Why is it creepy? unless you're making some assumption about why one of them is doing it I don't see that as creepy. Would you think it was creepy for a younger man to cuddle with an older woman? or an older woman with a younger woman/older man with younger man? people form emotional bonds with others that have a big age difference with them all the time with nothing going on aside from that so I don't understand why it's somehow inherently bad because of the age.
If you view it through a sexual lens, then I can see why someone would think it's creepy. If you open the mind a little bit, and if someone is capable of taking a different role with someone younger (father, grandfather, relative) then there is no room for interpretation of it being creepy. Diff'rent strokes, I guess. Our perception is often coloured by experience, and this statement leads me to believe you've probably never had a cuddle where you dropped all superficial barriers such as age, height, weight etc. We all have our boundaries as to what we are comfortable with, but to generalise is never healthy.
I think something important here is the idea of truly platonic Cuddling. In my limited experience, I have had connections with Men who are 30 during a Cuddle pile, Women who are 75, Women who are 24, a Trans Woman in her 30's and a whole pile of adults of different races weights, gender identities and so forth. Once the boundary of it being platonic is really set, once everyone is encouraged to use their no, it can be a really freeing way to connect across many barriers that we face in today's society. Yes, are there people who may be predatory in looking for younger women, sure, but I think that's assuming that everyone wants to be sexual. I recently had a 70 year old man say he really misses touch and feels that he is looked at as repulsive, and at the party he was asked to cuddle by a woman in her mid-to late 20's, is that creepy? They spent hours together talking, sometimes in silence really building a bond. In a cuddle, from my experience with both pros and non pros of varying ages, is that really taking sex out of the equation, and really connecting, age can fall away. But for me, I am not comfortable being 42 actively looking for a cuddle with someone too young, but if its at a party of people who have all been in the same group for months, and everyone has built a sense of community and safety with each other, then I may feel more at ease.
@yogig77 has got it spot on. What he said 😉 Our society connects touch and connection with sex and relationships, but once you learn to feel those things platonically, you realize that is really what we are missing in our life (most people). Connection is magic and fixes many ailments 😉
Also want to point out that I'm pretty sure @Tallandshyguy meant to say "I try NOT to meet anyone under 25 or over 50." 😉 Very different statement...
Appreciation of people as a whole and the unique individuality of each person is much higher of an importance here compared to someone's age. 💙
You know who I don't like to cuddle? You know what I think is pointless and gross?
Judgmental and assumptual types who can only gather based on something as superficial and basic, as age.
Have boundaries, if needed, as we all have comfort zones for who we cuddle, but don't go down some rabbit hole of thinking you know why people do what they do and degrade others. Stay in your own lane and just enjoy what works for you. 🙌🏻
@MissAdventurous You are Jeffery Epstein’s kind of girl!! Age does not matter to him either!
@HugsAndAttitude So, someone said something that's very neutral and rooted in their personal truth. Now you're making a joke that they'd be great fodder for a sexual predator who harmed underage girls? That's taking it quite far.
Another forum thread veering toward certain closure.
No age preference for me. Having said that, I have noticed that younger women tend to be more open and flexible as I enjoy incorporating partner yoga into the cuddle. Age-enhanced women seem to be more at ease and self-assured, which projects a nice energy for the cuddle. Two kind, decent people can always have a good cuddle!
@roamer1999 “Age-enhanced”—I love that term. They sell everything to us age-enhanced people as enhanced—skin enhancers, sexual enhancers, volume enhancers, etc. Why is everything enhanced as you get older even as everything is falling apart??
It is because growing old is a cosmic joke! I think growing old is the punchline for every mean joke you made about your elders when you were young. I know there is some omnipotent ethereal stand-up comedian delivering me as a laugh daily. Either that or every star in the sky is a voodoo doll of someone over 50 and some sick galaxy traveling sadist stops every once and awhile and sticks a needle in.
I think @HugsAndAttitude has used the word creepy too many times in this thread. There should be a limit.
@melancholy Doesn't matter now since dude is banned. Hopefully this thread gets back on track. Looking forward to reading more opinions from others.
@HugsAndAttitude appears to be banned. Too creepy for the forums I suppose.
I only Cuddle younger women.
I definitely feel that my age makes women feel that I’m looking for “more than a cuddle”, which is actually the total opposite. Since I’m young (and act young/ do “young people stuff”) I have pretty good non-platonic relationships with women already in my life - and sometimes I need someone that doesn’t know me, my problems , my friends ... just so we can cuddle. And forget everything else around me.
So long as it's legal, age doesn't matter.
Age does not matter to me. Half the men I've cuddled have been older than I am, half have been younger. For whatever reason, the older ones have been more problematic. One suggested naked cuddling, one wanted to kiss me and when I said that violates the rules his response was, "Well, then I'm not interested." One got into very aggressive cuddling and heavy breathing. I still wouldn't hold it against any future older guys.
@triskele "I don't mind cuddling older people, but I find that the older a client is, the more resistant they are to respecting my boundaries and keeping things platonic."
I've found that, too, and I'm 66 years old and had very explicit conversations with them about what my intentions were, boundaries, etc., and they still pushed them. It's frustrating.
Age does matter to me to an extent. Someone close enough to my own age or a bit older. I want to be able to relate to the other person's upbringing (grew up with Internet, same societal and political context, and so on). Also I wouldn't trust younger men's hormones to not push my boundaries. This is the last thing I need. I'm 26. I'm usually looking for men between 30-45 and women can be a bit younger so 25-45. That being said, exceptions might happen, I'm not closed to the idea.
I do not care for age in choosing a cuddle partner. What matters most to me is to the respectful mindful awareness they bring to the session. The self respect they show to their personal hygiene, my time and the communicated boundaries we share in that space. Finally the passion to enjoy and learn from the cuddle experience. You could be 20 or 80 and exhibit any of the aforementioned qualities.
I don’t have an age limit at all. I don’t find it weird at all for a 55 year old man to cuddle with a 22 years old female pro cuddles. I am around that age and a pro and have cuddled men 15-35 years older than me.
I’m an old soul so not only do I think it’s normal but whenever we have conversations, they can share knowledge with me about life and intellectual conversations that I wouldn’t normally get from people my age.
Even if I wasn’t a pro and was an enthusiast, I would still cuddle men much older than me. I don’t see why not.
I try to keep in mind that it’s just a cuddle. So, ultimately age - as in approaching pensioners status - really shouldn’t matter to someone in my age range. And, it doesn’t. In fact, my preferred pro at this site is 19 years younger than me. Normally, I would NEVER have gone anywhere near someone at that age or younger. I really wouldn’t. Just a personal preference. But, she’s turned out to be a REALLY amazing person whom I would’ve missed completely, had I not widened my search terms in that category. Again, it’s just cuddling, not dating, and I’d TOTALLY be down to cuddle with someone awesome who’s older than me, too.
To me, age isn't a factor while cuddling. I look more for compatibility. I'm 60 and cuddle with woman of all age ranges. If I like the woman, her personality, cuddling style, and we can position ourselves well, it works for me. I also like a woman who talks to me, makes me feel comfortable while cuddling and accepts me as her cuddling partner.
That is what counts to me!!!
It doesn't matter to me although I've found cuddling with older men (40s 50s and 60s) to be more rewarding as they've been more intimate and intuned to the human body, providing excellent platonic comfort. As long as the cuddling is mutually agreed upon age is just a number. ☺
@RTL1970 and @Lev136 I totally agree with you two ☺🤗
Every time anyone asks this question (and it's been asked many times), almost everyone that replies says "it doesn't matter to me". However, obviously it matters to a lot of people because they specify an age range. For instance, of the twelve female cuddlers currently displayed in my 'new cuddlers' banner, seven specify an age range.
@UKGuy . we all have age ranges but if you look at many of us, myself included, we have a broad age range., which starts in the twenties and goes up further toward my age.......I'm 60 years old......again, I c are more about compatibility than age.
@Babichev , it really depends on the person. I'm 60 and dont' push boundaries and respect all boundaries that women have put forth to me. I don't expect sex, or even try to kiss the woman. Just a nice cuddle session works for me.
Younger the better
I've cuddled younger men who were respectful and who were inappropriate, and I've cuddled older men who were respectful and who were inappropriate. For me, respectful vs inappropriate behavior has not been tied to age.
I do, however, feel that my age (50) hinders me from getting cuddle requests from older and younger men. I could easily lie but I really don't want to start out the cuddle process on a lie. Age shouldn't matter if you are kind, respectful and a great cuddle/have good karma.