@neonbrushart
But you said “in my experience”. So that would easily be interpreted as from your actual experience. And then you go on to site Reddit as a source? An online forum like Reddit is going to be a high concentration of stories like this. So not a great source of how frequently it’s actually happening. (Also, interesting that this is your reading material and what that might imply about your interests here)
Now in my personal experience, (my actual personal experience) the majority of men who message me put out low effort or inappropriate requests. An extremely small percentage actually put out a message I feel like I can reply to, engage in a conversation back and forth with me, and don’t just ultimately make it weird and sexual at some point.
I wasn’t arguing @neonbrushart. I was questioning how you can base your claim on a small personal sample size. I am not on other forums where they discuss pro cuddlers but if that is what you are basing it on then you have expanded on what you originally said where you presented it as this:
In my experience, even pros who claim to be strictly platonic will often find themselves pressure the clients to take extras.
That was your words, so based on that your time on the site would be a point. But when you expanded on what you based your assessment on, then that brings more than just your experiences into the picture. It also verifies what my intuition has told me all along. That guys who discuss this on other forums are probably looking for it to begin with.
If you want a hookup, go to Tinder. That's what it's for. Being offer non-platonic services here is like going to a vegan restaurant and being offered meat.
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@brycer, you're absolutely spot on.
I've read on other forums about particular pros who are the most adamantly against anything beyond platonic in their profiles offering more if the price is right.
I don't know if it's just the area I'm in, but don't think any of the pros I have cuddled with were hinting at anything non-platonic.
I think it's telling that while most of the people on the site are behaving within the rules, some folks seem to only ever interact with those who do break the rules. What that tells me isn't that the site is overrun with rule breakers - it tells me that those people are seeking out some qualities in cuddle partners that are apparently shared by most/all rule breakers. Just food for thought.
Unfortunately anything to do with humans sharing in some close physical activity will often result in the occasional ask/suggestion of going farther. .
@kingracquet I could be wrong as I’m not a pro. But I believe they are encouraged to get payment up front anyway. It’s not a deposit. It’s paying for the service before it’s rendered. That way they can leave at any point if they feel uncomfortable.
And it doesn’t solve the problem for enthusiasts. Which is why it can take so much longer to get cuddling with enthusiasts.
@mauvefox Well then eve
No. Because non cuddle pros are not allowed to charge money , including a deposit
@kingracquet Enthusiasts are prohibited from charging for anything. We can get banned.
All I can charge is time intention and effort. 🤷♀️
@pmvines I guess you could be a pro who takes a 100$ deposit, but charges $0.01/ hr?
No. Against TOS for good reason.
@Dayenu You can’t do that because as a pro you owe the site a percentage. And also I don’t want to be a pro. I don’t want to bring money into this at all.
I already get treated like I’m a pro a lot of the time when I’m not and no thank you.
I’m here for me, because I want this and I get something out of it.
Enthusiasts just have to get good at vetting for creeps.
the good thing for we enthusiasts is that we need only find one good cuddle partner and we can stop looking
@xandriarain thank you 🙏🏾
@mauvefox Sadly this is why sites like this fail their users so much. No protection for most except for a “ban” which is meaningless with all the fake/extra emails one has access to. All to protect their site & money not caring about the people actually at risk
@kingracquet You've been told multiple times by several users that enthusiasts cannot charge for services: not for cuddling, not for an anti-molestation deposit, not for gas money, not for a burger, NOT FOR ANYTHING. So stop suggesting it.
@BlueIris @mauvefox Ok everyone do not charge for things bad very bad things will happen. Also please never use google to search for other cuddle platforms or use social media etc to learn and experience more people who enjoy cuddles. Your freedom of thought is not allowed to be shown on a free to access site because you clicked a box. Remember if everyone jumps of a cliff you are expected to jump as well. Good night and good luck.
I have censored my own content for the good of the platform gods hopefully they will accept my submission 🙃🤞🤦♂️
Wow this took a turn.
@kingracquet Freedom of thought is one thing.
Badgering a forum with an idea that several people have told you won’t work/is against the TOD is another.
And no one ever said don’t look for cuddles elsewhere.
But based on your edits and reactions to our responses, you seem maybe upset about more than a few things. Best of luck to you.
Methinks someone is circumventing a timeout, but I can’t know for sure 🤔
Hyper vigilance and being a bad listener isn't very cuddly
@Comet85
Holy cow
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
@BlueIris that was exactly my thought when I saw that. 😂