is it so wrong if a gay man wants to cuddle a straight man?

UKvikingUKviking
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hey all, I am totally new to this site and I am glad it exists, I thought that I was the only person in the UK who was looking for someone to hug!, there seems to be so much pressure to engage in sex these days and its been a bit of a sad journey. Anyway, I wanted to know your guys feedback about the idea of a straight man watching to hug a gay man and vice versa. I guess I would prefer a straight man to hug as there would be a lot less chance of anything turning into sex. something that petrifies me somewhat, maybe a little. Are there any straight men out there who would hug a gay guy? Your feedback would be greatly appreciated. Cheers

  1. Im a straight guy and I would hug a gay guy2 votes
    1. im a gay guy and I would hug a straight man
      50.00%
    2. absolutely not, gay and straight cannot hug each other at all
      50.00%

Comments

  • CuddleTherapy70CuddleTherapy70

    There shouldn't be. Men need to learn to cuddle each other. Woman do often, gay or straight. Was actually discussing this with my two grown sons, yesterday. Youngest popped up "you know sometimes buds just need hugs." In the USA culture, men are taught that touch that feels good is sexual. It's sad.

  • JohnR1972JohnR1972

    Welcome to the site!

    This general topic comes up from time to time on the forum and it often goes off the rails pretty quickly.

    The short answer is it is all about consent. I know there are straight men on this site who cuddle other men (gay or straight) but the majority of straight men on this site, including myself, do not.

    It is not about “right” or “wrong”, it is about personal preferences. You can do a search for men who cuddle men and I wish you all the best in finding a cuddle buddy in your area.

    What causes these threads to go off the rails is when people starting suggesting who someone else SHOULD cuddle or making people feel like they have to defend their preferences / boundaries in cuddle partners. Hopefully this thread doesn’t go down that path.

    Cheers!

  • BellaAineBellaAine

    Welcome to the cuddling community.

    I'm confused. What does someone's sexual orientation have to do with sexual predation? There are plenty of men who identify as straight on Grindr, and many of them are married, too. Sexual orientation doesn't tell you whether someone has predatory intentions. Consenting adults in general can cuddle with whomever they choose, as long as BOTH parties are comfortable with it.

  • JubalJubal

    In answer to the OP - is it wrong if a gay man wants to cuddle a straight man? No, it's not wrong. But do keep in mind that a some straight men may not want to cuddle the gay man (and conversely some will want to).

  • Mike403Mike403

    It doesn't matter as long as it's consensual. Most straight men aren't comfortable cuddling another man.