I see providers blocking for no reason when you just requested for change of a date and time kind of really rude behavior If you can't accommodate people needs then why you doing this work ?
@pjaiswal I notice that your profile is new as of April. In another thread it's brought up that the marketing for the site can set up a false expectation of the immediate availability of people for connecting.
Reading through these forums, especially stickied posts and FAQs is a good way to start to understand the actual culture of the community. Among the things you'll notice are that professionals very often experience boundary violations, assault and attempted assault, harassment, etc. On top of that, they may also be inundated with requests that aren't necessarily genuine (such as people scheduling and then canceling or rescheduling).
Even more importantly, professional cuddlers aren't a "public accommodation", like storefront hair-stylists, massage therapists, where as long as you're following basic public courtesy and have the funds, you can expect to receive service. Professional cuddlers choose whether or not they want to take someone on as a client. The initial contacts are as much them interviewing you as it is you seeing if you want to work with them. There should be zero expectation that any given professional cuddler will accept any particular person as a client.
In other words, even if the pro's only reason was that having a change in schedule inconvenienced them, and they didn't want to be inconvenienced, that's totally within their rights, and they don't owe any of us an explanation. If they've had people demand explanations from them before, they may have started blocking out of pre-emptive self-protection.
Also, remember that professionals usually invest more time than just the time in session. Doubly so if they're hosting. Accommodating scheduling change requests when they've already juggled things to make a first appointment fit can be a bridge too far (especially when now they have less confidence that a client will stick to the new appointment).
Finally, posts like this, even if you feel as though you're being genuine, especially with the poll encouraging people to dog-pile, are going to come across to many pros as showing a kind of entitlement that they will not want to deal with in a session, as it suggests a client is more likely to feel entitled in the session. Which can translate into boundary violations, assault, and harassment.
I'd again encourage you to move on from concerns about that particular interaction, read up and learn about the community culture, and go from there.
@kendrayk74 beautifully written response. Thank you.
Thanks @BlueIris ! Is it okay if I DM you with a question about your volunteer history in your profile?
@pjaiswal I have some questions. Did you have an actual session booked on the site? If yes, how soon before the actual scheduled session did you request a schedule change?
I got blocked because I viewed someone's profile and didn't book them. It's like Apple banning you from their stores because you didn't buy any of their products... but what can you do?
@Mike403
You can go give your money to another pro 💯
Who cares let them block all they want. It's better than them not responding. At least you know they aren't interested instead continuing to message hoping for a response after they originally said they would meet. I would rather be blocked than be ghosted. It's more honest.
To add to the great points made by @kendrayk74 -
Setting a boundary is never rude - especially in the context of a consent-heavy industry. Blocking people is communicating a boundary: they are saying they do not wish to engage with you. This mentality of "saying no is rude" is precisely why rape culture is currently so difficult to counter. They are rooted in the same entitlement to (mostly women's) time, energy, skills, and labor.
It doesn't matter why you were blocked - learning to accept "no" and rejection is a vital skill for interacting with other autonomous adults out in the world, and for your own internal peace.
If there was a booking in place, the client requested to reschedule and the pro blocked the client, doesn’t that mean that the pro cancelled? If the pro cancelled in less than 12 hours of the session, per the site rules, she owes him a discount on a future session. Considering she blocked him, there would be no future session. How would the infraction be handled?
@Morpheus moderating is an art, not a arithmetical exercise. It's never as simple as any hypothetical example because it's always about two human beings interacting over text. Frankly it's not far short of a miracle that it ever works at all, never mind that it works most of the time.
Last minute cancellations by either party are difficult for the site to do anything about. But making a habit of it will win you a one-way ticket to ban camp.
I had to cancel on a pro at the last minute once due to a medical emergency. I offered to pay her half per the site rules. She said she didn’t want it and was just glad that I was okay and wanted to reschedule which we did. That’s a very kind, sweet reply and gesture that I would hope most pros would give.