Not feeling right

I cancelled a session because this man kept begging me to text him off the site. I NEVER give clients my phone number....I do this for my own safety.
Also right away he was asking about overnights and asking for "full body pics"

I don't know but I got kinda spooked by this, to me I felt red flags.

What do the rest of you think? Would you feel that something isn't right?

Comments

  • I agree that you did the right thing. I would block him also.

  • You did the right thing. Trust your instincts.

  • Considering that your profile pic is already a full body pic as it is, f*** that dude. Stop being a creeper! You did the right thing.

  • That's just a code word for nudes .... especially you already got full body pics on your profile. I bet he would have asked for more revealing ones if you had continued the messaging.

  • Don't apologize for trusting your gut. No matter how many mind games the guy plays trying to make you feel guilty about it. Safety comes first, even in business.

  • Always trust your gut, and I'll add that the issues you describe are some specific red flags I won't see someone for. Good instincts!

  • [Deleted User]cozydayz121 (deleted user)

    Trust your instincts. I used to give my number and 99% of the time all they did was waste time and beg for photos. I will not give my number without a set appointment ever again.

  • [Deleted User]SoulcuddlerZ (deleted user)

    @empresscuddle Most wise. Such has indeed been the rule of thumb, even more so with the booking function. And, nobody's saying you should give out your real/main number. You could always have a second number as a safety barrier. Many of your fellow pros will advise you on good choices. One of them is Google Voice.

  • I am with @SoulcuddlerZ here. It sucks being genuine and having to still have safe guards, but they will help you more than hinder you, in the long run. :)

  • [Deleted User]mdx71 (deleted user)

    As SpongyMarble said, full body pics are just a code word for nudes. Once he had your number I bet he would have never stopped texting you. You did the right thing.

  • Yes. You did the correct thing.

  • You cant trick something into feeling right. If instinct says no, then trust it.

  • [Deleted User]chococuddles (deleted user)

    You did not feel right.

    You felt left.

    Left was correct.

  • If someone doesn't respect your boundaries before you meet them, they probably won't respect them after you meet them, either. I'd block them.

  • @Babichev - Leave out the "probably," and you are exactly right.

  • [Deleted User]Keira (deleted user)

    A client actually just told me about an app called burner. I guess it lets you use a fake phone number on your phone. I agree though. I get really tired of people insisting I give them my number.

  • edited March 2019

    @kiera I find it convenient to have a second, disposable number on my personal cell phone. It's primarily used with the Co-owners at my condo. Too many are renters. It's good if you ever sell stuff online too. There are countless times I want to protect my privacy. My phone carrier will only block for 90 days and several steps are needed. My phone "burner" App blocks in one step and permanently.

    I can recommend TextFree or Hushed>! ## ##

    I apologize for not hiding this as off topic. Couldn't find how

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