Is it just me or is it really slow on here the past month or two? Everyone is either deleting their accounts or getting banned or suspended. What's going on??
People need sex and money and are settling for cuddling... but trying to get more through the site and getting caught or frustrated that it's not going their way
True, I've probably reported well over 30 people by now for asking me for sex. That's always been the case on the site though. It just seems so much worse the past month. Even my regulars have been deleting their accounts.
I have seen people get banned on this site for a lot less than what was mentioned above. I think there are some itchy trigger fingers on this site. A couple of people that were banned emailed me and the reasons were pretty shaky. One was a lady that I had once cuddled and she knew some other pros and members she talked to about leaving the site. I think the site is getting a rep and not in a good way.
It's been slow for me for the past 14 months. I don't even have one regular. I've reported a lot of new female cuddlers, mostly for being untagged pros.
@Keira, it's nice to see YOU back for one thing! Lots of people are put off by the new booking panel changes, I think. That's when pros really started dropping off, and maybe the clients think they have to add banking info or something (they don't). There's also quite a few positive voices disappearing from the forums as well, but I think it's been going on now for well over the past 6 months. In other cases where people are getting banned for "a lot less" than misconduct, I truly wonder in such cases if the entire truth is being told, or people are just fabricating details to make it seem like "Big Cuddle" wronged them.
One of my favorite pros was banned as well. She was amazing, sucks to see her gone. I wonder what happened to her...
Aww, Hi Catloaf I never really left, It's just been slow on here so I'm not quite as active. I still check my inbox every day though.
I agree, Catloaf. I've had multiple clients say that they're uncomfortable with the new system. I'm not really sure why they're uncomfortable when they're not the ones that have to put their card information up on the site.
I feel like people are just fabricating details.... I've had plenty of men message me and make it really clear that they wanted more than just cuddling. I told one guy that I wouldn't be able to go to the hot tub with him since I didn't have a bathing suit with me and he responded by telling me that it was fine, I didn't need a bathing suit to go in the hot tub with him. So... I've had plenty of guys like that. Men that make it pretty clear they want sex (or close to it) with out out right saying "can we have sex?".... Prostitutes and their clients on here have gotten good about using code words. Luckily, SoulCuddles has been GREAT about banning people like this. He's a few steps ahead of them and he doesn't hesitate to ban people that imply they're looking for something non-platonic. I feel like a lot of these men just come back on with fake profiles though, and try to argue their case and pretend like they were just misunderstood by the pro that reported them. I just find it upsetting when my regular, trusted clients drop off the site out of no where. I've been looking back at my old posts to see who I should message next time I go to the bay area, and half the people I've done sessions with have either deleted their accounts or been banned.
@YoshiSkySun Lindy is one of the ones I was referring to. She sent me a screen shot of what transpired. She was trying to cut off a sexually aggressive guy and her words were misinterpreted. No one responded to her after she went through the proper channels. Yes, she is totally awesome. Luckily I have her phone number. It is CC’s loss—she is the queen of LA/Long Beach.
Aww, too bad
Hmm---
@YoshiSkySun
She isn't gone, see pic I borrowed minutes ago
There are numerous 'holier than thou' nonprofessionals on this site. These fragile personalities see their role as policing everything from A to Z. Men are guilty until proven innocent, a chance they are rarely given.
Nothing is ever said to the women who openly say they are looking for a new Mr. Right. Secondary pictures with cleavage don't get removed. Dozens of millennials wear their sexual orientation on their sleeves. Why do we need to know you feel pansexual, sapiosexual, demisexual, asexual, gender queer, cis and on an on. This doesn't matter on a true cuddle site.
MOD: Comment removed. (EDIT 27 APR 2019 20:12 EDT) Image was not doctored. Still, we have an ongoing problem with select actors creating multiple accounts to harass other members. Will not be tolerated. Banned. [SoulcuddlerZ]
"dozens of millenials wear their sexual orientation on their sleeves".... Umm, what were you saying about 'holier than thou' vibes again? Take the sexism and homophobia to another site. Thanks.
Noted your comments above and wanted to offer some feedback from a male perspective. First, we are all pigs, some just hide it better. A famous comedian once said, "a man is only as faithful (or platonic) as his options." Second, sex is on our mind 24/7, if there was a 25th, it would be 25/7. Your essay is well written, thoughtful and sensitive. But note that we don't read the essays, we just look at the pics. You are very attractive and your pics are lovely. However, to a guy's mind and eyes, 5 of the 7 (4 & 7 are the exceptions) "telegraph" sex. Pic #5 gives the illusion of nudity although it appears to be a close-cropped version of another pic. Also, the various extended cuddle options, including 24-hour sessions telegraph the possibility of sex. None of the above shame or to suggest any deliberate intent on your part or that you are doing anything "wrong." You could wear a burka and still get inappropriate requests. I'm sure you are a fine person and cuddler. If I were in your area I would contact you for a cuddle. Just offering a different perspective, with a respectful and good-natured spirit and I hope you receive that way.
Roamer, Men will see what they want to see. None of my photos are provocative. I could be wearning jeans and an over sized t shirt and you'd probably still find something sexual about the picture. It doesn't matter what a girl says or doesn't say, or what kind of pictures she posts, if you're looking for sex then you're going to see the possibility of it even when it isn't there. This website drills it into your head that it is PLATONIC. Meaning, if you want a hooker, go to craigslist. The website even asks you to confirm every so often that you understand that this is platonic. We even tell you over and over again that it's platonic. You may be a pig, but, I have cuddled for several men over night without them assuming that they were going to get some.
Why do you think men keep getting banned? This isn't the site for that. There are plenty of sites out there for escorts and their clients. You guys don't need to be trashing our site.
I wish it were otherwise, but it is not possible in our current “culture” to have an open, and honest, discussion about intimacy, sex, gender, roles, power, and desires.
Perhaps one day, but today is not that day.
And this is certainly not that site.
Oh jeez! That ban happened pretty quick! See, this is an example where it wasn't necessarily somebody pushing boundaries, but somebody who clearly didn't need to be here and has the totally wrong mindset. Watch this person come back in a week or two with "The mods are too trigger happy! This is a war on freedom of speech!" I didn't see his account creation date but it sounds like the other troll who was here yesterday trying to soapbox from his profile. Iyiyi.
The forums are hopping along as much as they have the last several years. If you receive messages at all, count yourself lucky.
That said, if you feel forum content is lacking, then write a post about cuddling. A favorite cuddle session. Positive attitudes or behaviors that add to a cuddle session. Someone who influenced you. A cuddler you admire. Someone you admire but haven't cuddled yet. If you're looking to advertise, then write in the professional cuddling thread. You've got choices.
Wow. I am shocked at how other men label all men as pigs because they are unable to control their own biological impulses. I see that as the Adolf impulse—those that know they are doing something beyond the scope of a group but try to normalize it via organizing group think. You know at some point little Adolf went around saying “We would be better off without Jews...certainly as a German you feel this way as well.” Normalizing bad intentions are how bad actions come about.
Lindy is back. Kudos to CC for reinstating her. She was so depressed when she was banned. She is a very honest and up front individual and I am glad she got back on.
You didn't know? Thanos snapped his fingers and half of all living creatures left the Earth.
Thought this was common knowledge...
My Dad just got banned for "suspicion" of using a VPN. Anyone with any security awareness SHOULD use one, especially on a Smartphone. What makes this even more ludicrous is that you CAN'T use a VPN. It errors out when you try to logon.
He is accused of doctoring a picture which was simply a screenshot of what that Adventurous member used.
@kiera Why not explain why that orientation information is relevant, rather than your knee jerk charge.
Everyone is in favor of free speech, as long as they agree with it. Differ, and you're racist, homophobic etc. Try a rational argument
@MissAdventurous are you seriously claiming that the picture was doctored and not exactly as you posted it? I am NOT saying you are not platonic, just that enforcement of standards is uneven at best. Will send privately
Whether out of embarrassment or guilt, MissA chose to block me rather than respond. This place is destined to go the way of myspace