From being in the Christian Fundamentalist Church, where the word "skin, touch, hug" are never mentioned except don't.
Hey, mate, John 13:25
Jesus was quite happy to have John leaning back against him. The first cuddle buddies ?
Forget what your uptight fundamentalist church taught you, and understand what the real man was like. Love was at the heart of his mission. I hope you find a great partner to hug with, and learn to completely and utterly chill in the exquisite intimacy of a platonic hug.
Be patient, my friend, it will happen. Eventually.
Welcome.
That is one of the reasons a few people on here use code names, and don't publish public pictures. I can easily name two immediately,one of them is Jewish; and there are many more. Many religious cultures around the world discourage this type of therapy. This IS therapy.
One of the reasons I love @quietman775's post is that last part about spawning a movement in Part 4.
I urge you to keep trying, there is no reason to be ashamed, embarrassed, or feel the need to hide; of course until that point do what it takes to make it okay for you. Unfortunately there are many close minded religious members who think they understand what's best or right and every other person in the entire world but their group has it wrong.
I had to deal with a break from a very conservative, close minded group as a young woman when my parents were virtually cast out of our home church for a ridiculous administrative reason. I honestly don't even remember the exact reason, but we were accepted into a sister church only because my mom was the office secretary of that church so that was our saving grace. It drove me away from church all together for a few years but I have since had multiple heart-to-hearts with my Savior and have heeded the call to be his hands and feet. There are numerous ways to show God's love to people and touch is absolutely one of them.
There are 5 love languages and multiple ways to be God's hands and feet. Each needs a physical body willing to be used by Him for his will, this is just one way to accomplish that. As long as you pray about it and are comfortable with your answer from God proceed to share the human connection with others and F.R.O.G.
Good luck JP, it may be hard but it's worth it and in the meantime continue to take advantage of the forums, they are another excellent way to feel connection until the physical connections start to happen.
Paula
One of the biggest things I express in my life is that it is OKAY to unlearn lessons in life. Not everything we learn I feel we are suppose to hold unto. I know this site has helped me as well as so many other people of different lives and backgrounds.
It's OKAY to hug, embrace, to need that is natural. it's OKAY to touch and be near another person, this is how we show our humanity and empathy.
And it's OKAY to search for in our journey of life.
I will send you so many positive thoughts in your future experiences ???
Hi JPM,
Yes, hang in there. It may take a while to connect with a cuddle friend, but don't get disheartened. Meanwhile, seriously consider meeting up with a Pro, which means you will get to cuddle quite quickly, but also, their guidance into this cuddling world will help you feel more at ease when meeting fellow non-Pro cuddlers,
Gary