Talking to no picture in profile users..

laylanielaylanie
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I'm trying not to be bias, but I feel like the ones who refrain from putting a profile picture tend to want to meet up immediately, and demand a way to contact outside of the website (asking for phone number or email or Instagram etc). I really love the concept of this site but I feel really uncomfortable when this happens and not sure if maybe I'm just overreacting or if I just have the luck of a black cat. I've had some good luck in finding people but it is usually with a person who has a profile pic. Out of curiosity, does anyone have this kind of profile bias or notice a certain type of user on this platform?

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  • UKGuyUKGuy

    Ask them to send you a photo. Problem solved! Also. look back at previous threads where people explain the many valid reasons why they don't post a profile photo.

  • laylanielaylanie

    Thanks @UKGuy. I did ask one but insisted that he have my Instagram to do so which seemed a bit of a fake answer. I can understand not having one but I dont like the shady answer I seem to get when I ask. I even had someone introduce themselves as one name. I gave contact details, then he said his name was actually something different. It's just putting a bad light on my experience here is all and wanted to I know if this is just normal or just my luck...

  • CuddleStellaCuddleStella

    My experience has been that ‘no photos’ don’t indicate anything. I’ve had folks WITH photos request non-platonic things which is surprising because now their faces are known and if they tried recreating a profile, they would be picked out easily as the members who got banned earlier for requesting non-platonic things. They’re the ones who would want to take communication off site before booking a time anyway.

    No photo members don’t exactly indicate any foul play. There could be different reasons why they don’t have a photo and sometimes it’s discretion because they are either embarrassed or unsure about the site and being seen on it. They probably never bothered to upload a pic because it flew over their heads to do so or because maybe they’re on their phones without a decent one to upload. Some folks rather put a placer photo of some cute or interesting graphic.

  • laylanielaylanie

    @stellarosass that is a fair point. Maybe I just happen to have a bad streak then. Personally I really don't care what picture is in the profile just things that I noticed since I've joined. Needed a sanity check.

  • CaringSoulCaringSoul

    I agree with @stellarosass. I've got many wonderful clients who has no profile pics, but they sent me one upon my request. Some clients are very private so they don't put profile photo, but they have no problem sending it upon request. Clients with profile photo is no indication that they are safe clients. I've reported some of them for looking for non platonic services or pushing my boundaries during cuddle session.

  • OceanLoverOceanLover

    Hi Lalanie. I'm not comfortable posting my picture on my profile on this site, OR using my real name in the first few contact messages. Once I feel fairly comfortable I'm talking to a trustworthy person, I disclose more. I don't mean to be shady, just careful. So some people not being forthcoming at first might be shady, and others might just be trying to take good care at first. :)

  • david19752016david19752016

    I don’t have a photo on the site but would be fine sharing that privately with a cuddler

  • CreativeCuddlesCreativeCuddles

    I had a cuddle recently with someone I had been talking to for a couple weeks. No picture, no bio, no nothing. He emailed me and asked a few questions, said he was interested in booking and shared his photo. In this case he is so afraid to be caught he didn’t tell me his correct age until we spoke. I think he added 3 years. He is like a lot I have spoken to, they don’t get the affection they need at home which is why they wanted to try this. If it means no picture and no Info I am ok with that but they have to be honest after an email or two and not when we are ready to meet. He didn’t even want to leave feedback or me for him but he was the most kind and gentle man and it was a pleasure to cuddle with him and we will be cuddling again in November.

  • PaulaDahlaPaulaDahla

    Definitely don't let it discourage you from talking with them or starting your screening process on them. I've had great luck with couple pictures(blue/pink couple), in fact I just went through my pages of messages and none of the no picture couples have been banned. At least three of the photo ones have.

    You are probably getting deluged any way since each member is on the ticker up top for at least two weeks. I finally asked one man from California why he was contacting me along with what felt like every other man on here since I usually use an object for my profile not a picture. He told me I was still scrolling two weeks after joining!

    Most of the no picture men readily send pictures like mentioned above, in fact I can think of at least one who sent it in his initial contact email.

    It's a lot to learn, I'm still learning and I'm on week 7! I didn't enjoy this week's lesson. Yuck Still I needed to learn it.

    It'll get better @laylanie

    Paula

  • [Deleted User]Valen12 (deleted user)

    Im not really a fan of cameras or having my picture taken but if i schedule with someone and she ask for it then i'll send her one

  • laylanielaylanie

    Thanks all! I will have an open mind on it! Now that I'm past the newbie displayed on the front page phase, it starts to make sense now the type of messages I was receiving.

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