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Yes, erotic feelings might happen. Acknowledge them and let them go. They're not part of cuddling as sought after here. In that situation, make sure you do not 'poke' her, just slide away a bit and say you need some space, and wait till it's gone.
Be honest, let her know that might happen, and slide a pillow between the two of you when you are the big spoon. Best of luck.
This subject has been discussed to death multiple times. Look up the topic in the FAQs.
Oh yay one of these threads ...
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( sigh). ... another one of those threads ..
Nope. Members come and go , and not always reading the archives , even if they do they might want to render a fresh opinion , or ask something a different way . If you don’t like what’s posted , don’t read it , and move on .
I think we all know members come and go and they may not be aware of the other threads on wood. However, I think boner fatigue sets in after you have been a CC member (pun intended) for awhile. That fatigue can be attributed to some of the thread starters being a bit disingenuous and creating the threads for anticipated shock effect or an advertisement for their ability to pump blood to their nether regions.
You just firmed up ( pun intended) what I was saying about fresh opinions on the subject . Perhaps your contribution will arouse ( another pun) more comments
1) Big spoon... lower hand between bodies, hand over the 'offending' area... Upper hand around person...
2) When I have a guy big spoon me and he gets an erection, I just take it as a compliment. As long as that's as far as it goes. It's natural.
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Awesome tips @Dante_S And I see I'm late to the party to post the famed "oh great it's this thread again" image but as usual @pmvines beats me to the boner threads. 😆
Some of you guys are so fixated on erections that when you went to the toy store as kids—and maybe you still do—you snickered when you went by the Erector sets.
I know I did! 😁
I think women know men get erections. I would advise you to take a sex education class to answer any other questions you have. Best of luck.
@boomerang86 shhhhh🤫 That was top secret information
If one is truly worried about this scenario, then I’d recommend looking into a jugum penis. It was a device conceived by the Victorians to deter erections.
@hogboblin: That looks like it would work—but it also looks like it might undo all the good of a cuddle. Not very relaxing, that....
@DarrenWalker
While I’m not an expert on the matter, I’d recommend anyone taking my advice and obtaining (or making) a jugum penis to do the following:
Wear it for at least a month prior to cuddling. This way, you’ll become familiar with the thing, and the dread of having your engorged member impaled by little spikes won’t be at the forefront of your mind whilst cuddling.
Desperate times, desperate measures.
You shouldn't feel guilty about it but its your responsibility not the partner's.I'm sure they've seen it all, so as long as you're not seeking gratification forget about it and leave it alone.
Tape it down. Not joking - that's the best way to conceal it. Strap that sucker to your leg beforehand. Electrical tape is the most comfortable.
That should be a secondary line of defense, though. The primary is control over your thoughts. The first time you ever cuddle is maybe excusable since you might yourself be surprised by the reaction, but times after that you should be in control enough to not have that sorts of thoughts.
If you have an erection, then you are sexualizing the situation somewhere in your mind. No matter how close my dentist or my barber or relatives get to me that doesn't happen. It is purely the result of sexual thoughts. Stop those and the problem goes away.
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I'm glad we can straighten these things out in the forum. No point in learning things the hard way!
I see what you did there @Snowbound
Sometimes an erection just happens (I imagine. Don't have a penis, but from what I have been told), and there is no need to give it much credence. Just the body's automatic response to physical touch. Doesn't mean you are necessarily sexually turned on by the person in your proximity or need to feel obligated to 'follow through'. Sometimes nipples become hard when exposed to cold temperatures, or emotionally touching music, etc. Is it physically arousing? Yes, usually. Does it make the mind wander? Yes, a bit. Can one distract oneself? Yes. Most of us are adults. We have been dealing with our physical bodies and their automatic responses for some time now probably. Let's move along. Shall we? Shift positions. Turn over. Get up and get some water. And if the thought of this happening is too embarrassing or overwhelming to you? Well maybe you aren't ready to cuddle just yet.
@SJSpooner "Sometimes an erection just happens (I imagine. Don't have a penis, but from what I have been told)".
I'll tell you the truth now: they were making an excuse! It doesn't just happen unless you've just woken up. It is a virtual certainty that if it happens, the dude has thought sexualized thoughts or felt sexualized feelings
Guarantee 100% that no dude is cuddling with anyone packing a Hardy Boy and he doesn't have something sexual in his brain
@SJSpooner My nipples become hard when I eat top ramen! Sorry, something about boner threads brings out the teenager in me
Honestly, guys keep getting embarrassed and apologizing for having them after sessions are over, but I have not actually noticed them at all during sessions.... Guys may be more hung up on this issue than women.
Lol, raindropsweetie. I imagine that is pretty emasculating for them to hear! That it is so small you didn’t even notice 😂
@hogboblin That contraption definitely could decapitate the Bishop. I am sure altar boys everywhere are giving them as gifts to the clergy.
Yikes, haha. I don't mean it that way, and I certainly wouldn't know! Maybe it's just because I'm not specifically trying to see if one is there or something? Only guys would know. It doesn't even occur to me to think about them during sessions.
Guys may be more hung up on this issue than women.
Now I have to think really long and hard about who has the best boner pun in this thread. @RaindropSweetie I don't know if that was intentional or not but here's a gold star.
For awhile this thread was throbbing with comments ,but now the discussion became flaccid