Questions from a newish cuddler

How do other cuddlers feel about people approaching them in a less than formal way? I understand that as a pro cuddler we are offering an intimate product, but aren't we still a professional? Especially since it says it on the profile. I feel very uncomfortable, and am more likely to not respond to someone, when they start off with physical compliments. This isn't a dating site. Is that normal?

How do you handle missing out on a customer because of not responding fast enough. There are e-mail alerts, but I rarely watch my e-mail and have gone days without responding to someone. At that point I assume it's a closed deal.

How do you handle phone number exchanges? I do not want to give out my phone number, but other social media sites that have instant messenger and notifications aren't exactly a safe or reliable idea. I know you can use this site, especially since , but it seems more difficult to pin point how real someone is.

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  • Hey there TdaniC. So for your first question, I think it depends how they compliment you, yes you are a pro, but you and these guys are also just normal people!

     if its in a nice respectful way; say thank you and continue. if its to be more of a grimy perverted way; simply change the topic around back to what you offer, and how your sessions go, and if he is interested in that. clarify there are boundaries, and clarify your boundaries whatever they are, also I usually mention that the site monitors messages as well. But usually you should get pretty respectful people. And they genuinely want to know straight up how you are, so don't beat around the bush.(I don't lol)
    As far as you checking your account; sadly that's just a habit you need to get into. I check my email, ad cc several times a day..you can check it on your phone if you have internet. maybe set an alarm as a reminder to respond to emails every day. or do it in the morning right after brushing your teeth. and before bed to be sure you don't have any appointments the following day., and get a planner, its very helpful or use your calendar on your phone to remind you of appointments.
    As far as phone number or outside contact; i take it very seriously to keep contact through this website. we sign a contract stating we will keep contact unless absolutely needed, and its really just not needed to give out a number or anything in my own opinion, i know others say they like to talk or meet before the cuddles, but I am very easy going, and accept so many people here, I don't really have time to meet people outside of sessions, and go to lunch or coffee with every client that needs to meet me first. plus I really try to just get the ball rolling for cuddling since thats what we all want! and I know im very comforting to be around within the first few minutes c:
    Id say keep up on photos as well, I'm gonna start being more on those so clients know I'm active member, and serious about this site.
    If they insist to exchange numbers, or a app of some sort, I usually remind them about the contract. So far, everyone has been very respectful about my wishes. and if they are not respectful about that, why would they be respectful in my home? So I  wouldn't invite them over for a session. This is a perfectly fine messaging system to me, just like Facebook messenger, we can read their responses, and they can read ours, so i don't see why that's not enough.
    as far as your client being real, that's probably going to not be a consistant problem you should have to deal with/worry about. most people on here are actually real! woohoo! Just have a conversation with them though, get a feel for them, and then set up an appointment if you and them are comfortable. but most men on here without profile photos, honestly they are usually normal dudes who are trying to be discrete for some reason or another; I still meet them, because I don't really care who comes in here visually, as long as they are kind. everyone deserves love, however some men will be comfortable emailing you a photo beforehand if you ask. <3
    best of luck!!!<3







  • [Deleted User]Unknown (deleted user)
    Brandi pretty much hits the nail on the head on all of the questions that were asked.
  • I really appreciate all of that! I believe that the contract states that we must make all appointments through here, not that all conversations must be. It just seems really easy to put up a random picture or no picture and say you're someone else. I've also seen a lot of forums on here talking about clients that never make an appointment or flake, which I think is a lot easier to do if you don't know the person.
  • My location doesn't exactly help which I've come to terms with. The east coast just doesn't have as much of a hook in it.
  • Yeah location definitely matters girl.Lots of complaints about that from all over. I'll tell you this same thing I told everyone else, the only way to make this site work is to not give up on it, and to use word of mouth to advertise. or post on cragilist for more pros in your area to join, and men to become clients.
    Eventually cuddling will be huge in this generation with how much lack of socializing there is.
    just be patient :) I mean think about it, people from all over the world are in need and wanting pro cuddlers, but 95% of people dont even know its a thing!
    by the way the contract  is right here  for Scheduling & Communication-

     3. Date, duration and price for all appointments must be confirmed on the Cuddle
    Comfort messaging system. This includes all further sessions with the same Client.
     4. We reserve the right to monitor your online conversations with a Client, and regularly
    contact the Client to gain feedback on your services.
     5. All contact with the Client, including scheduling, should remain on our website unless
    absolutely necessary
    Flakes are inevitable, just try not to waste too much time on them, if they seem like they are beating around the bush, not talking about your services, you know they are interested in something else, or they have another motive(wasting your time) but like I said, just have good judgement towards all your messages, and you should be okay. if you get a gut feeling saying no, go with it and move on :)
    I hope you can get some more people flowing through here! <3 I know if we stick to keeping this place a positive fun place to chat, and be a part of, people will come eventually^.^







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