An interesting article I just read: Psychology’s tools for measuring masculinity lean heavily toward the negative, review finds
A comprehensive review of 65 psychological questionnaires published between 1974 and 2021 indicates that the tools scientists use to measure masculinity focus overwhelmingly on negative traits and harmful outcomes. The study, published in Men and Masculinities, also provides evidence that most of these survey instruments were tested on homogeneous groups of participants and often fail to account for how cultural background or social relationships shape men’s behavior. Together, the findings suggest that psychology’s standard measurement tools may offer an incomplete picture of how gender identity functions in men’s everyday lives.
In short: We need more positive traits in the overall definition of masculinity. Which many people have been saying. The overall definition doesn't describe how men are, it describes how men are supposed to be.
So my question to everyone is, what is masculinity to you? Anticipating the inevitable, please include a positive trait for each negative trait you mention. We want to keep this a discussion about improvement, not a lynch mob.