I may have stumbled upon the reason you want to know the reason that someone has blocked you. It is because you are a curious human being. It's not because you need the person that blocked you or their reason.
You don't (of course) need them or their reason.
A code of conduct could include reasons for your actions. Accountability creates hazards. Without a code of conduct it's the wild west. It appears we have a craving for human interaction, cash or both, surrounded (or protected by) a get over it business mindset . (it's transactional after all) Caught in the middle is a student of life, in class with his hand raised and the class mocking the attempt for an explanation as naive.
Never apologize for our final attempts at being a curious human. It will appear in little acts of misunderstood cravings for manners, chivalry, apologies, explanations and or gratitude. It ain't easy and it may hurt at first.
I'm stuck in the mind that I will always have reasons for my actions, I rarely extend an act that affects another directly without a GOOD reason. (Downside, not everybody gets it or cares and as a result, I'm always explaining myself)
And at the end of the day, I look in the mirror and ask, how did we get here? I was watching one of those videos on you tube on the 80's and just got a flood of emotion. I realized, I'm not getting that in today's world. It was a stupid video, but why did it affect me that way? Maybe it was unique to me, but I don't think so.
Sharona said it best to Monk, "ya gotta suck it up."
*(if I offended anyone with this post, please understand that all references were in the general sense)
Regardless of anyone's curiosity, the plain fact is that no one but the person who blocked you knows the reason why, so coming on the forum to ask third parties what they think the reason might be is an exercise in futility.
I blocked a "pro" because she kept saying she was available at specific times, then I'd book those and she'd ghost me or accept it and last minute cancel. This happened like 3 times. I'd setup hosting reservations and request leave at work. The whole thing.
She came up in here one day and I clicked the profile to see that she'd blocked me back. Real professional. 🤣
@BarbadosPearl thanks for your honest introspection. I respect the curiosity, and have been on that side before as well.
Never really know that there was a “block” feature for the site until I tried to respond back to a client. Later I realized that he had blocked me because I requested a deposit as he was a new client, which was notated on my profile. WHAT??!! He didn’t read my profile!! 😶 It had troubled me at the time. However now it doesn’t even phase me. If one wants to make an effort to spend time with me, then I would make the same effort. If not, then maybe it is not meant to be. Blessing in disguise!
I disag says a lot about you"ree with a lot of these responses Pro or not,cuddle website or not it is called ghosting. That is only appropriate when there has been continual harassment. If you have ever been on a first date for example and get ghosted it's not pleasant. I think it would be much less hassle to just say" your not my type" and leave it at that. Then if they keep pressing you ghost them. And it's totally BS to say " the fact that you are so concerned about it says a lot about you". Oh really?! What does it say? Maybe you are insecure or maybe you just want feedback so you can grow. Or maybe ghosting someone is something they would never do to someone else and they think the ghoster is being impolite. I have no problem with people suggesting possible reasons or sharing their experiences but please, don't think you know someone when you don't.
I think the OP received some excellent feedback. Blocks are a part of the modern environment and as such, I feel little need to care if someone blocked me. My free time is too valuable to offer any band width to wondering why someone blocked me. I learned back in kindergarten that not everyone thinks you are worth knowing. Worrying about a block is like asking the universe why people do what they do. We have been around thousands of years and no one has successfully answered the latter question, so attempting to figure out why someone blocked me is a non-starter. My guess is the blocked person deep down usually knows the reason and it still won’t change the fact they are blocked. And if they don’t know then they never really knew the other person at all.
I do know a pro that blocked the son of one of her coworkers. I asked her if she blocked him because she might be outed and she said no, she blocked him because he said he liked “grandmotherly” aged women and she was in her mid-40s. So her reason was perceived agism and fetishistic vibes AND injuring her self-esteem. So you never know.
I've been blocked twice. Once for booking 30 minutes and trying to explain it in a weird way. Like, when I looked back on the conversation, from her perspective, I can see where it may have looked weird. I was trying to say "it'll just be a quick chance to get to know each other, and the fee for you will be less". But I was paranoid that mods were reading every message I sent, and didn't want to get banned because they might think I was trying to skirt the site rules to save her money, so my wording was indeed weird. Which sucks because we would have for sure gotten along. The second time, she reached out to me with a $200 rate before that became semi-normal, I said respectfully I can't do that. She was like "I don't see cheap men" and blocked me. So first one, on me, wish I could redo that. Second, buh bye good riddance.
There are many reasons to get blocked here. Like constantly visiting a profile and never scheduling a session seems to be a big reason.. Getting blocked even if you feel you did nothing wrong it's something you shouldn't take personal.. We got enough drama in the real world to deal with and you don't need to add on to it with whatever drama is going on in this little part of the world.. Anyway that's my two cents
I usually am the one blocking them as many of the pros on here overcharge just for cuddling or will flake and will message me for a session just from viewing their profile.
@tezzy11 One of the more remarkable (to me) explanations for blocking was in a pros profile which read something like "I will block anyone who is harmful to my mental health".
To this day, whenever I find that I've been blocked by someone who I've never interacted with, I take that reason as the likley default. Saves me alot of guessing. And yes, I completely understand the curiosity element - "did I actually do something wrong?" or such.
A while back I had somebody message me accusing me of being racist in the forum then blocked me. To this day I still don't know what I said that was racist.
If you sit here and wonder why someone blocked you, you will go crazy. Lol I would say don't take it personally and just move on
Getting blocked is a privilege that very few of us are gifted with. Enjoy the gift. Have fun. Let them have fun doing it. Most are miserable people only a few have a genuine reason.
@CaramelNotes
I am a VAWA (Violence Against Women Act) attorney. During most of the last 7 years, I accepted grant funding from the government so I could provide legal assistance to victims of gender-based crime regardless of their ability to pay. So, any victim seeking free legal help fighting stalking, DV (IPV), sexual assault, and the like, would have been referred to my practice. We also maintained a constant presence at the courthouse, where the Victim Witness Advocates introduced us to many walk-ins as well.
Make no mistake. 500 is only the number of women who had respondents claiming no knowledge of why they were there. I helped many more people than that during the period being discussed.
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@MonkeyNeedsAHug thank you for what you do. The wording made it seem like you helped 500 people from this site.
Since I joined Cuddle Comfort, I estimate I’ve helped at least 500 women to obtain restraining orders against men who claimed no knowledge that they had done anything wrong>
Knowing that you helped in a different capacity makes sense. Thank you.
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