The options you have listed don’t apply to the whole community
looking at the poll results, it is a shame and a travesty that at least 10% of the people joined this site just for shits and giggles.
I along with others have been called "Transphobes" or "Homophobes" for not wanting to cuddle with Transexuals or Men. I've also seen numerous people getting attacked for wanting to cuddle with people of the opposite sex they find attractive. If you say there isn't an underlying hostility towards these preferences you wouldn't be being honest.
@ Catloaf, the only men I hear calling their female friends "Girlfriend" are homosexual men. No heterosexual man uses that term to refer to their female friends.They are just friends.
@FunCartel do you really think most of the pros use the site to set up meetings? when they can just exchange direct information with the potential client and set up everything off site, where they get 100% of the rates they charge?
Getting back to the OP's topic, I guess I'm just lucky. I've seen several posts where people have problems finding Pros and Non-pros to cuddle with. I'm pleasantly surprised that I haven't had those issues. I'm a middle age, fat, bald, black guy, and I honestly didn't think this site would be a good fit for me. I gave it a try and my experiences have been positive.
Right @Kense but I'm confused as to where that correlates with "hating sex". I'm sorry people felt it appropriate to give you those labels just for having a preference. I'm sure there are people who would like to cuddle those of the opposite sex without any underlying motive. At the same time, I feel like this number is probably very small in comparison to those who are looking to get as close as they can to a sexual scenario. That's just based on the amount of complaints I see and hear though.
I based my comments around reading the forums and the questions posted and attacks on random people for asking certain questions. Look at the full-body picture thread and it's "why, why do you need to see their body this is a platonic site why why why". Well, there are many reasons for wanting a full body picture that has absolutely nothing to do with being sexual. That's just one example of many that I've seen on here when people have a certain request. It's always assumed to be a negative sexual reason.
Of course, you have some people on here using the site to get "Dates" but the jumping to conclusions assuming somebody might be a trick or prostitute is weird.
@Kense
Look at the full-body picture thread and it's "why, why do you need to see their body this is a platonic site why why why". Well, there are many reasons for wanting a full body picture that has absolutely nothing to do with being sexual.
I agree. I will mention another perspective about that thread though. Those who commented not in favour of full body photos take more offense to the style of delivery than the request itself. Of course, those of us who are professional would kindly decline if we felt someone was jumping too many steps ahead. Similarly body size is a valid preference. It's all about 'why' though, and we never want the answer to be "I'm going to break the site rules by pursuing sex" ...and at least for me and a few others, we've experienced odd behaviour or boundary pushing with those who stressed this question. It doesn't make each request bad, though. You need to weigh it against how they act and what else they say before they go to your blacklist.
@Kense i don't really see it as hating sex or hating on people who like it . It's just that this is a platonic cuddle site geared toward people finding cuddle partners without the sex part . It's not that folks hate sex it's just not what the site is about . I like sex , There are people in my life who I can do that with as often as we like. However that's not what I'm looking for in a platonic cuddle buddy who I meet on this site . It's not my intent nor is the context of why I am here. So therefore when I hear folks interjecting things that are more applied to a romantic or sex partner on here , I might counter with well that's not why most people are here. I would imagine others are the same and react the same . Also since this is a platonic cuddle site sure , there will be a fair share of asexuals and people who generally have no interest in dating or sex for whatever reason . Also don't forget the multitide of women who have had it with being sexualized and hit on and truly need a platonic cuddle pal . Everyone is entitled to have a thought on it and a reason to be here so long as they aren't breaking the TOS. They don't affect you or what you do. I recommend trying to not allow yourself be bothered to the point of debate by it as it seems to really be a point of stress for you based on your forum posts in this thread and others. Different strokes . Not super important in the grand scheme of life .
@phenom_xm yes, most do use the site because if caught dodging the site they will incur a permanent ban.
I have noticed the same thing. I've been on here a few months. Just moved to a major metro area but there are only 2 women who have been on the site within the last 4 months.
The concept is great but if people are really connecting with each other and having good experiences than why aren't there more people consistently using the site? There must be something lacking or something blocking people from making this work.
I am curious what the female perspective is....are you bombarded with messages, friend requests? do you find that lots of people are viewing your profile?
Thanks for your feedback!
@sdcuddler92020 I would think that would be self-evident if you read enough threads on the forum. Women are constantly trying to fend off unwanted sexual advances. As @SoulcuddlerZ said in one thread, what happens between two consenting adults is one thing and they cannot control that but soliciting or attempting to initiate sex without consent is another. At least that was the gist. The site is intended to be platonic but I think in some respects it is an awfully big chore to ensure that it is from the sounds of it. At any rate, that is the big reason—boundary pushing.
It’s legit I didn’t start cuddling until last year though I’ve been a member for years I lurked because I was scared to meet ppl then one day I said what the heck and decided to go for it I haven’t had any bad actual cuddles now I do know in some areas there just may not be a lot of people I’ve tried to reach out and cuddle with girls but they don’t respond some people are looking for a specifics cuddle experience and if they don’t think they can be comfortable with you they may not choose I’ve been ignored by guys too with any hobby you have to put forth effort for 10 no’s there could be 1 yes
Yeah. I thought this site was the greatest idea out there. I was really excited too cause it was exactly what I needed, but it's not easy at all. I've been on an off this site for years and still yet to find a cuddle buddy. I would have to travel at least 100 miles and would only be a short session of an hour, or two. I know in my town, there are people everywhere that just need a touch of another person and I would love to be that person to be available, but they are not aware that there is a thing that you can just cuddle someone without making things complicated. It's kinda sad cause it would help people with feeling happier. The feeling you get from it is like a form of therapy that i think is good for the mind and body. It would be nice if he site had more traction, cause not everyone is looking to date.