Older male cuddler

AtrueOGAtrueOG
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There are not many cuddlers on this site near my age,68. So I reach out to all ages, it's just cuddling after all and I am comfortable with any age. Should I be up front and reference our age difference and explain how older guys have maturity, experience and nurturing or not mention it at all?

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  • mauvefoxmauvefox

    I would pay attention to their profiles and read them carefully. (Which I would recommend doing any way as everyone is different and goes about cuddling in different ways) and check and see if they have an age range. If you’re within it, green light for messaging. If you’re not, move on.

    I think you’ll find there are many people who have a wide age range listed in their profiles.

  • AlexxaAlexxa

    I prefer to cuddle with someone I can connect with. This seems to be 10 yrs younger and/or 10 yrs older. I've been enjoying different body sizes. I feel blessed to meet some wonderful people.

  • BlueIrisBlueIris Mod

    See also

    https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/22646/thoughts-on-age-gap-cuddling

    https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/24775/will-females-cuddle-with-an-older-gentleman

  • natasya148natasya148

    I don’t think age matters in my cuddling department. 🙂‍↕️

  • Ruby14Ruby14

    As someone with a soft spot for your age group, I wouldn’t worry too much about having to explain or justify your age! 🤷🏾‍♀️

    I’d suggest checking their profiles and preferred age ranges before reaching out. If you’re within their range, I don’t think there’s any need to make your age a big part of the introduction. Let the conversation and connection speak for themselves.

    There are people who genuinely enjoy cuddling with older gentlemen, myself included. I hope you meet some wonderful cuddle buddies! 🫶🏾

  • MelNYCMelNYC

    Some of my most treasured clients are 65+. I always feel incredibly safe, respected, and cared for. I wouldn’t worry about mentioning the age gap; they can see your age on your profile and if they have an issue with it, they just won’t book with you (and their loss!)

  • MeltMyWayMeltMyWay

    I have cuddles men from 23 to 82 age is certainly not an issue for me nor others. If you run across someone that has a problem with it just move past them to find someone who doesn't

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    I'm going to be very blunt, @AtrueOG.

    You posted:
    "Should I be up front and reference our age difference"

    No, age is on everyone's profile. If it's a factor for people, that's on them.

    You posted:
    "and explain how older guys have maturity, experience and nurturing or not mention it at all?"

    No, older does not automatically equal more mature or more nurturing. Saying so, in my opinion, either comes off as arrogant or insecure. You don't need to sell yourself, and you don't need to justify yourself.

    Your profile says:
    "I have so much more to offer than a young guy."

    Not only does this come off as insecure, but it's also putting down younger men in the process. Not a good look.

    Your profile says:
    "Experience,pleasure and I know how to have a great cuddle session you will enjoy."

    "Pleasure" is not on the menu for platonic cuddles. This reads more like a dating profile, and is a red flag for me.

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

  • mauvefoxmauvefox

    @SunsetSnuggles
    100% agree. I've had great cuddles with people both older and younger than me.
    But I've also had some terrible interactions with people both older and younger than me.