Good afternoon/evening to all, has anyone ever been blocked by a pro without out explanation ?
Being blocked means the cuddle gods have your back.
Be sure to offer tribute.
lol I guess that’s one way to look at it @TxTom
@TxTom I get a whole public announcement before I get blocked. I must be blessed by the gods themselves. 😌
@tezzy11 As a cuddling professional, blocking people for me is a practical business decision, not an emotional reaction.
Interesting , i just wanted some clarity between me and this individual but i guess I’ll never know 🤷🏾♂️@BellaAine
The only time it would bother me is if it was someone I have been seeing for a long time and out of nowhere.. if not domt stress it.... Btw I have had that first one happen lol im still here hang in there
@tezzy11 Do you want my unsolicited opinion? I'm very blunt, but I don't have any ill intent.
Sure @BellaAine
@tezzy11 Have you stopped to consider why you feel the need to know? Are you looking for self awareness, reassurance, or simply a way to retain some control over how others perceive or respond to you? And what makes you feel that someone owes you an explanation in the first place? Is it a need for closure, reassurance, or the expectation that you're entitled to an explanation. I think there's value in examining the intention behind the question itself. Sometimes understanding why we need an answer is more revealing than the answer we're seeking. You don't always need to understand someone's reasons to respect their decision. Hope this helps you in the future.
That’s fair 🤝 @BellaAine
As a pro, I have in my profile why I'm starting to block people. It's so weird seeing the same names of views, but they never book. It's as though they go to my profile just to look at photos, which is why I hid most of mine. Maybe they block clients after a session so past clients can't see new Karma. Regardless of their reason for blocking you, don't sweat it. Find another pro. #HappyCuddling
That’s understandable @CleoRays
@CleoRays ugh that makes me so uncomfortable too
No worries. It happens
I am a habitual profile viewer but a lot of times it’s because I’m planning a trip 3-6 months out to see who is in the area. I also look at the feed at the top and if it’s a city I’ve never heard of, I’ll look at the profile to see what state it’s in (wish they would add the states to the location!)
I’ve only been blocked once that I’m aware of. I didn’t really wonder why as I know why, but I can understand the initial reaction of wanting to know why or not having closure. I agree though that it’s just best to move on and not dwell on it - there are plenty of wonderful pros on here and as long as you are respectful you generally won’t have any issues!
That’s the thing. If you reach out in a polite and respectful manner and having a pleasant back and forth chat, it’s natural to wonder what you could have possibly done wrong.
I block people constantly. You probably said something disrespectful or she felt like you were wasting her time.
I would’ve never thought it’d be disrespectful to courteously reach out and say you’re interested in meeting and politely ask their availability, they show interest, and you politely follow up to find a right time and your both having a great rapport.
Since I joined Cuddle Comfort, I estimate I’ve helped at least 500 women to obtain restraining orders against men who claimed no knowledge that they had done anything wrong.
Very often, the defense’s narrative mirrored commentary in this thread.
I summarize:
*Respondent was polite and respectful and courteous. His contacts were all in furtherance of expressed or perceived mutual interests. There was rapport! Then, out of nowhere, the Petitioner requested the Respondent stop contacting her! For no reason at all!
Respondent’s actions were so above reproach, in fact, that the woman’s attempt to distance herself from him struck the Respondent as irrational. It felt like an unfair rebuke somehow. Honestly, he felt somewhat justified ignoring her requests / demands / boundaries. You know… just long enough to get an explanation as to what he had done wrong.*
“I felt like she owed me that, at least.”
(He felt entitled. He felt aggrieved.)
Most of the time, in cases where the defense narrative resembled the above, judges ruled Petioners to be “in reasonable fear of bodily injury from the Respondent.”
Think about that.
That is unnerving to hear, but not unexpected. Men need to do better.
Men and women have very different perceptions of how a conversation went. I see that in reports constantly when men report someone who blocked them "for no reason." When I review the conversation, I can almost always see the reason fairly quickly.
Also, FYI, someone blocking you is not against the rules and is a waste of time to report, as the only thing that'll happen is the report will get dismissed.
And 2nd FYI, there is always a reason that someone blocks you. But they are under no obligation to explain it to anyone. Doing so extends a conversation that the person who blocked doesn't want to have, so they just don't.
True that
I mean if you feel such an intense need to know why someone blocked you that may be a clue as to why you were blocked. Plenty have blocked me even if I have not interacted with them and vice versa. We all have our own reasons
People are reporting someone blocking them? Since when is it against the rules to block someone? Nobody is required to talk to you.
@Mike403 I wish I could say I was surprised at the entitlement, but unfortunately I'm not. 😔 In fact I'm currently being harassed by someone who is upset I turned them down. Not the first time either.
500 people? How do people know to come to you for this help?
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I agree with @BellaAine with the importance to take the time to understand why you want to know the reason somebody chose to block you. Introspection leads to growth.
I found out randomly that two pros in my area have blocked me. People I've never interacted with and know nothing about. When I sit with my own curiosity around why I was blocked, I think for me it's because I want to make sure I do better in the future if it was a situation (IDK how) I did wrong. I have an assumption that blocking is reserved for wrong doing or serious infractions. For instance, I don't block somebody unless I absolutely need to. It takes a lot for me to block a person. I realize through this thread that I interpreted the decision of others through the lens of why I might do it.
Maybe they block a lot of people in their same city. Who knows?
I really appreciate this thread as it's helped me kind of let go of some of that curiosity around other people's reasonings for blocking.
How do you even know if you have been blocked?
@ahuman either you go to their profile and it states it, or you go to an existing conversation, from what I’ve seen. I never got a notice otherwise
I block for hostile approaches, excessive profile lurking, fantasy booking, and inappropriate requests. That last one is the fastest way to get blocked! 😂
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