There are are a million reasons that someone could check someone’s profile multiple times, for better or worse. The bottom line is who cares? Is it really that important? Come on. I could take my time right now and make a whole list of reasons why someone might do this, both good and maybe not so good but if that person is not bothering you or messaging you too much then just ignore it. If it really bugs you that much then just block them.
Could also be their first day on the site, and they are still learning stuff. Maybe making a list of people that seem interesting in their area, then going back through them again. Maybe they forgot part of your profile. Maybe they have anxiety issues and are working up to sending that first message. I wouldn't read too much into frequent profile visiting unless it's something really absurd.
I disagree with everyone saying its whatever. This person who keeps checking my profile has already seen me and I thought we had a lovely cuddle session. I thought he would be a regular cuddle buddy. Plus I NEVER update my pics. It's the same ones I have had since I started 4 months ago. He checks it almost daily. I get forgetting as its happened to me with others, but his pic is the same too and I always recognize him. He also told me he likes to search for new women 40+ near him to cuddle with.
Sometimes I feel some individuals do not want to actually build a rapport with a pro they clicked with instead they like newbies. But it may also be they do not want to get attached, but his comment felt like he searches for pros who are new.
He also wanted to hang out outside of cuddling. He does not msg me just keeps looking at my profile, but I do not block unless I feel in danger or they stood me up, but yeah 🤷♀️. I never click back on his profile so IDK.
But since then hes switched his profile from a cuddler to a pro now. Actually hope he does not see this 🤔🤣😂
Tbh sometimes it really is "whatever" lol. I'll often start just clicking on random profiles on too of the site. Out of boredom and sometimes it's if it's an area I might be soon.
Sometimes you just have to accept that you really don’t know what someone else is thinking and by extension, what their motivations are.
Touche. Fair enuff 😋
Like I said he has never done anything to warrant anything more than lurking so just curious on the why. I like looking at Pros profiles too. Which funny enough, some have blocked me which is weird 🤣😂.
That I definitely do not get especially since I have never talked to them and 1st time visiting their page.
But the ladies are so gorgeous and since I am a noob wanted to read the bios to give me ideas on my own. I still don't like my bio. I feel its too long. It is still a WIP.
But yeah hopefully I don't seem like a creeper ha. If so, I apologize Pros!
I do occasionally revisit profiles. Mainly I forget the details or why we're not suited. I'm not going to screenshot profiles, that really is creepy and wrong. Also profiles do change so I might revisit to see if my reasons have changed. Also I'm just not ready. I don't want to waste a pro's time when I'm not wanting to make a booking at that time.
I don't believe either if those make me creepy. Checking every day may sound excessive. But maybe they're just anxious and haven't plucked up the courage yet, I can definitely relate to that. I still don't think a lack of confidence means you're a bad person either.
When I realize that I've visited someone's profile a few times, I'll usually reach out and say hi and just explain that I know I've visited your page a few times, and I don't want to be "that guy," so I'll introduce myself and say why I've been peeking. Break the ice a bit. It's generally received well. I think someone would rather know they're popping up on your page regularly than you're seeking them out intentionally. Made some friends this way.
That is the thing guys. I get all those reasons!
BUT WE HAVE ALREADY CUDDLED. WE HAVE MET IN PERSON. THIS IS NOT A NEW CUDDLE BUDDY.
I told him anytime he wants to cuddle again to message me, but he does not. He just lurks on my PFP and never messages.
It depends on whether you thought he was a good person from that previous experience. If he was a normal green flag cuddler, then just keep being nice and chat with him. He might just want that. Then perhaps he warms up to the idea of booking another session.
She looks at me And I look at her She looks at me And I look at her
One thing I did not see specifically mentioned here as a reason for regular visits to a profile: travel plans. This site does not allow more than 2 locations at a given time for a profile, and there is no way for pros to note their travel plans anywhere else that is readily accessible if they have more than one upcoming new location. @Gary @Mark Maybe consider adding something like a date range for being in different locations to the search filters so we can see upcoming travelers to our area? Maybe that’s too complicated, but it would be useful.
As someone living in a popular destination who prefers advance planning when possible, I will check some distant profiles periodically to see if there are upcoming trips planned, and then reach out when I see NYC or surrounding areas mentioned.
I think some people are window shopping and are not sure yet if they want a session.
Like when I want to try a face moisturizer, I look it up a BUNCH of times because I am not sure if the experience will justify the expense and I need time to think before I make a decision.
This is probably the same thing.
If this is stalking then a bunch of dudes are stalking me lol.
Daily though? Daily is pretty wild.
@MissCC Yeah. My reasons don't apply in your case. You're already talking and have even met.
I personally hate the feature. I tend to have analysis paralysis and obsess over comparing distances, prices, and re-reading profiles to craft potential introductions. That means reading the bio which means a click every time I want to read it.
And the next week/month, I'm looking for a potential cuddle? More clicks comparing distances...
@CuddlewithCAT that is a hilarious 'response' and more because it is (likely) an accurate portrayal in description form.
I'm going with terrible memory and the fact that after a big group meetup you don't know everyone but you want to connect so you end up going through the friends lists looking for friends of friends.
Who knows? Or, most likely, who cares?
I'm more intrigued that this dead thread was revitalized after a six-year dormancy. Well done, MuddleComforters!!
@MattCuddleBear I do wish the profile notes feature was somehow viewable without actually viewing said person's profile. Like if we had a list of all the profile notes we've made somewhere. Instead, a lot of people use the block feature to stop viewing those who just aren't a good fit, which ends up causing confusion and unnecessary drama.
Personally, I've taken to keeping a list in my notes app of usernames and short comments on why I should or shouldn't interact with them. It helps me avoid having to constantly remind myself through profile views.
Sometimes I've looked a couple of times to double check availability for the future I suppose. Other times it's been more 'whoops my finger slipped'
To infinity, and beyond
I honestly think that feature should be removed or an option to hide you viewing profiles, but like everyone said I guess who cares 🤷♀️ I was gonna delete my posts and seems like I can't 😒🤣😂 Woh Woh How did yall even get notified this post came back from the dead yo 😋 Neways Happy Cuddles!
Never bothered me ever.
Most likely they are just chronically online. Scrolling through the same 10 apps they use over and over again.
It seems like what you all are saying doesn't apply to @MissCC 's situation. She had a good cuddle session with this person once and now they look at her profile everyday without saying anything. That IS weird, creepy and stalker behavior. I understand occasionally going to a person's profile because you forgot that you already viewed it or accidentally clicking on a profile - I have done both. But visiting a profile with someone that you have cuddled with EVERYDAY is creepy.
A guy did that to me early on. He hadn't cuddled with anyone in a really long time. We had a good cuddle session. He wanted more. He was an older guy and very lonely. He would look at my profile every single day. I chose not to cuddle with him again because he was getting attached and really wanted a girlfriend.
@MissCC in your case I think you should just message the person. "Hi there. I noticed that you are visiting my profile everyday. Is everything okay?"
Amen @TheFunCartel - No truer words!
Maybe that cuddler is just baffled you're an active user. Maybe they are reverse image searching you and cross referencing. Maybe they think they can get supporting evidence for something. Maybe you look like somebody special to them. You'll never really know. Cuddler(s) legit swap stories and I can easily ask to see their text threads. With that being said,another pro can block you for their own reason, for sure. It'll happen. You're right that some people search for newbies ✅️
@MissCC - Here's what stands out to me:
This person who keeps checking my profile has already seen me and I thought we had a lovely cuddle session. He also wanted to hang out outside of cuddling. He does not msg me just keeps looking at my profile, but I do not block unless I feel in danger or they stood me up, but yeah 🤷♀️. But since then hes switched his profile from a cuddler to a pro now. Actually hope he does not see this
This person who keeps checking my profile has already seen me and I thought we had a lovely cuddle session.
He also wanted to hang out outside of cuddling. He does not msg me just keeps looking at my profile, but I do not block unless I feel in danger or they stood me up, but yeah 🤷♀️.
But since then hes switched his profile from a cuddler to a pro now. Actually hope he does not see this
A while ago a male enthusiast posted in the pro cuddling forum that he wanted to learn how to be a pro. He was thinking of booking a few pros so he could learn how to do it. He wanted to ask them questions and for tips. In other words, pump them for information without paying them a consulting fee. And he wasn't going to ask them to mentor him in advance, just do it stealth style.
This to me sounds remarkably similar to what you've experienced with this person. He wanted to learn how to be a pro, he booked you once to get experience, studies your profile and is now a pro. He has no further need to contact you.