Unusual interactions

missingcuddles4missingcuddles4
edited June 17 in General

I believe I'm the issue. But I guess I need some reassurance that its not all me somehow. I'm relatively new here. I've had conversations on here with 2 women so far. Both lasted a couple of weeks.

Interaction 1 said she didnt want to chat to me anymore as I had gone 24 hours without replying to her. I had a long day at work and fell asleep almost immediately when I got home. Partly because I hadn't slept the night before through messaging her all night. I had 2 hours sleep then a long day at work. We had been messaging for about 2 weeks up to then.

Interaction 2 lasted about a week and half. Things going well again until she started saying she wanted intimate things rather than just cuddling. Then wanting to give me an email address to message her on but I kept messaging to this site with her. This was then followed by a "I think I would be better with a younger man" then a block.

These two sets of experiences have really made me think if its me thats an issue? Up until the block and the no longer wanting to talk to me, I thought they were genuine and thought I came across as that too to them.

What am I doing wrong? 😕

Comments

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    Please report the one who wanted more than platonic cuddling. It’s against the rules.

  • disneysamuraidisneysamurai

    Are these pros you’re talking to or are they enthusiasts?

    The first one I wouldn’t text back and forth for two weeks without setting up at least a virtual call. Texts get “lost in the sauce” after some time.

    The second one sounds like a scammer.

  • pmvinespmvines

    First scenario you dodged a bullet and are better off without that kind of controlling emotionally unstable and needy personality type .

    Second scenario sounds like potential scammer luring you with sex talk to go offsite

  • missingcuddles4missingcuddles4

    Thank you for your replies. Both were enthusiasts.

    I think perhaps I didnt want the first one to feel pressured from me so I mentioned but didn't push having a call together in that time. That's on me.

    I'll report the second one. Its put me off a little just because I know this site isnt supposed to be a hook up site.

  • missingcuddles4missingcuddles4

    Thank you @pmvines . In hindsight, I think all 3 of you guys who have replied are correct here. I feel a little silly!

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    The first one might have a point. I set an egg timer after every message I send. I like eggs and can usually have some ready in under 20 minutes, hence if I like you as a potential cuddle partner you should be ready in under 20 minutes. It is a method that works for me as I have rejected 100% of the people I used it on. It’s foolproof.

  • MeltMyWayMeltMyWay

    The 2nd might appear to be an enthusiast but actually trying to charge you later since she's talking about intimate things and pushing it off of site. The 1st needs to get a life. You aren't her child you don't need to reply with in 24 hours that's crazy.

  • MonkeyNeedsAHugMonkeyNeedsAHug

  • mauvefoxmauvefox

    Report the second one. The first one seems needy. I message here for a while before I move off site. But people are allowed to have lives and go a little bit in between messages.

  • ksb30ksb30

    Ive seen all sorts of crazy here . Just give it time and you'll find someone that fits your needs!

  • DreamerDeeDreamerDee

    Sorry you went through both of those.

  • CSnMUS87CSnMUS87

    I had a similar experience to your first experience about 2 years ago I believe. While not exactly the same, they were getting more demanding of my time despite me having a life and having to work, spend time with family, see friends and not always available for 3 hour calls or texts 24/7. After being called a bad friend for not bending backwards more than I already had, this became the first person I ever had to block on here. Eventually the email spamming and using various numbers to text me stopped after I stopped responding.

  • CuddlingforlifeCuddlingforlife
    edited June 18

    As an enthusiasts, I do text for weeks, sometimes months depending on when either party is willing to do the commute.

    And I wouldn't get upset over a day. I would be concerned if a week went by.. but definitely not a day. She overreated and was kinda needy.

    The 2nd one, is reportable

    I definitely don't think it's you. Just bad luck...which alot of us have had in the beginning and middle, if I'm being honest.

  • trysdettrysdet

    Sound like scammers

  • great_pillow08great_pillow08

    Honestly? The only thing you did wrong was staying up all night messaging her.. That’s a stage 4 CLINGER, Dude! R-U-N!! I know that’s mostly a dating reference, but it ABSOLUTELY applies to cuddle buddies too. The mental instability is real regardless of the context!!

    Interaction #2- PLEASE REPORT THAT!!! As an enthusiast BEYOND tired of having “more” expected of me because pros are doing it, PLEASE report that!!!

  • ResonantSoulResonantSoul

    Neither of those is on you. Wouldn't stay up all night messaging anyone - maybe have some boundaries in the future.

    No reply in 24 hours and you get kicked? Yeah, good riddance.

    Intimate solicitations... Ok..... If you're not down, you're not down. The end. (and that's supposed to be against rules anyway, but we all know it happens)

    Carry on brother, people are weird sometimes. I hope you connect with someone that is a good fit.

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