much cheaper than an escort i like to book 2-3 hours so once we get into the $500-750 territory they start to price people out who are platonic such as myself. People are free to charge what they want but ive seen a few cuddlers who are now banned charge $100 an hour to reduce what goes to the site and tell me their "menu" upon arrival and then boot me out for wasting their time if im not gonna purchase "upgrades."
@SpicyNSweet I am sorry. She did not have to go through it. We hardly think how our actions impact others. Very happy to hear she's very loved and supported and been to therapy.
My ex-partner was a victim. Before I met her, she was forced into druggs and used by a couple for their pleasure. Though she went to therapy, seemed fine but later reelapsed, did not find joy in life anymore and took that extreme step.
@Huggycatbear - I am sorry it happened to you. There are predators everywhere. gender is not an exception. When I was growing up, I know this man probably in late 30s, used many street children for his needs. We were little kids, from slums, vulnerable. A small candy offer was enough to let anybody do anything literally. Mid 90s south east part of India. There was no system we were a trash.
@consciousseeker thank you so much. I'm really sorry about your ex and what happened to those children back home. How horrific. 💔💔 I hope he didn't harm you.